Spring 2004

It’s Keith’s year to have visitation with his daughter. He emailed her and asked her to think about spending it with him and her brother Thomas. Keith wrote, “…the last time I saw you was Christmas 2002 for a week. Your brother Thomas misses you too.” Told her it would be great to see her from April 4th- April 10, that she would be home to spend Easter with her friends, since it is on the 11th. Her told “Let’s start 2004 off fresh.”

His daughter wrote back at 2:53pm. Again, addressing Keith by his name, she wrote, “Keith…..I am not starting fresh wiht you…i am sorry…you damaged my feelings too much…i don’t think we should start fresh…i am sorry buts its just not going to work after all the stuff you said in the last hundred emails…look back on all of them and realize what you have said…becasue sure enough it hurt me

so much…oh yeah…please stop text messaging me…if you have the guts to e-mail and text message me then pick up the phone and dail my number…becasue this stuff is is nonsense why can’t you do this huh??? well maybe you can stop all this crap becasue its annoying me so much…i just cant take anymore. Just Stop!!…i am just sick of it…i hoped you enjoy your presents from me….your welcome. (her name) her tag line reads, “(her name) Lets start 2004 off fresh.” Keith…”What Are You Thinking” (her name)

His daughter emailed him again at 2:59pm, subject line LEAVE ME ALONE DAD!!! In this email, she wrote in all CAPS that she is “TIREF OF THIS NONSENSE….I DON’T WANT TO TALK TO YOU ANYMORE..STOP TEXT MESSAGING ME AND E_MAILING ME!!.. I AM SICK OF THIS!! JUST LEAVE ME ALONE!!!!” (her name) same tag line as before.

Keith responded to her at 4:08pm, He told her he was sorry she felt this way, that it was “never too late for anything and maybe one day down the road you will want to contact when you aren’t so mad. I guess it is all ok for your mom to write the things she did, which was sent to you and (his son’s name) too, all throughout the year. no problem (her name). I have forgiven you for the things you have said to me in email and screamed at me on the phone this past year. Maybe one day you will be able to forgive me for not being the father figure you feel you were deprived. Maybe one day you will be able to speak for yourself, instead of being under the rule of thumb at your hoe. I am sorry for your for that. I will abide by your wishes and not contact you. Oh, and I did send you an email to thank you for the presents. Sorry if it went ignored. Thomas and sarah sent you a thank you card too, even though you ignored Sarah, I guess you didn’t get that either. Be good in your life, best of luck always to you ( her name), I will ALWAYS love you, no matter what. Have a great new years as I know you are relived that it won’t include me. Dad”

2003 Gifts and Things

4-30-03 (Easter was 4-20) sent L Easter candy, a Krispy Creme gift card and a $20 check. Card from Keith said, “May your day be jelly and bright.” Keith wrote, “Always and forever I Love you Dad” card from Sarah, Thomas and I said, “How many eggs does the Easter Bunny lay in each basket? Zero. Bunnies can’t lay eggs. Hee hee hee Happy Easter! ” we each signed our name. This was sent Signature confirmation.

5-1-03- sent L confirmation cards and gifts. Keith wrote in her card, “L, I’m Very Happy And Extremely Proud of You, By Reading The Bible, Meditating ON its Word and Praying, you’ll Find Not ONly your Life will change For The BETTER BUT His Will and Plan, will Be Reveled. Glory to God I Love you Always L- Dad.”

Keith also bought her a Bible. Inside the cover, he wrote, “L, I Pray Daily For You. Please Read This Bible And Bind Yourself To Your Lord’s Word.- Jesus Christ- Grow In Grace Love Forever And Ever Lean On His Everlasting Arm, L. Your Dad

Presented to E D. D

By K D

On 4th of May 2003

The card from me and the kids we signed it, “Blessings, and our names, each with an X an O.

5-3-03- Confirmation package was attempted delivery. A notice was left.

5-5-03- Confirmation package was signed for by J at 11:43 am and Easter package was signed for by J at 11:44 am.

5-7-03 $20 check deposited.

12-12-03- J wrote that she “mailed a box and an Priority mail envelope with several pictures in it. Once you get it the pictures open the cardboard pictures up because there are more underneath.”

12-17-03- L sent a box. L wrote Keith’s name, but J addressed it all. It’s postmarked 12-11-03, In it was a Christmas/Birthday gift for Keith. She wrote, “Dad, hope you enjoy.” She also sent a gift to Thomas. She wrote, “Thomas hope you like”

She sent nothing to Sarah. Keith said we are going to rewrap the popcorn and movie, and retag it from L to both kids.

Thomas also sent L a Christmas card.

Visitation 2003

Spring- Ex’s year

Summer- 5 weeks- DENIED- first agreed from June 29th to July 13th, then agreed from July 13th to July 27- got NEITHER.

Winter- 2 weeks- 12/19- 1/3-DENIED- (daughter) spent 12/20 to 12/27 in San Diego then went back to WA.

Here We Go Again….

Stepdaughter emailed her dad at 4:15pm. More accusations towards him. Amongst many things, she told him, “…I just don’t understnad you anymore…why can’t you understand what is actually going on…you are losing me and soon enough I am never going to talk to again…so why don’t you look at the past and see what has happened and why all you have done to your life with your second wifes kids…I don’t even know what to say to you…well i just don’t understand why you can’t realize how much your WIFE has done to our relationship. (if you only didn’t marry her or if she would have kept our business alone) Please look back when you were married to (3rd ex) our life wasn’t screwed up when she was married to you…so what happend with this one that you are wiht now…plus…why can’t you be a father that you are to thomas and her daughter?? its like you had me and (his son) and after a while you meant some body and had a kid with her and just ignored us… why would a father ignore his own children?? why??? I just don’t understand…why you couldnt at least see one of my soccer games, my dance recitals, my softball games, my basketball games, or any thing like that…not even help me wiht a school project…nothing…you know what I am about to say is going to be mean but you know what…(her stepdad) has been more of a father than you were. becasue he was there for me when I played games…and even there just to movtavte me to go farther wiht life..even still he is doing that…and plus (stepson) was doing the same…so what happened to you…really what happened? any why can’t you just understand what has happened in the last 10 years??? (her name)”

WOW…. these are ALL things her mother has put in her head, and actually, I’m wondering if this isn’t her MOTHER writing this, because these are EXACTLY things her mother has written to Keith, verbatim, including the part about Keith’s ex #3.

These kids were trained to tell their dad, NOTHING was new, NOTHING was going on, they were doing NOTHING. How was he to know about their school projects when they never told him? I do know that several times, Keith had asked his ex to video tape their kids playing sports and send them to him. He would even pay for whatever she needed to do so. She couldn’t be bothered. how was he to go to any of her sports games when he worked to pay support and they live close to 1200 miles away? I worked to make up the loss of income his ex was getting. The extra we may have is for what we may need here, or even go towards airfare.

It’s really too bad his ex wasn’t forthcoming with the Truth. So much for her being “frank and honest” with them and with Keith like she said she is.

I knew Keith’s ex #3. When he married her, my daughter’s father, my daughter and I went to their wedding. They were together about 5 years and their marriage lasted 5 months. SHE wanted to move to FL, and Keith said no way, he was already far from his kids, and had to fight to see them, he wasn’t about to move farther away, plus CA held jurisdiction over their divorce/custody, etc case.

It’s Keith Now, Huh?

SO his daughter is calling him Keith. She had sent him the lyrics to George Michael’s song, “Father Figure.” Keith was surprised because of the lyrics. He felt it was something his ex would send him, under the guise of it coming from their daughter.

His ex emailed him at 739am this morning, pissed off, what else is new? LOL. She wrote in part,

“You called her a liar by accusing me instead of her sending the lyrics. I never told her or anyone for that matter that you were disinheriting anyone.

Don’t you think the kids know that there was a fight between Pat and me at the drop off time. Don’t you think they know about the phone conversations with Pat where she told me about my lack of being the proper parent before we ever got your house. You are leaving parts out. Trying again to make yourself look good…The reason we all know and blame Pat is that we try to believe that you, Richard could not bring yourself to be so heartless…I liked Pat until she stuck her nose into my or our business of children, she drips with jealousy and envy and has a personal vendetta against me from the start. Why because of the untrue things you told her about me. She does not know me for a second. She has never stopped being nosey and that is why you get no information from (son). He is too afraid that you will get into his personal stuff and you have no right…Impersonating me and my daughter and getting into our personal information is against the law and above all not necessary… Spending money on the kids isn’t that what parents do? Don’t you spend money on the kids that live with you now? You were given the opportunity to choose a different parenting plan the one I paid for and drew up before I left San Diego…You chose not to accept it, until Pat got her hands on it and you lied to her and told it was true. FALSE AGAIN. The time she has spent getting involved with something she knows nothing about is wasted and has caused hard feelings between you and your children…You manipulated your way out of your childrens lives. Both the kids can see how you act differently with Thomas and Sarah calling her your child and doing on them. While you ignore (son and daughter). Too bad Bobby died and yet you never said anything to them, GEE….I bet you have even lied about our marriage to Pat so of course she should believe you…wait until your precious Thomas is 13, Good luck…”

Keith responded at 1212pm to her email:

“Yes, I do believe all the stuff I wrote. I lived it, so did my wife, we know what the truth is. You are the one that is way out there and not even close to the truth.

I never called (daughter) a liar. You wouldn’t know what the truth was if it slapped you upside the head. You read into things that aren’t there and you have taught (daughter and son) to do the same.

There was no fight between you and my wife in 1995 at the time of the drop off. YOU tried to keep something that wasn’t yours and she grabbed it back. (ex’s husband) had to grab you and grab the papers out of your hands and threw them on the car hood. If there was a fight, it was all your doing. There was no conversation like what you are saying, that conversation you are talking about took place in one place, YOUR sick and twisted mind. You are making things up as you go along, trying to make me and my wife out to be the bad person, but it won’t work. We know who the REAL liar is and it is YOU.

I don’t need to talk to you about my other family at all. They are all fine who says there is not contact with my extended family, just because YOU don’t know makes it so huh? what a joke you are.

Me disappearing? HA HA! Never happened. 2 or 3 times a year? HA HA! I only saw the kids when it was convenient for you, when YOU needed a babysitter and decided to call me. You really make things up as you go along. This email from you is more of a joke than it is to be taken seriously.

Nope, never saw the kids while I was married to (3rd ex). I was married to her for 5 months, that’s it. I didn’t see them anytime during those 5 months. There were no court orders either, so it was all YOUR decision when I was allowed to see the kids. You said it yourself. Since you moved to WA in Feb 1993, I have NEVER gotten the kids for Thanksgiving, another LIE of yours.

What a lie you have NEVER liked my wife, and neither one of us care. In fact, you had talked to her on the phone for the first time in May 1995, and you saw her for the first time in July 1995. YOU are the one that stuck your finger in her face in July when you and (her husband) dropped the kids off and told her “Don’t FUCK with me” so YOU are the one that has a personal vendetta. YOU are the one that blamed her for taking me back to court over and over again. YOU have nothing she should be jealous of. TRUST ME, you don’t. In fact, she tells me all the time to make sure I thank you for her, for teaching her how NOT to be. She didn’t believe anything I told her about you in the beginning. Everything I told her about you, YOU proved true by your own words and actions. She really has no thoughts about you one way or another. She has always felt sorry for you, especially more when you told her you have been diagnosed with (diagnosis).

You are so hung on this impersonation crap. No one did that. That is your own sick and twisted mind playing tricks on you. You really are delusional, because if you really believed that it did happen, you would have us in court so fast. No one that I know of would spend hours looking into your “past and current live.” No one read (daughters) emails and no one listened in on her phone conversations.

As far as spending time with (son and/or daughter), they have seen me 1 time in 1995, 1 time in 1996, 3 times in 1997, 2 times in 1998, 3 times in 1999, 2 times in 2000, 2 times in 2001, 1 time in 2002 and ZERO times in 2003, so it looks like you are LYING yet again. Between Jan 1, 1995 and June 1998 there were no court orders saying they “HAD” to come. Go there? On what? My good looks? I pay you support, I can’t afford airfare and hotel costs, not to mention rent a car. I refuse to stay at your place, that’s a given, and or to be at YOUR mercy with a car of ANYTHING. The “parenting plan” you paid for and drew up in 1993? That one? HA HA! You would NO MORE follow a court order from 1993 than you do any subsequent court order. It doesn’t matter WHAT a Judge or court order says, PER YOU. All you are about is that green money, and control you HAVE TO HAVE. Pat didn’t get ahold of anything. I have 2 copies, both with your original signature on them. I made sure I got them before I left your house that weekend. I didn’t KNOW Pat in Feb. of 1993.

For someone who hates my wife so much, you sure talk about her a lot, you sure let her rent that space in your head. How obsessed can you be? GET OVER HER. She hasn’t done anything to cause hard feelings. You are just ticked off that WE, she and I have found out a LOT of stuff you wish we hadn’t. YOU are just ticked off that I call you on the carpet for all your LIES. YOU don’t like to be questioned. TOO BAD. I have no hard feelings towards my children. None whatsoever. They are old enough to make their choices and they are old enough to suffer the consequences of their choices. I am not responsible for the choices they make.

Yep, you ran from California. You called me up before you had to testify before the grand jury and told me that if anything happened to you, to please get the kids. You had to have made a deal for someone harboring a drug king pin like you did, by allowing him to use the house to store money and cars and money that your MOM even found and then allow it to get raided, yep, you must have agreed to a sweet deal. Then your buddy (drug king pin’s name) changes his plea to guilty in Oct 1992 and you leave California to marry a man you told was a “business deal.” HA HA HA! How pathetic and trampy can you be? Don’t answer. You didn’t marry (husband) for love, you married him for the money, admit it. My god, you really can’t even tell the truth to (son and daughter). (her husband) was hardly around, gone 2-3 weeks a month (Bet he loved that deal! Got to be away from you!) then home for a couple weeks. You used him. Hopefully one day if he hasn’t already, he will see the light. I’ll tell you what. if you hadn’t already been pregnant with (son) when WE got married, I NEVER would have married you.

No money from me between August 1989 and April 1990? You sure about that? Must not be because I have cancelled checks written in MY writing from August 1989 to the end of the year, making mortgage payments on a house I was no longer living in. I could have NOT paid it when I left, and let it foreclose. OH and lets not forget the $3371.04 you wrote out for CASH between May and December 1989 ON TOP of the nearly $8400.00 (on TOP of the mortgage payments) by check I paid you and this doesn’t include the cash payments or payments by money order. OH and lets not forget the letters you sent me in 1990 between April and November, thanking me for sending you money “on time and regularly.” you are such a liar. You even wrote me and told what a change it was going from $6000 a month when we were married to $800 after taxes. It is ALL about money with you. You’re right, I COULD SEEM to support the kids. I was NEVER obligated to support YOU. I paid you about $1050 a month from May to December 1989, ON TOP of the mortgage payment. It was SUPPOSED to be used for the kids, NOT for you. I have the cancelled checks from all these figures.

Constant attention from you and (her husband)? What a laigh. He was gone 2-3 weeks at a time, and you were working. It got to the point where the kids were left home by themselves for several hours every day. Constant attention…What a joke.

You mother has always told you that YOU divorced me, she didn’t. Well, least she said she always told you that. If she was lying then no wonder you lie. It’s been passed on. You have NEVER been able to handle the friendship your mom and I had, but now I SEE who runs her life. It isn’t her when it comes to (son and daughter).

Boy (ex wife’s name), you sound jealous. Sarah is my “child” maybe not by blood, but in THIS family, we don’t have hang ups about things like YOU do and have passed it on to (son and daughter). Sarah and Thomas aren’t bought every thing their hearts desire. I don’t walk around saying “The skies the limit” like YOU do. Do you know what the work ignore means? It means Main Entry: ig*nore Date: 1801 1: reuse to take notice of 2: to reject (a bill of indictment) as ungrounded.

If I was ignoring (son and daughter) I wouldn’t acknowledge them at all. THEY have chosen to ignore me. You have the roles backwards. How do you know I didn’t say anything to them? I told (daughter) the day I talked to her in October when she had to go to the ER. I couldn’t call (son) because YOU forbid me to call him at your mom’s and I don’t have his cell phone number. I also sent both kids emails and emails of the article from the papers, wanna see the proof? Got no answer from (son) and got a “oh really” from (daughter).

You obviously care about things I say, otherwise why this long asinine email trying to explain your actions and LIES? I know I have made mistakes, I have never said I was faultless. YOU are the one that likes to pretend you are FAULTLESS, HA HA! Another joke. YOU are the one that lets your anger for me spill over into the kids, when the kids were here, the only time YOU would be brought up is when they got ticked off at something and cried to you, otherwise, a relaxing vacation with them was to not EVER hear from you during that time, and I can only think of one time that happened. No emails, no phone calls from you.

Hey, THEY are the ones bringing crap up from the past. I explain “the other side” of what they have been told. Between what you have lied to them about and what I have told them, they need to find the truth themselves. I have contacted (son and daughter) and THEY, with your HEAVY influence over them, are the ones that dictated what kind of relationship they want with me. Me and the kids decided in 1998, when they were here that we would email every day and keep in touch that way. When they get back to your house, suddenly that all changes and I get an email from them saying not to email everyday. Funny how all the plans that WE make while they are here, suddenly change when they get back to your house. The fact is, YOU can’t handle them having a relationship with me. YOU have to have that control over them, how sad for them. How do I know (daughter) was never pregnant? What happened to her in the beginning of this year when she was having a really bad week and neither one of you would tell me? (Keith gave his idea here). She didn’t look too healthy when I saw her in December 2002. Really pale, sickly thin, not healthy at all. Where did I say I raised teens? Boy, quit the drugs would you? Or maybe get a higher dosage of the ones you already take. Nowhere did I say I raised teens.

My wife owes no one an apology, Seems the kids owe her one tho, one from (son) for lying about her to his friend (friends name) and (daughter) for calling Sarah “stupid” and from (daughter) for telling her boyfriend that Thomas was “a pain in the ass.”

I am not angry about the choices I made. I am glad I am no longer married to you. I am glad I only have 18 more moths to deal with you.

If the kids choose not to have anything to do with me, that is there choice. It is MY choice to carry them or not carry on any health and life insurance once they turn 18.

I look forward NOT hearing from YOU (ex wife’s name). Keith”

The Hammer Dropped

Keith son is now 19 years old. Keith continued to carry him on his insurance, but he had made a decision. At 0654am, Keith emailed his son, cc-ing his ex.

“(son’s name),

After hearing from your mother saying that you have no desire to be around me or have anything to do with me, it finally sunk in, after the last email from your mother, when I realized I am not allowed to call your cell phone since I am not allowed to have the number (you have no idea how I tried to get it when the fire’s were going on, I was real concerned for you (sons name) and your safety and well being, and wasn’t able to contact you myself), nor did you feel compelled to contact me at any time telling me you are ok, and am not allowed to call your grandma’s without being threatened with a lawsuit for harassment from your mother (I will send you the email from her if you want) you don’t answer my emails, you don’t send me emails and finally, with your insensitive attitude toward your brother Thomas, (you probably threw his picture away too that was sent you along with the Krispy Kreme card and coupons you were sent), effective Dec 31, 2003, I will not be covering you under (insurance) any longer.

You’re my son and I will always love you, but I finally realize how it is. I see that it is, get wat you can, forget about everything and everyone else, and it is my choice to not support that attitude.

Just like I have always said, you know how to get a hold of me, if and whenever you chose. You’re still welcomed to visit if and whenever you chose. Love you

Dad”

Keith only had to keep his son on his health insurance until his 18th birthday. His ex wife at one time threatened to press contempt charges for Keith keeping his son on his insurance past his 18th birthday. SERIOUSLY?

His ex responded at 0734am, stating that “I can’t add (son) to my insurance until June, Can’t you wait until then so that he continues to have medical coverage?? you are going to cancel wow you are a wonderful father once again. Effective as of when??

At 0739am, his ex responded again:

“No one ever said you could not call (son) on my mom’s phone. Since you put Thomas up to it you must have realized that. did not realize you were home in the middle of the day to help Thomas call. What a poor example of a dad, so I am guessing you will disinherit your daughter on her 18th birthday as well. WOW and you look at yourself everyday in the mirror. Hopefully the rest of your family bows down at your feet.”

Keith wrote her back at 0930am:

“Wait? why wait? you yourself said it was a bad insurance, you hated it, blah blah blah. (son) is an adult. he can look into getting insurance through his employer, or through (our insurance) on an individual plan. No, my open season is now, the note I sent said effective when, learn to comprehend what you are reading. It said, “effective Dec 31, 2003.

I have not written him off, like he has done me, a long time prior to my decision. I carried him for a little more than a year, past his 18th birthday, without so much as a thank you or any kind of acknowledgement of any kind, but instead with attitude and animosity, and demands. I have the emails from earlier this year from him proving that.

It is time for him to start making adult decisions about his health care, or you shouldn’t have jumped the gun and taken him off yours. You said your insurance pays about 70% here in CA, beats nothing. Keith”

At 1049am the ex wrote back, “Richard, All matters regarding (son) and insurance are resolved. Something better was not your wife at all yuck. But was that the older children are replaced with new children. You just move on and leave the others behind. (daughter is doing fine by the way and thanks for asking.”

Keith responded to his ex and his son at 1158am advising them the steps his son can take to inquire about other insurance coverage through his current company. He also told them, “Your threats of a lawsuit on Jan. 131th, and his email to me April 2nd, 2003 where he asked me “to never email him again” and telling me he “was tired of MY bullshit and half truths and lying and unnecessary stress” and then him hanging up on his half brother the other night, was the last straw. He can go about his medical insurance on his own or through you.”

His ex is under the impression COBRA is available to his son, but it isn’t. Our insurance doesn’t offer COBRA. Plain and Simple.

After ALL This Time…

after 9 solid years of harassment from her, A COMPLIMENT! She gave ME a compliment! I’m sure she didn’t mean to, but she did and I couldn’t let it go, I had to thank her!

I wrote her this afternoon at 3:52pm, and CC’d Keith. I wrote: “for something better”? LMAO, WOW, I have to say that this is the FIRST compliment I think you have ever given me, too bad it was the expense of your own children. Keith thinks I’m somethin’ pretty special too! I KNEW you always liked me deep down 🙂 really though, no one is better than anyone else, we are all equals, but thanks for the compliment!”

Subject: The Place to Be

Not sure what that means, LOL, but that’s the ex’s subject matter in her email to Keith this morning at 08:17am.

The first 5 paragraphs are blah blah blah blah blah, more of the same shit, just a different day.

The 6th paragraph, she writes, “(son) hung up on Thomas, gee aren’t you getting yet.”

Just a note here, my son is 6 years old. Her son is 19. My son called to speak to his brother and sister, and this is what happened, his older brother hung up on him.

THIS upset Keith.

She also paid me a compliment! I don’t think she meant to, but she did and it’s one Keith and I agreed with wholeheartedly! She wrote, “You fail as a positive parent, you have not taught anything to our children except to hassle them and forget them for something better…”

Read that again! “For something better” HA! He was a positive parent. It’s just that when one is feels as angry and scorned as she does towards Keith, it’s not surprising she can’t see the positivity he spread. That’s on her.