Welcome~ Enter At Your Own Risk~ I Couldn't Make Some of This Stuff Up~ My Experience in Dealing With A High Conflict Baby Mama, Parental Alienation and Just Trying To Get Through This Thing Called Life~
(email to stepdaughter at 1:03pm)
“Hello Miss L,
well, I was doing laundry the other day and found your beach towel. Do you want us to mail it or just leave it here for you if you come out this summer?
hope you are having a good day! talk to ya later.
P~
Hakuna Matata”
At 6:56 pm, I emailed her again and wrote:
“Hi L,
It is a winnie the pooh and piglet towel. we thought for sure it was yours. ok, take care. Maybe see ya on later.
P~
Hakuna Matata”
In her email to me at 12:50pm, on 4/10/01, J said that I would have to pay HER expenses of $1198.00.
I emailed her today at 11:44 am. I wrote,
” J- just so you know, I did some checking around and actually, since you would be the defendant, it sems that I would have to file a case “where the defendant resides,” which means I would be asking for all these other expenses on top of the $209.50. Just thought I would give you a little heads up on what the plan may be.
Cordially,
Patricia”
My letter was delivered today at 2:03 pm. I am 1000% positive J either told the kids what I sent, or let them read the letter, sans the part where she said she would reimburse her share of the airfare by April 7th.
ANYTHING to make me and their Dad look bad.
Or should I say “STRIKES” again, LOL….
J writes today at 12:50pm:
“The charge you made on your credit card was neither authorized nor requested by me. My dealings with child support and children are with Keith only not you. If he asked you to charge their airplane tickets on your card then you had better seek reimbursement from him.
“J, You are court ordered to pay “EQUALLY” in transportation costs. This means that since I paid for the tickets since stated you couldn’t pay for both and as Keith already told you before, it made no sense to split the reservation up since there were no frills attached to them (like redeeming miles or anything that would affect “your share” of the cost) then you owe ME your half of $419.00 which is $209.50“
I never asked you or Keith to charge any airfare on any credit cards, not did I request you pay for my half of the airfare.
” According to your email on 2/17/01, you said that the reservation had to be purchased by 11:59pm on 2/18/01. How do you propose we SHOULD have paid for the airfare?“
The cost for you to take me to court over 209.50 should cost you that amount plus more. Considering the slanderous nature of this charge. My cost would be $300-$400 for airfare to Los Angeles, room charges for $160, rental car of $150 and the loss of wages plus traveling expenses in the amount of $488 for a total of reimbursement to me for false accusations in the amount of $1198.00.
“don’t make me laugh. Everything we did was on the up and up. We followed YOUR rules, time frames, reservation info that YOU set up according to your emails and the information we got from Alaska Airlines themselves. On the other hand, for as upset as you are over this, maybe you had other motives for “your half” even though you said there was nothing, things that make you go HMMMMM…”
Again, I never asked you to charge any airfare on any credit card nor did I ask anyone to pay my half. These things you did are the result of your own actions. My dealings with airfare or child support are not your concern and are between Richard and myself since N and L are our children. Their health and welfare are what parents take care of and Richard and I are their parents. NOT YOU. Stay out of my personal business. I will not be paying you for anything not now not in future not ever.
My email address is not for you to have either. I have never given it to you only to Richard, and if he felt compelled to share that information with out my consent then we have a whole different situation again. You are not to have any of my information not personally not professionally nor any information regarding our children N and L. These children are from our marriage and we are the parents not you. I do not authorize you to have any information on me or my children.”
“ok, well having said all this, then you are FALSELY accusing me (per your phone call to me in 1999 and the kids words in 2000) of being the cause of marital discord. I mean, after all, if NOTHING is my business, then NOTHING that goes on between you and Keith is J’s business, right? Then he would not know about your problems with Keith, which means that I and or WE are NOT the cause of your “impending divorce” as you accused me of, right? Right. NOT that this has anything to due with the money you owe me, but since your brought it up, I thought I would point out the slanderous accusations you are making against me, not to mention the harassing phone calls I have received from you, and you writing slanderous things about me and my kids in your email to Keith, along with the slanderous things you have said to me and Keith on the phone about me and my kids. Sheesh, by the time this is over, it may turn into a Civil lawsuit? Is that where you want this to go? I think we BOTH can think of better things to do with our time and money, don’t you? Oh and by the way, you don’t have to read my emails to you, let alone answer them. Not only that, but if you want to, you can write me at P**********@aol.com, if you want, ANYTIME. My emal is not a private thing” but I am not sure exactly what you are referring to when you say that Richard, and if he felt compelled to share that information with out my consent then we have a whole different situation again. another one of those things that make you go hmmmm things….
lets get past this so we don’t have to go to the next level. Just pay me what you owe me, $209.50 and be done with it. I don’t like playing bill collector, but you said it yourself, your “financials” are something to deal with Keith about, and have NOTHING to do with the money you owe me. So take the money off the “financials” you sent to Keith (or are you still working on them???) that you applied to what YOU think he owes you, and send it to me, the person YOU really do owe.
Why can’t we just all get along? I have asked that of you soo many times, in letter to you. What did I ever do to you? Nothing. You have hated me and have made it VERY well known you do since July 1995, and I have NEVER done anything to you? Oh well, I an not going to loose sleep over it. Just too bad for the kids…
Patricia“
SO, in her email yesterday, J said that she was “however still in the process of reviewing medical and other financial records for my reimbursements due from Richard”
I quoted that when I responded to her this evening at 7:20pm. I also added:
“J U,
Sorry, but no, you’re not, since you have already sent him an email date 4/8/01 at 840pm with all your medical and other financials attached to it. There were 9 attachments to this one email, and included in this email showed the $209.50 you owe me that was applied to money you are alleging Keith owes you.
Good night,
Patricia”
She thinks we are stupid.
Or should I say “STRIKES” again, LOL….
J writes today at 12:50pm:
“The charge you made on your credit card was neither authorized nor requested by me. My dealings with child support and children are with Keith only not you. If he asked you to charge their airplane tickets on your card then you had better seek reimbursement from him.
I never asked you or Keith to charge any airfare on any credit cards, not did I request you pay for my half of the airfare.
The cost for you to take me to court over 209.50 should cost you that amount plus more. Considering the slanderous nature of this charge. My cost would be $300-$400 for airfare to Los Angeles, room charges for $160, rental car of $150 and the loss of wages plus traveling expenses in the amount of $488 for a total of reimbursement to me for false accusations in the amount of $1198.00.
Again, I never asked you to charge any airfare on any credit card nor did I ask anyone to pay my half. These things you did are the result of your own actions. My dealings with airfare or child support are not your concern and are between Richard and myself since N and L are our children. Their health and welfare are what parents take care of and Richard and I are their parents. NOT YOU. Stay out of my personal business. I will not be paying you for anything not now not in future not ever.
My email address is not for you to have either. I have never given it to you only to Richard, and if he felt compelled to share that information with out my consent then we have a whole different situation again. You are not to have any of my information not personally not professionally nor any information regarding our children N and L. These children are from our marriage and we are the parents not you. I do not authorize you to have any information on me or my children.”
OMG, LMAO….
I also sent (today) copies of the emails from yesterday and today between J and I to her via USPS Del. Conf. at 2:51 pm. I also attached a copy of the letter she wrote Keith and his attorney.
I responded back to J- at 2:15pm.
I emailed the following: I quoted her part of the letter/email to Keith and his attorney on March 15th, 2001:
“J U,
The reimbursement you are seeking from Keith has NOTHING to do with the airfare that is charged on my card. YOU DO OWE ME 209.50 and I will proceed with legal action if it is not paid no later than April 27th, 2001.
You wrote to Keith and his attorney on March 15th, 2001:
“Finally, my half of the airfare after considering medical and dental reimbursement WILL BE PAID IN FULL BY APRIL 7th.”
Apparently, you forgot.
Cordially,
Patricia (Last name)”
She emailed me at 10:32 this morning:
“Your credit card is exactly your credit card and if you choose by your own free will to make a purchase to Alaska Airlines for whatever purpose and your are seeking reimbursement for lack of visitation by airplane than these things are your choices. By purchasing with your credit card no way contracts me for payment. I do not owe you Patricia (last name) anything. I am however still in the process of reviewing medical and other financial records for reimbursements due from Richard. I did not say that you would receive payment on the 7th of April just that I would send it then. Due to some unexpected medical situations I was not able to mail out the check on Saturday. However a check is in the outgoing mail for Monday. If you feel the need that you want to further alienate N and L from their dad, then take me to court.”
Um, What?
Back in Feb. 2001 I used my credit card to buy tickets for the kids to visit their dad.
I have not received payment/reimbursement from J for her half. I was prompted to write this email, today: 4/8/01 at 4:31 pm.
“J U,
On 2/18/01, I purchased airfare from Alaska airlines in the amount of $419.00 total for reservation code, XXXXXX. You were sent a copy of the receipt via email on 2/18/01. You acknowledged receiving it on 2/20/01. Your half of this amount is $209.50 and is still due me.
This purchase was made by me, using MY personal credit card, according to the reservations and time frame of purchase YOU made on 2/17/01 for the sole purpose of visitation between my husband Keith (last name) and his kids, N and L (last name).
After 1 inquiry into the status of your reimbursement (on 3/6/01) from Keith on my behalf, and 2 formal demands for payment, from Keith on my behalf (on 3/9/01 one was by email, and one was by USPS Priority Delivery Confirmation, that you received on 3/12/01) giving you 15 days to remit payment, you have failed and refused to send your share of the airfare in full in the amount of $209.50.
As a matter of record and fact, on 3/15/01, you wrote a letter to Keith and his attorney Jack N. and advised BOTH of them that your half of the airfare would be paid in full by April 7th. You have failed and refused to follow that date as well.
Your issues with Keith are just that, but the fact that MY credit card was used in the manner it was and for the purpose that it was, gives me every legal right to seek reimbursement from you PERSONALLY.
This is now MY FORMAL DEMAND FOR PAYMENT. You now have until no later than, Friday, April 27th, 2001 to remit payment TO ME. This will have given you 9 weeks and 5 days to remit payment TO ME. Should you once again, fail and refuse to remit payment TO ME, by and no later than April 27th, 2001, then I will have no other choice but to proceed with this matter through the Court system and in addition to the original $209.50 you owe, I will also ask the court for reimbursement from you for my loss of wages, interest that this charge incurred on my credit card, filing fees and Court costs, fuel expense, and whatever other costs the Court will allow.
Your prompt attention to this matter would be greatly appreciated.
Thank you,
Patricia (middle initial, last name)
562-***-****”
~This Is My World~ 