Month: December 2020

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https://www.irishexaminer.com/lifestyle/relationships/arid-40187673.html?fbclid=IwAR1-F8K4MU_9CBzm620t3F0-mnnjzXUS-0Mnt1RZrNk0qu6VCUl0Ip4FWaE

Last night this Chorale group had a virtual concert on YouTube and it was AMAZING! I’ll post the link. Watching it, I sang, I laughed, I cried, and it really put my in the Christmas spirit! It was just beautiful!

The link is good through the early part of January, so make sure you watch it!

Enjoy!

Keith and ex wife #1, Jean, were married 11/26/1969. Their son, Rich, was born 25 days later. About two and a half years later, their daughter, Dani was born, in July 1972. Jean started divorce proceedings in July 1977, and they were divorced by May 1978.

Keith and ex wife #2, Denise, were married 6/2/1984. Their son, Rob, was born 3 months and 3 days later. A little more than 2 and a half years later, their daughter, Lizzy, was born in June 1987. Keith had shared with me that their marriage had its good moments, but he realized early on there was something “not right” with Denise. He said that if it wasn’t for the kids, he would never have married her. They separated August 1989, and their divorce was final 11/29/1990.

I had known the sister of Keith’s ex wife #3, Melissa. I had met Melissa through Keith as they lived with my sister and her family for a time. Keith and Melissa had been together since he moved to the metro LA Basin in 1989. They got married at my sister’s house in November 1993. My significant other, Joe, and I attended their wedding, with our daughter who was 3 months old.

In the Spring of 1994, I moved in with my sister as well. I made the decision to take our daughter and leave Joe after I found out he was cheating on me. It seemed like things weren’t going well between the recently married couple either. Melissa wanted to move to Florida to be near her family and Keith was not interested in that at all. He had told me that he was far enough away from his kids as it was with them being in WA State and he in CA, and that moving to FL was going to put him further away from them. He wasn’t going to do that. Melissa has become resentful and was talking stupid, even at one point telling ME that if she ever found out that my sister and Keith were having an affair, she would “k&ll her before the disease did.” My sister was very sick, plus she was also married! How crazy that Melissa would have THAT thought and not believe that Keith’s decision not to go with her was truly about his kids and nothing else. Melissa left sometime between early March and May of 1994.

Keith and I started dating in the summer of 1994. His wife left him to the “Land of Milk and Honey” as he would call it, he had no plans to follow her to Florida and I was single with an infant. He filed for divorce and we became engaged on my birthday, in 1995. Keith and I were married 5/18/1996. He was raising my daughter as his own. He had told me when were dating that we would never go anywhere that she could not go with us. He was the only Daddy she had known. Our son was born 5/22/1997. He was a planned c-section since my daughter had been an emergency c-section in August 1993. While I LOVED being pregnant, pregnancies were hard on me.

Keith and I didn’t separate. We didn’t divorce. I was always thankful that he survived his tour in Vietnam and 3 divorces to get to me. He loved me last, and lived the rest of his life with me. I will ALWAYS feel blessed and thankful for that.

I met my late husband in 1992, when he was living with my sister and her husband. We didn’t start dating until 1994, due to prior commitments, but I always knew we would get married.

When I was free, my baby daughter and I moved in with my sister in March of 1994, in fact, it was my birthday weekend. Keith and I started dating seriously, the summer of 1994. My daughter started talking and immediately started calling Keith “Dada.” I would correct her and say, “No Sarah, That’s Keith.” Eventually, Keith told me, “Don’t correct her. If she wants to call me Daddy, let her.” Amazing. Keith knew that her biological father was not in her life, and HE wanted to take up that torch.

I knew Keith had been married a few times. When telling his/our story, I’ll be referring to his ex wives as Ex Wife #1 and Ex wife #2. I knew he had two kids with ex wife #1, and he had two kids with ex wife #2.

In 1994, his two older kids with ex wife #1 were already young adults when I came into the picture, oldest son was going to be 25 and oldest daughter was going to be 22, and she had a son of her own. These two kids and I were cordial to each other. Their relationship with their Dad was what it was already, before I came into the picture. They saw each other when they saw each other. I never questioned it.

In 1994, his middle two kids with ex wife #2 were minors. Their son was going to be 10 and their daughter was 7. It is the mother of these two that we had all the trouble with, literally, from the time she knew I was in the picture until 3 months after he died, but I’ll get to that as time goes on.

To be continued…..

CLICK–> https://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2020/12/when-a-child-is-a-weapon/616931/

“KELLY: One fascinating and horrifying takeaway from all this, for me, reading your article, Barb, was how much in the end this actually isn’t about the kids. It is – it’s two parents who often are divorcing, and one just decides, I’m going to destroy the other, and I’m going to use the kids to do it.”

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https://www.npr.org/2020/12/03/942345205/parental-alienation-how-parents-use-their-children-as-weapons?fbclid=IwAR2pdIN7ockeC_d3erQmBtkns8KKI8D8KOKMlFC2aaNtDqdMMTX9afv3HVs

Hi, Patricia here, aka “PisceanGal”. I am starting this blog because I always said I wanted to write a book on what my late husband and I went through dealing with Parental Alienation and all that comes and goes with it. A friend suggested I start a blog, “seriously.”

I am blogging publicly because maybe my experience can help someone else who is going through the same thing I did.

I’ll be sharing stories of my experience, and I will be telling HIS story as well.

I am a big believer in Father’s Rights, I dislike Parental Alienation, and I believe the Courts should acknowledge when PA is introduced with proof, in a divorce/custodial case.

Of course, my past doesn’t define me, it’s just a part of me. Having said that, I will be posting about my life now and what’s going on in it.

I have always believed that journaling is very cathartic.

Thank you for visiting my blog and enjoy!

Make sure to comment on anything you so choose.

P~