Month: November 2024

In about 50 minutes, I start my Thanksgiving break. I was speaking with someone today and was saying that for 19 years, holidays were missing something.

I loved spending time with my family, but ever since Keith died, they were never the same.

THIS year though, I’m happier and I think it has everything to do with my granddaughter being born. She will be 6 months this weekend, and even though she’s teething and cries, it’s just such a blessing she’s in our lives!

Today at work we had our staff-giving. I brought dessert consisting of. 2 ingredient lemon bars (Mix lemon pie filling and Angel Food cake mix together. The Angel food cake mix is the “just add water” kind. I also made brownie chocolate chip cookies, using brownie mix and chocolate chips. Lastly, my daughter helped me make our infamous Cornbread stuffing. Everyone seemed to have loved it! People brought many different foods and it was so nice.

It was a great day today, for me. I hope you all have just an amazing day as well!

TTFN,

P~

The birthday dinner I went to last was interesting.

One thing was that when the birthday girl gave her speech, she said, “there are 3 women here who have…” basically kept her on her toes and listed a few ways how.

There were 9 adults and 1 teenager there, 5 women, 1 female teenager and 4 men. 10 in total.

After nearly 18 years of being with the family, I was not one of the women. In nearly 18 yrs, I brought nothing, or added nothing to this woman’s life. Ok, cool. Then please, don’t pretend with me then. You don’t like me, don’t hug me, stop the fake pleasantries, all that bullshit.

Another weird thing, the birthday girls friend came up, gave my date a hug and said, “Hi Baby…” and gave me a hug. She then hugged another woman and that woman’s husband, and as she’s doing so, asks the woman, “you don’t mind if I hug your husband do you? I mean it’s not like I licked him or anything.” WTF? I don’t know how the woman felt but I was like, “WTF?”

My date said, “that’s her. She’s called me that before.” I said, “for as long as I’ve been with you, she’s never called you that. “ He then said, “that’s just her…”

Whatever.

This woman like to be the center of attention. Always making comments, snide and otherwise, but “that’s just her.” She’s loud, attention seeking. It’s always been a bit much to me but I always let it slide.

Whatever.

This woman and the birthday girl were talking about something last night between them, the woman kept saying, “oh, don’t make me say something, you’re gonna make me lose control of my mouth…” so I can just imagine.

Then comes time to pay the bill. there are 6 adults paying. My date always pays cash. We figured out our portion of the bill including our portion of tax and gratuity since it was already added to the bill. My date always adds more to the tip. The server did us good from the minute we got there, the first to arrive.

We should have just paid our portion and let the rest of them figure out what they owed after that, but nope. The server was forced to print out 6 checks which made everyone’s portion a bit more it seemed since everyone had to pay their own tip. The server said it was difficult to do it this way with such a large party because of the way the system was set up. A male guest pops off with, “oh come on, it’s not difficult. You work in customer service, I’m sure this is not the first time you’ve dealt with this….” I was just embarrassed. The son of the birthday girl took issue with the guests attitude and I don’t blame him. The son even said, “if I had been the one to say what he did, everyone would have come at me.”

The son was right, people would have come at him for saying something, had he been the one to. I understood what he was saying and I agreed with him. I also felt bad for him.

The male guest didn’t have to say anything to the server at all, including telling the server how long he himself has been in the customer service line of work.

Just such drama for no reason.

Last night, I was at a birthday dinner party for someone I know. I was on a date.

Another couple shows up and one of the other female guests said in a low tone how something that bugs the female guest is how the other female calls everyone “honey, sweetheart, baby” and it just bugs her, she hates it. She goes on to say, “and, no offense, it’s usually white women that use these words.”

I’m white. I was the only white female there. I’m European, (Basque and Native American). The rest of the party were African Americans.

When I went to look up her “it’s usually white women that use these words…” comment, I couldn’t find any hard evidence saying anything other than basically these are southern terms of endearment.

Does anyone know differently?

Personally, I use “Honey” a lot. I call those I care about Honey, or Sweetie and I’ve never had any push back or backlash from it.

I know to never use these terms of endearment with that particular woman. I never have, and with good reason, but now I KNOW to not ever do so.

I don’t know if her comment is fact based or if she’s just being her usually self.

I’ve been called sweetie, sweetheart, honey by Black women and never took offense to it.

Another thing that happened was the “no offense” woman’s granddaughter didn’t want to be offensive it seemed and described a white person SHE was talking about as “palm color.” She literally tapped her hand and said “she’s palm color” and the woman said, “ what? Palm color? White?”

Can anyone shed light on this?

It was a bit of a crazy evening. To say the least.