The ex emailed at 07:32am this morning. She said, “Richard, A 14 year-old who is unhappy can and will throw hissy fits, but is a lot more mature than a 35 year old who stops speaking to children for days on end. Or an adult who gets mad because of the teenagers decision and then treats her bad for the days she is there. Come on, act your age not your shoe size. This message was uncalled for. The airfare with no specials, no extras for both is $682.00 roundtrip from Spokane to San Diego and then from Los Angeles to Spokane. This is the worse case scenario, and your half is simply $341.00 Get ready to pay.”

Gee, wonder who and what she’s talking about…. <eyeroll> She’s also pissed that Keith just won’t send her money for his share of airfare at her word. AS IF… LOL

Summer Visitation

Ex thinks that all she has to do is tell Keith how much airfare is and he is just supposed to send the money. That’s not how this works. Even after ALL these years, she still doesn’t “get it.”

She wrote him at 06:58am saying that she would pay for their tickets down, “whichever way it comes out in the wash. Whether I pay for two down and you pay for two back or if I buy one round trip ticket and you buy the other isn’t the same result achieved.

Ok so I am buying tickets by the 10th of June, please have your half of the airfare ready. Of course depending on if both (son) and (daughter) visit or just one. If only one visits then you only have to come up with half of one ticket.

Plenty of notice, 21 days of notice for advance purchase.

When, if and how long the kids visit with you is up to them. I can’t force them to see you or stay with you. (her name).”

Keith emailed her back at 7:37am this morning and told her, “you make arrangements, and tell me the confirmation number, what the price is from WA on July 6th back to WA on Aug 24th from LA, and after all the “special deals” are made then THAT is what I split.

When you tell me who is coming, when and for how long, EXACTLY, I will send my payment. I am NOT going to play this game where all the arrangements are set and I have to change plans because one of both of them has a little hissy fit and wants to go home early.”

So, NO, the same result isn’t achieved. If she were to buy round trip tickets down, she could use the kids mileage points to get a discount on the tickets, while telling Keith he has to pay for the trip home at a much higher price.

She really thinks he’s stupid.

Keith’s Response

In his 10:10am response to his ex’s email yesterday, Keith wrote her back. He said, “If (SON) wants to know anything or discuss anything with me, he is more than welcome to call me, ANYTIME.

Not only is this NOT about you, I also do not care about how this affects YOU, or what YOUR feelings are about the situation or me. This should be no surprise to you. What you think of me is no surprise to me. Keith”

Stepson’s Graduation

As with any company, SENIORITY is how vacations are settled. Those with more seniority get the best times. Keith was “low man on the seniority list” at his office/company, even after 12 years. He put in for vacation when his son was graduating, and did not get approved. June is a BIG month for people to take their vacations, especially if they have kids or relatives graduating.

The ex emailed Keith this morning at 9:19am telling him how she felt about it.

She didn’t even address him by any name she calls him, she just started writing. She said,
“After thinking about this for the last couple of days, I realize how disappointed I am.

First of all you have know the (son) was going to graduate since at least last year. (if not his whole life) and I am sure that as soon as school started you received notices of the dates.

Not only did the school notify you but I did as well during the summer of 2021.

For you to say now in May that you cannot attend graduation due to time off or expenses is a sorry excuse.

This was not a sudden situation or happening. You have had ample time to plan and prepare for your son’s graduation.

What you are saying to me and to your son is that he is not important enough for you to be here on his important day.

You are saying that (son) is not important enough to plan for and make time for.

I am sorry you are unable to attend, however the airfare and travel expenses would have been nothing in comparison to letting your son down.

One ticket, one room and one night with (Son) picking you up at the airport. Big deal. His important night is a big deal. too bad you can’t think of our kids with the same importance as your others.

How could you do this?

(her name)

Change of Address

On 5/21/02, I sent Anthony our change of address, since we moved. Attached with it was a letter reminding him of the Medical reimbursement provision from July 1995, along with a copy of the authorization letter to change our daughter’s last name.

Dealing with Keith’s ex has taught me a thing or two. 😉

Anthony received this letter today.


(07:45am email to my stepkids)

“Good morning!

Haven’t written since basketball days, but I hope you guys are well.

Just wanted to let you know, ( or remind you…) that your little brother is the BIG 5 today! Can you believe it? I can’t!

Tonight we are going to have a little party for him, friends and family and it should be fun! He is a nut this morning already!

Got to go, busy morning, busy day! take care.

Love, P~”

Name Change

I wrote Anthony asking for his written approval and authorization for me to legally change our daughters last name to my husbands last name. I attached a very brief statement saying he authorizes me to do so.

I left him my emails and cell/pager numbers.

Silly Lady…

This morning, at 7:08am, the ex struck again. She addressed this one by his first name, Richard, instead of Dick, but I’m sure that’s what she was wanting to write, and most definitely thought.

She writes, “You know I don’t know who you are kidding, but it isn’t me or the kids or anyone else for that matter. And this e-mail proves it along with a rough draft I have in you wife’s writing. ”

Huh? How would she even get her hands on something like that, if it even exists? Probably when she had her kids snooping around, no doubt. ANYWAY…

She says, ” that these and all the other e-mails, correspondence and telephone calls to insurances and providers is not being done by you. In fact, if it was up to you none of this controversy or situations would be happening at all.

The truth as you so stated in this e-mail or tried to make it look like she did something for you. In fact it is pat that is getting into all my business.

She did give birth to our children and had no hand in making them or raising them. She has nothing to do with their being here at all. She has not taken care of or looked after them. So their care or upbringing or visitation is none of her business.

pat has put such a wedge in between richard and his kids and you continue to blame me for your absence.

I did not marry or divorce or have kids with pat so I don’t want anything to do with her. She has no right at all in this situation.

I don’t like her and neither do the kids. We simply put up with her bullshit because you have to.

Restraining orders will be placed if this continues. It none of her damn business what goes on in my life, my kids like or anything to do with us.

Just because you mistakenly married her does not make her anything to us.

Tell her and beware yourself to have her leave me alone. (ex wife’s name).

Again With The False Accusations

Ex wrote Keith a little while ago. Her email of 9:41pm accuses me of trying to get information. She writes, ” I checked with my health care provider, XXX aka XXX. and have found that your wife pat has tried to access medical records, EOB’s and other personal information. ” so she now has “password protected these records and I will continue to call all my providers and place passwords to protect my personal information.”

No one CARES about her personal information. Keith and I don’t anyway. Maybe someone else does, but not us. I can call for the status of claims though and will continue to do so.

ANYWAY, she writes more crap about how he is supposed to handle the EOB’s, as if he/we don’t know.

She goes on to say “I have read all court documents since 1990 and I am not required to carry health insurance on the children. To say the extra expense I will be looking into cancelling the insurance for the kids, or at least reducing the coverage especially if you continue to hassle me over insurance for the kids.

Only a few months left to pay for (son) but there is still three years left with (daughter). Get over your hate now. I have. Just so we are clear on this matter. Do not call the health, vision or dental providers I use to the care of (son) and (daughter) or myself. Continuing to do so will result in my termination of the insurance I carry to help lower costs to both of us.”

WTF? We KNOW by law that she is OBLIGATED to use any and all insurance afforded to her, if she tries to cut the kids off her insurance or even reduce it, out of clear vindictiveness, that would be a matter for counsel to be involved with. (didn’t she recently say I was vindictive? HA, go figure…)

While she lives in WA state, County of San Diego still holds jurisdiction of the divorce papers, and according to what I’ve read, “

When Do Children Have to Be Covered By Insurance?

Parents Covered by Health Insurance

Parents who are covered by health insurance, whether government-sponsored or employer-based, are legally required to make sure that their kids are also covered by that plan. Coverage must last until the children are no longer eligible for insurance protection. When parents are married this is fairly simple to guarantee. When parents get divorced, things can become more complicated.

After a divorce, parents are required to keep their kids on their healthcare plan. Parents may only stop coverage if the premiums and plan become cost prohibitive. California law explains that a plan will be considered “cost-prohibitive” if it exceeds 5 percent of a parent’s gross income.

If parents fail to keep their children covered by health insurance they can face some serious legal consequences. Since health insurance is required by law, shirking this responsibility will be considered a breach of child support obligations. This can result in criminal consequences, civil penalties,  and well as have a negative impact on custodial rights.” How Are Health Insurance Costs Factored Into Child Support? – Fernandez & Karney (

SO, let her try. Contrary to what SHE thinks and believes, Keith has ALWAYS covered the kids except when the company he HAD folded in the early 1990’s, but then he was working for the Post office and had coverage. SHE had gone on welfare for a brief time, and said they covered the kids medical. Keith also paid her money that she didn’t tell welfare about, according to a letter she wrote Keith, but I digress.