Sent copy of the new court order to the ex.
I KNOW Keith was nervous, but he did good!
Judge ordered: “WAGE ASSIGNMENT IS QUASHED EFFECTIVE 6/18/05 AND ONGOING SUPPORT IS SET AT ZERO AS OF THAT DATE. ARREARS, AS OF THIS DATE IS ZERO.”
Judge even signed an Amended Order/Notice to Withhold Income for Child Support. $560.00 per month TERMINATES ON 6/18/05. $0.00 per month past-due child support arrears 12 weeks or greater.
Faxed the new order to Keith’s work as well.
The oldest daughter wrote her dad at 1312. It was in response to his email to her yesterday at 1425. She told him, “You’re right, Except that you left out (oldest sons name). p.s. remind your NON-MEDDLING, paranoid pat her emails will NEVER be read.” About a half hour later she wrote her dad again, telling him, “Oh, now that I think about it…I won’t read your emails either. For obvious reasons. If you want to talk to me, you can call me directly.”
LMAO! Does she mean from today on? Because I sent her one last night at 2342, and lets not forget, she READ the one I sent her yesterday afternoon. LOL Just so CRAZY…. it’s funny how these ‘women’ think they are badasses writing Keith, and then telling him they won’t read/respond to his emails. OR they bring me into their bullshit and et pissed off when I respond. They REALLY don’t know me. LOL Many things I can let it go, but some times, the constant badger from these people, gets to be too much.
The email I wrote her last was, I was reminding HER, “For the record, you brought me into it, when you attacked me in an email to your dad. You just couldn’t leave me out of your troubles.
Oh no, the money issue was not wearing on me at all. If it had been, I would have taken you to small claims court to recoup it, if I was that kind of person. Being that you are my husbands daughter, and you needed help, I was happy to have been able to help you. I suppose I will receive the money when I am looking at it.
Yes, it was wrong for me to assume I was invited to your wedding, my apologies. When you invited my kids by saying you hope they can make it to your wedding as well, I didn’t know at the time that I was excluded. You were always very personable towards me whenever we were in the same place at the same time. Thank you for pointing out the error of my thinking.
Are you the entire (my married name) family spokeswoman now? You speak for all (my married name)’s? I will keep that in mind, LOL
Paranoid personalities? Hmmmm, last time I saw you was at (a niece’s) wedding, and I don’t even remember when before that. Maybe (bro in law and mother in law’s) funerals? Or at a party at (oldest stepson’s)? Doesn’t matter, it had been a long time. I interact with you so infrequently, it’s hilarious that you make such a judgment call. I can count on one hand how many times I have interacted with you. As a matter of fact, no, I don’t have copies of letters I supposedly wrote to numerous family members. Actually, I have no idea what you are talking about. Lets see, I wrote you and (oldest stepson) one time, I didn’t keep a copy of it, I wrote (sis in law) one letter, but I didn’t keep a copy of it, do you have a copy of it? If so, could you mail me a copy of it please so I can say you right. that I do have a copy? The only one I know who wrote a letter to anyone, then sent copies to numerous family members, was (sis in law) and the one she wrote (other bro in law) after (younger bro in law) passed away. That letter too, has gone off to the landfill. Oh, and you did mention that (the ex wife) wrote numerous family members last September, but other than that, that’s about all I know. Recorded phone conversations? I am not sure what you are getting at here. There was a recorder on our phone, yes. Your dad was advised to do that, after he was almost arrested for kidnapping. The recorder was put on just to record the conversations between him and (ex wife) and (ex wife) and I. I really don’t know how that pertains to you or how that affects your life, or what it has to do with you though. You weren’t calling and hadn’t called your dad during these years, so why meddle and overstep into something you aren’t/weren’t a part of?
I don’t know why you think I would think that just because we have the same last name, it makes us family. As far as I’m concerned, and the way I have always referred to you as, is you are ” my husband’s oldest daughter.” Nothing more, nothing less. I will have to remember your comment though, so that I can tell my son it, the next time he asks if he can see you or talk to you as you are absolutely right, just because you have the same last name, and he too is your half brother, just like (middle stepson), it still doesn’t make you family.
May you have a long lasting marriage…. Pat”
Ex received letter that Keith wrote the court. It was delivered today at 8:52am today.
OMG, this email is HILARIOUS! She writes, at 8:30am, ” yes, I will be the thin (122 pounds) sexy woman at court, looking good with my low cute blouse in red, and a short skirt showing off my fine legs and rear end.
I will be the hottest looking woman in the courtroom, it won’t be hard to find me. Can’t wait to see the look in your eyes when you catch your breath at how awesome I look and I have two almost grown children, WOW- see you there.
Judge won’t care what comes out of your mouth why are you trying so hard.
84 days till the end of this.”
Keith and I got a GREAT laugh at this one! THIS was one of her funniest emails!
WTH? Oldest stepdaughter writes her dad at 10:38. She says stuff in response to other things he wrote in his previous email that I didn’t put on the blog, but her last paragraph she writes, “I have unsettled emotions about all of this, just as I have an unsettled feeling that it could be THE MEDDLING-OVERSTEPPING-Pat responding to my emails, and not you. I gotta go. Love YOU dad,”
Well, well, well…..wonder where she heard THIS line before…. Keith was not happy at all, plus he was home sick. He wasn’t going to let it slide though, he was sick of this bullshit. At 11:26, he emailed her back, saying, (in part), “… I don’t appreciate anything you said about Pat, accusing her of responding to your emails, it has been ME. Pat wrote you ONE letter nearly 10 years and that was IT. I had pneumonia at the time. She has seen you about as much as I have over the last 11 years, and always commented on how personable you and (her brother) were. Pat is the one that took a $300.00 loan off her credit card, years ago, to give to YOU, with the understanding that you would pay her back, and you never did. Guess you forgot about that. She did this against MY wishes. So don’t blame HER for the problems between Me and you, me and (his oldest son) and Me and (middle kids.). Talk about MEDDLING-OVERSTEPPING, why the hell am I getting SHIT from YOU regarding my relationship with (middle kids) in the FIRST PLACE?…Don’t GIVE me any shit concerning my relationship with (middle kids) when you ADMITTEDLY have neglected them, and don’t use ME as your crutch as to WHY you have neglected them. What? Did you all of a sudden get a “sisterly instinct” where (middle kids) are concerned, after neglecting them for so long? Is THAT why you contact me? Because (EX WIFE) wrote you? Yes, I HAVE spoken to them when I could, when I was allowed to, and I don’t have to answer to YOU about my relationship or lack thereof with (middle kids)….If you don’t believe I wrote any of this, call me, and I will tell you all this again. Dad”
At 11:30 he responded to another little jab his daughter said. She had written yesterday, “Have you ever asked (middle kids) why they don’t want to visit/talk with you? Or it just assumed by you it’s all (ex wife’s) fault?” Keith responded with, ” Assumed? I don’t have to assume anything. I KNOW IT, I LIVED IT, Were you there? Where were you? I did the best I could with what I was ALLOWED to have. Dad”
In her response at 12:14, his daughter wrote, “I don’t remember that Pat gave me $300.00 11 years ago, but if you’d like me to pay her back now, I’d be happy to. I’m sorry that I didn’t know/remember that she let me borrow money….She has meddled into alot of your relationship…even with your sister, my auntie (Keith’s sisters name). Oh, believe me, I don’t blame Pat for YOUR problems with us, in the end, you are to blame. It’s weird that ALL of your kids have the same feelings/hurt. Well, except for Thomas and Sara.”
WHY in God’s name am I thrown in her email to her dad?? I haven’t seen this girl in awhile, how am I meddling in anything? CLEARLY she’s listened to Keith’s ex and THEIR daughter. GEEZUS….I can stay in my room and do nothing and get accused of crap like this.
At 1425, Keith responded back to her. He told his oldest daughter that he “really doesn’t need a go between between him and his middle kids, thanks though. They are grown adults, if they want to contact me, they can. Like I siad in previous emails, you have no idea what has happened, except from one side. Last I knew it took two and communication to have a relationship. You, (middle son, and middle daughter) condemn me for not being there for you, even though I have made an effort, but I don’t see you three making much of an effort, but again, you 3 blame me and my wife for the hurt feelings, experiences you have and have had, it’s always easier for you 3to place blame elsewhere and on someone else, without considering what part any of YOU played in the breakdown of the relationship, so fine, no more emails? Ok then, Dad”
I emailed his daughter. I asked Keith if I could and he said yes, so at 1240pm, I sent off an email. In it, I wrote, “Hello (oldest daughter’s name), It goes without saying that Thomas, Sarah (with an H) and I will not be attending your wedding. Unfortunately, they have already been told about it. Keep the money you borrowed from me years ago. I was there when you needed it, and we have experienced the same when we needed to borrow money, family was there for us. You have a wedding to plan, and I am sure you need it more. So you think I have meddled in “alot” of your dad’s relationships, huh? News to me. I don’t even know what I did your “auntie” (Keith’s sisters name), but thank you for letting me know she is upset with me about something I know nothing about. Maybe you can have her email me or call so we can discuss it. That would be greatly appreciated, thanks. What “other” relationships have I meddled in? I mean, if you are going to accuse me of this, you should expound on it. Leave my children out of your ‘whatever’ it is, with your dad. Thank you. Pat”
She wrote me back at 555pm. She said, “Apparently, you DON’T meddle…what are you doing right now? HILARIOUS!!! Please never EVER send me another email. They won’t be read. You’re right I am planning a wedding, however you are wrong in your thinking I need the 300.00 you “lent” me 11 years ago. I’m sooooooo sorry that this has been “wearing” on you. You will receive a money order asap. I’ve never wanted anything to do with you for years & years…why would you ASSUME that you would be invited to my wedding? LOL You make ALL of us sick to our stomachs. With all of your paranoid personalities, I’m sure you that you have copies of letters you’ve sent to numerous family members…including auntie (sis in laws name) or perhaps the taped conversations. But you don’t remember??? LOL Pat, just because we have the same last names does not make us family.”
WTH? LOL…MY GOD.
Keith’s oldest daughter is around 33 years of age. His other two kids are nearly 21 and 18 years old. His daughter wrote him back at 2219, basically reiterating what she’s said in previous emails, as if he is stupid, and at the end, she says, “p.s. Anymore contact between you and I … will not be done thru emails on my part.”
Gee, who ELSE does that sound like?? Seems his oldest daughter is listening to and siding with his ex wife, who is NOT this girls mother.
I am REALLY sick of all their bullshit. This girl comes out of left field and starts throwing barbs and accusations at Keith and I. He’s sick of it as well.
Keith sent his ex and the court a letter, telling the court that he believes perjury has been committed by his former wife, and named her. He writes:
“Ms. (her maiden name now) declares under penalty of perjury that I served her myself, through the USPS. This is false. My wife is the one that took it into the Post office in El Cajon and paid for the postage. When Ms. (maiden name) signed for the OSC she was served with, she signed her name as “Paris Hilton.” On March 23. 2005, Ms. (Maiden name) denies doing this and told me to “prove it.” Providing a copy of other “printed material” from Ms. (Maiden name) will prove she did sign and print her name as Paris Hilton. One thing that Ms (Maiden name) fails to state is that she was also served by Personal Service on March 3, 2005 by Deputy (First and last name) of (local sheriff’s) Dept in (City) in WA. The Proof of Service by mail that Ms (maiden name) sent me a copy of and sent the court as well, is perjured and forged.
It is declared under penalty of perjury that (first, MI, last name), Ms. (Maiden name)’s former husband deposited the sealed envelope with the USPS with the postage fully prepaid. The truth is, not only is it Ms (maiden name)’s writing on the envelope, it is she that actually dated the form write, (her ex husbands first name MI, last name) and it is she that actually signed the form, as (her ex’s first name, MI, last name ll). It seems Ms. (maiden now) did not remember that (her ex husband) had signed for two other pieces of mail, in the the past that I had mailed Ms (maiden name) when they were married.
In item one of Ms (maiden name)’s declaration, she states that she had had a wage garnishment in effect since April 1991 due to no child support payments voluntarily made from me. The truth is, prior to our divorce, between May 1989 and August 1989, I paid Ms (maiden name) $6000.00. She also paid herself and additional #3121.04 from my business account ($2946.04 by check made out to herself and $175.00 made out for cash, and signed by her.)
I have letters from Ms (Maiden name) in June and September 1990 thanking me for sending her money on time and regularly and telling me that she was on welfare and did not put the money I gave her into a Revenue and Recovery account like Welfare asked her to do. Our divorce was final Nov 29, 1990 and I was ordered to pay $400 month. In January 1991, I drove down to San Diego and paid (ex’s first name)$1000.00 cash. In February 1991, I paid Ms (maiden name) $240.00 cash. She said it would be easier if she got a wage garnishment. I didn’t agree with it, but a wage garnishment order was filed anyway. Ms (maiden name) did not claim the $1000.00 I paid her in January, but claimed the $240.00 I paid her in February, and her attorney at the time, (attorney’s name) got a garnishment which included$1360.00 in arrearages for Nov. 1990 ($400), Dec 90 ($400), Jan. 91 ($400) and partial Feb 91 ($160). The garnishment was effective March 12, 1991.
In item two of Ms (maiden name)’s declaration, Ms (maiden name) states that I will owe her $289.59. This is absolutely false. The fact is, right at this time, I am over paid in arrearages. Ms (maiden name) will be getting her final child support check from me on July 1, 2005 for $258.46 and she will be over paid in child support $86.14.
In item three of Ms (maiden name)’s declaration, she says she has been living in WA state since March 1993. attached is a letter from Ms (maiden name) to my employer, specifically saying effective 2-12-93, her new address is now (lists address). Ms (maiden name) further declares that she is unable to make it to court at this time on this date, and lists several reasons. My income in necessary to support not only my daughter but my 2 other minor children with my current wife, and I too have responsibilities at work and had to request this day off from work, from my employer and I have to drive 2-3 hours one way to be here for Court, and I am here. On March 22, 2005, Ms (maiden name) told me in an email that she will be at court.
I request that the Court consider all Ms (maiden name)’s perjured declaration and order the arrearage garnishment of $50.00 a month to stop, effective immediately, and that Ms (maiden name) be ordered to reimbursement me any and all over payments of child support and arrearage garnishment prior July 1, 2005, by money order or cashiers check, payable to myself (states name and address). I request that the Court specify the actual amount of overpaid arrearages and child support due me, so there will be no question or hassle from Ms (maiden name). This request is necessary as Ms. (maiden name) has told me as of today, there are only 85 days left until I can no longer contact her and that as of June 17, 2005 at 12:00 midnight I will no longer have any right to contact her home or her.
Thank you for your time and consideration. (FULL legal name) CC: (Ex’s first, middle and all 3 last names she’s been known as.) “
Keith provided copies of proof of everything he claimed in this letter. He sent a copy to his ex, delivery confirmation.
Today, March 24, 2005 at 0807am, the ex emailed Keith. Seems she’s had a change of heart about emails and letters. LOL…She’s on a count down. She’s hilarious! She wrote, “Only 85 days left- till you no longer can contact me- as of June 17, 2005 at 12:00 midnight- you will no longer have any rights to contact my home or me.
Doesn’t “12:00 midnight” constitute a new day?
Keith wrote his oldest daughter back. Actually, he emailed her back. He apologized if he offended her but told her that when it comes to the subject of his middle kids, it’s a sensitive subject for me and he does get defensive about it basically because he knows what he’s done and hasn’t done. He also told his daughter that he hasn’t lied to her or his middle kids, and he hopes, “Lord willing” that his relationship with his middle kids will come back around in the future and that he and this daughter can spend more time together than they have.
She wrote Keith earlier this afternoon. She told him that his lasts email was a lot of information to digest. She told him that his ex wife’s email to her did not say anything about his relationship with his middle two kids, that the letter’s purpose, “it seems” was to get her half brother and half sisters information to her. His ex told her that she “had to research” her information to contact her. His daughter said she also “believes this same letter was sent to other family members.”
His daughter goes on to say, “Yes, there have been a lot of problems with you and (ex wife’s name) and unfortunately it has affected your relationship with (son and daughter)….but I’m not taking her side…its unfortunate that ALL of this has trickled into (her half siblings) heart. The only thing I know is what (half sister) has shared with me.”
Very telling to Keith and I.