Ex emailed this morning at 7:55 am.

Subject: Insurance

She listed 6 items, and states:

2. Your accusations that I have done something is totally WRONG as you are most of the time when it comes to your kids. I have given all new medical and dental information to each of my providers as I have used their services. I can only pass on the information to the providers I can’t stan there and make sure they process it correctly. The insurance companies have all been given the proper information and if they also do not process it correctly that is no fault of mine. I unlike you don’t have the time and energy to waste on making the world a perfect place. I can’t make people process my insurance information correctly. I give it to them and wait and see if the claims go through properly.

3. As far as dealing with my insurance company is exactly that my insurance company and you have no right or no authority and certainly do not have my permission to access my insurance companies for any reason.

5. There is no reason for you to provide my insurance information to my providers. I can take care of that if there is a problem. You seem to be the only one who knows there is a problem.

6. Yes very much harassment. My insurance, my providers are not your concern. If there is a problem forward the information to me and I will take care of it.

Like I told you on the phone I have no reason not to use all insurance coverage available to both of us. I will not use the insurance companies for a free ride though. I am taking care of (SS and SD) and I will continue to do so with the best providers I can find, regardless of cost. It is not about cheap service, but quality care.

You are not entitled to anything regarding my insurance. I will press charges if you continue to invade my privacy and harass my providers and myself. You take care of yourself and your nosy wife and kids and let me take care of my insurance and my doctors and dentists.

There was no reason for your embarrassing actions.


The ex seems to be under the impression we are calling for the status of claims for HER. No. Since Keith has to pay one half of uncovered medical claims, he CAN call, or authorize me as his agent, to call for the status of a claim that’s been submitted regarding the kids.

Besides, what’s she bitching for? She’s called HIS insurance for one reason or another, AND she also had information CHANGED in his insurance file.

Apology Letter

SO I sent that provider the ex talked about last night, an apology letter.

RE: Fax I sent on 9-11-00 /Letter of Apology

Dear (Lady’s name),

Last night, at approximately 710pm, (the ex) called my home to speak to my husband about that fax I sent you on 9-11-00, in regards to (ex’s) NEW secondary insurance information I gave you.

It was conveyed to me that PER (EX), you were “VERY concerned and confused by the fax” and “VERY, VERY upset by it.” It was also conveyed to me that per (EX) you advised her that you “did not want to stir up anything, ” you ” did not want her to call me” and you “did not want to start any arguments.” I was informed that (EX) told you that “it was no big deal.” (apparently it was a big deal after all.)

As I had explained to you in the fax, my reason, the reason for the fax was simply because I had been in the process of updating EVERYONE involved, including BOTH insurance companies of NEW information. ( I advised our insurance of Ex’s new coverage and Ex’s insurance of our PRIMARY coverage on SS and SD.) as well as our providers and hers. I was doing something that needed to be done, that hadn’t been done as of that date.

Please accept my sincere apologies for ANY inconvenience the fax caused you while conducting necessary business, and ESPECIALLY for upsetting you as badly as EX stated you were. Thank you.

Patricia (last name)

(phone number)

She Knows

The ex called Keith at 7:10pm. She was pissed. She told Keith that she got a call from her provider of service “regarding a fax your wife sent.” I sent the fax to one employee, but another employee allegedly called.

Ex told Keith she has no pending claims. The kids hadn’t been seen since April and it is now September. She said she doesn’t need some person in LA to fax her doctors her insurance information.

She said,

J- Speak to your wife and tell herto keep her nose out of my personal business. Maybe she’d like to OWN my kids. Is she bored? Does she not have time to (inaudible) her kids?

K- don’t start!

J- She would be very offended if I did the same to her if I found out who her kids doctor is.

Huh? That makes no sense. SHE and I don’t have kids together. THAT would be an invasion of privacy.

She told Keith that

J- (the office lady) was VERY upset, VERY upset. She said “I don’t want to stir up anything I don’t want you to call her, I don’t want to start no argument, I just don’t wanna….” and I go, “look lady, It’s no big deal” you know I don’t know what to tell her to reassure her in her place of business that somebody was trying to do something that they shouldn’t be doing. She was embarrassed, it’s harassment. I wasn’t even going to call, but I felt so violated.


EOB’s and 2ndary Insurance

Today, we received two EOB’s, one for each child. I sent two faxes. Apparently the ex hasn’t updated her providers with her insurance. I faxed the EOB’s to their provider of service with the ex’s new insurance coverage, and I faxed our insurance information to the ex’s new insurance since it seems she did not let them know there was primary coverage.

I don’t get it. When you sign up with a new insurance, they ask about other insurance coverage. How it is that provider’s of service and 2ndary insurance doesn’t know her new coverage?

That’s a rhetorical question. I already know.