Visitation 1997

Spring- 1 week- GOT THE KIDS! 4/5-4/12 – apparently there was a bomb threat at the airport in the United Airlines baggage area. Couldn’t find anything online….weird.

Summer-4 weeks-GOT THE KIDS! 7/11-8/16

Winter- 2 weeks-GOT THE KIDS! Have to sacrifice a few days, from 1/1 -1/3 so that they can spend time with ex’s family in San Diego, and probably with her too as she usually goes to San Diego for her birthday.


On Dec. 19th, 1997, I wrote a letter to Anthony, providing copies of all medical, dental, receipts, EOB’s, etc asking him for his share of payment, of $224.39, per the court order.

I told him he could call me to set up a payment arrangement that we would both be agreeable to, that I would type up for him to sign and send back to me. He could pay by check, money order or Cashier’s check.

I told him I would only accept calls from HIM and no one else since this matter is between he and I only.

I sent in on 12/22/97 with a 3811 form. David, at Anthony’s house, Coleen’s son, signed this form again, and I received my part back today, 12/26/97.

Christmas Blowout

Kids got here on Dec. 20th. We Called Keith’s dad earlier today to wish him a Merry Christmas. Up until then, we were having a good day, a great visit.

Everyone spoke to Grandpa except SD. After Sarah had spoken to him, she asked, “Do you want to talk to (SD)?” (SD) was whispering, “NO, No, NO!” and Keith told her to talk to him and wish him a Merry Christmas. She did, finally.

Afterwards, Keith asked her why she didn’t want to speak to her grandpa, and at first she said she didn’t know. Keith told her to think about why. She went to sit in the front room, then she got up and locked herself in the bathroom. She was crying. We all tried to get her out of the bathroom. I didn’t yell at her ever and Keith didn’t yell at her until SD told him, “You don’t care about us!” She also wanted to know why she had to talk to people she didn’t know. Keith had no idea what she meant. (SD) then asked “why do you buy STUPID SARAH everything? I didn’t want to talk to STUPID GRANDPA!”

When I tried to get her out of the bathroom, she said she didn’t want to talk to Grandpa because she hadn’t gotten his presents. While Sarah was talking to Grandpa, (SD) told her to ask Grandpa where their gifts were and I told Sarah NOT to ask him that. (SD) also told us that they are at home and Keith isn’t around (SS) always says “Stupid Sarah” and I asked (SS) if that was right and he said only when she is being bratty her calls her a brat but never says “Stupid.”

AS this is going on, Keith literally had to take the bathroom door off it’s hinges, before (SD) unlocked it.

(SD) said she was going to call her mother, and tell her she wanted to go home, NOW. She did just that.

As (SD) was speaking to her mother, I went to talk to (SS) and told him that I know Sarah, who is 4, could be a brat, I live with her, so I KNOW, but she is only 4 and she’s not a brat all the time. He gave me a hug and cried, after he cried with Keith. (SS) told me that he agreed (SD) shouldn’t have acted the way she did. He understood that there was nothing wrong with calling someone (grandpa) and wishing them a Merry Christmas without receiving gifts.

J also spoke to (SS) and Keith, and BOTH told her we didn’t yell at her. At one point, J told Keith, “You are her father and Patricia is NOT her mother, and I would appreciate if it you would not have Patricia yell at her!” Keith said, “She didn’t.”

(SD) calmed down as the day went on and was back to her old self again, joking with everyone, but for me, It was all too much. My feelings were deeply hurt, and I will admit, I didn’t have much to say the rest of the day/evening. I was entitled to feel what I was feeling, and not wanting to interact with them. Keith understood. He felt the same, but they are his kids. I can hang out and have fun with my two, in fact, I shared my two with my (SS) and (SD), so they can spend time with them and their dad too.

Merry Christmas- Hope yours was GREAT!

Diversion and Order

Things happen and I have no idea about it, LOL.

Apparently the DA took Anthony to court. On 10-30-1997, Anthony signed this order that states he has to Obey all laws, pay support, pay child support arrears, pay by wage assignment, pay to the Office of the Court Trustee, Notify the DA bureau of Family Support of any changes in employment or residence within 5 days of such change, notification is to be made in person or by certified or registered mail. He has to go back to court on 10-14-98 for a progress report and dismissal. The Bond is waived, he has to pay $100 diversion restitution fee to Penal Code Section 1001.90, and he has to pay remaining arrears at approximately $340- prior to end of diversion period, that lastly, the People to apply for release of his driver’s license.

I received a copy of this order today, 12/17/97.

Christmas Shopping

I called J at 7:05 am and we talked about Christmas gifts and lists. She mentioned Bon Marche, which is like a Broadway, and mentioned another store named, LaMont. Talked about shoes for (SS) and hip huggers for (SD). It was a nice convo.

Letter From Her Husband

Wow, so the ex’s husband wrote Keith a letter, about ME! 🙂 I made notes in RED off to the right. 🙂 It’s funny though, the things “he” wrote in this letter are things his WIFE wrote to my husband before. Contrary to popular belief, SHE is responsible for using all insurance available to her, which means her husbands, since she is not carry insurance through her employer.

Another letter from HER

Funny, her husband allegedly wrote a letter dated November 22, but she wrote her’s dated Nov. 20, and both were received on December 1.

In her letter to Keith, she responded twice to a letter he wrote her dated November 6, 1997. In the first paragraph, she wrote “I do not have a big memory lapse when it comes to remember money that you say you sent me as well as everything else. It is not every time just before you are to have the kids for visitation that I decide to start trouble by sending letters accusing you of either half truths or made up things to make myself look good. In fact it is quite the opposite, I was responding to the several letters I was sent while you had the kids last summer. Letters I received at least once a week if not more often. Letters that were so harassing in nature I chose not to respond until I had to. I finally had to when you decided it was probably time to look into visitation again. No half truths I remember very well the incidents that happened with the money and if by chance I slip up you are right there to make sure you get your wife to correct me.”

LMAO…good lord.