Spring- DENIED– After Christmas hassles- she did not contact me about Spring. She wrote on May 22, 1995, “I have the right to authorize visitation as I see fit…the divorce papers say* that visitation is up to me…”

Summer- given 2 weeks but took 3– and it was wrought with chaos for several days.

Winter-DENIED- after the Summer fiasco, the EX is taking Keith back to court. She REFUSED to discuss visitation. She had an attorney, Keith did not. Her attorney told Keith via his paralegal, that the ex refused to talk about visitation. According to her attorney, she was keeping the kids. She has taken 2 weeks off from work and was having out of town company coming. Keith offered to pay transportation cost to see the kids, EX said NO. Keith requested a parenting plans and visitation and she said it was unreasonable, she was not agreeable and there would be no discussing anything with him until after court. She just wanted an increase in support.

*The divorce papers she mentions are from November 1990, the final divorce papers. In these papers it states, “Petitioner shall have JOINT LEGAL and sole physical custody of the minor children subject to RESPONDENTS (Keith’s) right of reasonable visitation as MUTUALLY AGREED UPON with Petitioner.” It states NOWHERE what she says it does.

Happy Birthday to HIM…

Well, Judge signed a new support order. His ex was pissed off from Summer visitation and all that transpired then, so she took him to court.

He is now paying $700 for both kids, plus $100 towards child care costs, for a total of $800 per month.

Still no set visitation as she refused to discuss it.

Christmas Gifts

We don’t get to see the kids this year at Christmas, so we bought their presents and I sent them today.

I wrote a note to each one. To L, I wrote, “Hey L, all your gifts are wrapped in Teddy Bears. Love P-” and to N, I wrote, “Hey N, The other wrapped presents are yours-sorry about the paper. It was all I had left. Love, P-“

I also addressed the box. When the male clerk sealed the box, he did not let the return address show, so….J will notice it’s my writing. Let’s wait and see if and when (more like when) she will call Keith and let him have it.

December 1995

Early December, within the first few days, I had called the kids school to ask a question. I was informed that my husband’s name was not listed anywhere in their files. in fact, they hadn’t even known he existed. I let my husband know this information. On December 4th, he wrote a letter to the SI of the school district, submitting a copy of the divorce papers, showing that Ex had sole physical custody, but he shared Joint Legal Custody of his kids. He also asked for the record to show that he was entitled to receive any school records, progress reports, etc. that’s pertaining to his children, sent to his home address.

It was a Sunday. Keith was off work. He took our 2 year old daughter out for a walk.

Ex called at 1045am, Dec. 10, 1995. She asked to speak to Keith and and I her he was out, and asked if so could take a message. She said “ only if it’s today.” I told her I didn’t think it would be today, but I would give him the message. She paused for a about 30 seconds and asked, “ you don’t think it would be today? Why’s that?” I should have just hung up right then, but I had to mindful of how the kids would react.

I told her, as if it were any of her business, that I didn’t think it would be today because we had plans and we were leaving right when he got back. She became belligerent, yelling, “ No! I want to talk to him, NOW! I know he’s there!” I said, “no he’s not, he’s gone, goodbye.” and hung up.

She had her daughter call 3 minutes later, and left a message, about mailing a candy order out soon and to call her back.

3 minutes later, at 1051am, The ex called yet again. This time she left a message. She said, “ it’s ( name). I hope I got the right number, I can’t tell by the message, and I’m leaving a message for Keith. I’m “trying” to call regarding the children. I have several things we need to talk about, um, if this was an “Emergency” how the heck would I get a hold of you? Um, I guess I could just try writing if you can’t call me back, or if my screen, my calls are being screened and monitored, you’re not going to get it so I’ll send you something directly to you. Thank you.” And she hung up.

All that because Keith wasn’t home.