Month: March 2003

(sent this email at 1:49pm to stepkids and other family members)

“I forgot who I told what and when, so forgive me if you heard it before. 🙂

Yesterday when I got back to work in the afternoon, I was told that one of the students in Sarah’s class, at lunch time, had thrown a rock (out of anger, but not aiming for Sarah) and it hit her in the head. I was told that the student was suspended for one day, today.

It was bad enough that no one called me to tell me anything, even though Sarah’s friend asked the Principal to call me, the Principal said to just wait and see how she is doing after awhile. GRRR! I was then told that right after it happened, 3 of the kids went to tell their teacher and their teacher said, “Well, I didn’t see it happen” and was planning on doing NOTHING until Sarah proved by showing that she has been hit with the rock and that she was in fact hurt and crying because of the incident! THANK GOD the skin was not broken, but there was definite signs that she had been hit by a rock.

She seemed quiet when I was there yesterday, and last night, she was complaining of a headache, so I have her an ice pak for it and she fell asleep. She got up ok today, then as I was saying goodbye to her, she started complaining that her head was hurting again, so I asked the Principal if she had any children’s motrin. Of course, there wasn’t any, so I told Sarah I would be in touch with her in awhile. My concern was that she jerked her head back from the hit, she pulled a muscle in her neck.

I came home and called her doctor and got her in to be seen. The doc said just keep putting cold paks on a couple of times a day and something for pain and rest. She said that Sarah can rest and relax today and she can go back to school tomorrow. She did say that it could take awhile for the pain to totally go away and that the boy that threw the rock owes her a written apology, and some anger management. She also said that it is normal to have neck pain with an injury like this, but Sarah seems to be moving her head well.

Sarah will be at my neighbors house when I leave to go back to work today. She doesn’t want to go back today. 😦 (My neighbor has already asked her if the rock broke, LOL I had to laugh at that one! Sarah even chuckled! LOL)

I had a meeting with Thomas’s teacher on Monday. She said that she has no plans to hold him back, which makes us happy. She did say though that if he does get held back, it will be in 1st grade. She said she is going to mandatory him to go to summer school, and we think that’s a great idea.

Last night at a reading meeting, we met (indirectly) 3 1st grade teachers. We are not sure how the principal chooses which students she puts with what teachers, but I think I will be talking to the Principal to see who will be the best for him. Keith and I both have different teachers in mind, so if it happens to be either one, that’s fine:-) Thankfully he will still be going to speech therapy come fall. On April 2nd, he is getting an award during their assembly, for MOST IMPROVEMENT! THIS is a secret! 🙂 I got the letter yesterday from the principal, but his teacher told me the other day. We are so excited and proud!

Thomas has an appointment with the GI doctor on Monday the 31st. Since taking him off Milk, he has been doing MUCH better. Then he has 2 appointments on April 11th, one with the audiologist and right after with his ENT doctor to see if he is going to need tubes again, hopefully he won’t need them, but it is possible.

Well, I think this is about all that is new, or old 🙂

Hope all is well with everyone, and until next time, Take care!! P~”

SOS different day, or night.

The ex e-mailed Keith at 1928. Funny how that works. She e-mailed him at his two email addresses.

She’s demanding and accusing him again of more insurance stuff that he already dealt with.

Of course she throws in there, “Due to privacy laws in place I am not and will not call to request a card for (daughter) you have to.” what BS. She has called and requested cards before. In fact, we were told at one point that she requested to have her daughters stuff mailed to her, and NOT to Keith, who is the Insured. She wanted to bypass Keith. So she CAN call to request things, they just won’t be delivered to HER like she wanted.

She also added, I have alerted all our medical, dental and vision as well as pharmacy that I will file a complaint against them for allowing other persons than (daughter’s) parents access to her information or allowing them to even call and inquire or give information. The only persons allowed to gain information according to the new privacy laws are (daughter’s) parent’s. Not step- parents.”

LMAO, I can call our insurance and inquire the status of something, and if I have questions regarding an EOB, I can call our insurance about that too.

The thing is, the ex causes issues with the insurance when she pays for things upfront and then waits to bill or bills incorrectly, and then claims get AFU, and I happen to find this stuff out and work claims until they are processed correctly. She HATES THAT. Oh well…I’m not changing the way I deal with claims.

(Sent to Stepkids, my sisters and our dad at 8:04pm)

“Hello…

I hope this finds you all good!

Ok, so, I took Thomas to the doctors this morning…in Whittier. What a travel! We BARELY got there on time, and then we were there for awhile and got home just in time to get him ready for school and leave again.

Anyway…His stool test results were back. No parasites thank goodness, but there is some blood, though not a lot. She was not sure exactly where it is coming from, so I will be calling the GI doctor tomorrow, since we haven’t heard from them yet from the referral she sent. She said that it may be that because he goes so much, he may have little tears.

She said definitely no more MOM/MO combo, which he stopped awhile ago, anyway, and she said no more milk or cheese until further notice. Cutting that you now for these last two weeks has seemed to help too, but poor guy hasn’t been happy camper about that.

SO, we need to searxh for some milk free products, soy milk, etc… and he has to eat a salad every single night, so I need to find some milk free Ranch dressing…YUM…

Other than that, he is healthy. He did lose 1 1/2 pounds though. 2 weeks ago, he was 50 1/2 pounds. today he was 49, so we are going to watch that too.

I will keep you updated on this when we take him to the GI doctor. Keep him in your prayers…Thanks! P~”

(email to my sister, stepdaughter and her grandmother at 12:57pm)

“The other day, Keith was at work, and Thomas and I were here. He was watching blues clues on tv and I was making him his lunch. I was putting some ketchup on his hot dogs and the ketchup container made a “farting” noise, because it is almost gone. Thomas heard the noise from the kitchen and said, “DAD???” LMBO!!! He said it sounded like Keith/Dad farting and he thought Keith/Dad stopped by!

I CRACKED UP! I had forgotten about it until just a few minutes ago, when Keith/Dad asked me if we had any ketchup to go with the meatloaf we are having! LMBO!!!!!

Too funny!!!!! Keith said this morning, “That’s my boy!” LOL! Oh man, I will be laughing over this all day now! PRICELESS!

P~”

(sent stepkids and other family members an email at 9:53am this morning)

“Good Morning!

Wednesday night, Thomas had real bad stomach cramps again, and the runs real bad. Thursday morning, Keith and I took Thomas to the doctors, and they are going to start testing him to see what is the problem. He has to stay off Milk and Cheese for 2 weeks (needless to say he is NOT happy about that!) and we have to take stool samples for 3 days. The Doctor we saw Thursday, (actually a Nurse Practitioner that he has seen before) is sending a referral to a gastroenterologist so he can been seen by them as well. Hopefully it all gets taken care of real soon. Keith said Johnny had very similar problems when he was a kid, and it was due to an under developed pancreas, so we shall see.

Thomas knew on Thursday that he was going to be “Star Student” in his class so he really wanted to go to school, but there was no way to send him. He kind of forgot about it as the day went on, especially when we got home from the doctors, but when I picked him up yesterday from school, he had his “Star Student” star pinned on him! He was REALLY happy! He said he was star student yesterday because he “was absent” on the day before.

Other than this, we are all good here. Hope the same for you!! Lots of love, P~”

The ex called at 12:32 pm.

P- Hello?

J- Is Keith there?

P- He’s helping Thomas

J- K, can I talk to him?

P- can I have him call you back, when he’s done with Thomas?

J- I’m not going to be here

P- ok, well, he’ll call you back or email you.

J- can I talk to Keith?

P- (more assertive) He’s helping our son.

J- hung up.

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SO, remember when the ex told Keith she wasn’t accepting any email, letters send via US postal service, etc? Remember, she emailed me in February, and he responded by email. Suddenly, it is now March, the 6 to be exact, and she has an issue with it, LOL

“I requested that you not e-mail me or send me mail regarding (daughter). Don’t you get it or not?? I don’t believe it is you that I am receiving e-mails from or getting mail from. Do you think I am stupid.

Can’t you pick up a telephone and call if you have a concern or question/ Must be that your hands are tied.”

She blathers on then says, “You are refusing visitation for Spring break after you have been offered in the timeframe specified on court papers, which now makes it that she does not have to spend an extra week at summer. ” (He didn’t refuse visitation. )

The ex was badgering him about a bill that hasn’t come to fruition, about the cost of a ring their daughter wanted (class ring) and she, the ex put $50 as a deposit, and the balance is due within 2 months. Then she has to get her dig in. She wrote, ” if you think we should have taken the 59.95 because you don’t think it is important or cost too much then maybe you should eat at home more often. Maybe you should cut back on clothing purchases and eating at fast food places. Maybe an additional job would help support your family and (daughter) too.”

It seems she forgets that I do work, to make up for the money he has to pay out in child support, and help US survive.

Then she goes on to say, “Don’t pay that’s fine and that would be why (son) has such hard feelings. Don’t offer to help with anything I will just get it in court ordered support and garnish your wages. Better yet, quit your job and then no one gets anything. I am sick of you whining about much money (daughter and son) costs. Raising kids is not running a business like I have told you many times. I do not make a profit here. I raise kids so that they can have a better life than I ever did.”

One thing Keith has always stood by was that if the kids wanted his help, THEY had a voice, THEY need to ask him, especially as they got older. HER version of the story goes like this, “I tell you an amount of money something costs, with no proof, and you just trust me and send me the money I tell you.” Um no. That’s not how he does things. If he were to help with his son’s auto insurance, he wants a monthly statement, or the information so he can make a payment directly. If he is not provided that information, he’s not just sending money. SHE didn’t want him to have that information, saying he was not entitled to it, he should just PAY based on her word. How CRAZY is that? THAT kind of TRUST is not there, but ANY stretch of the imagination, and CLEARLY, she raised the kids to say NOTHING, to not speak for themselves. SAD. A

Anyway, she continues her rant by saying, “Scrimp on your lifestyle and make your kids wear second hand clothes, we do. Fix dinner at home, buy groceries and plan meals, cut back on your technical and electronic toys.

Get a second job, whatever it takes to make our children happy.

I don’t care if you suffer or go with out I have for years.

whine to me again about money and see where it will get you….I will sacrifice my style of living to see that she gets what she wants. Too bad you are so selfish and ungiving.

Send me more letters and I will refuse them- send checks or cash to (daughter) or directly to the people you owe money too.

Get it finally. Should you need to respond to this e-mail be glad to hear from you on the telephone.

Do you get it now, quit wasting everyone’s time.”

OH, but she can email HIM when the whim hits her. Goddamn this woman is hateful, spiteful and evil.