I hate when we order something and it doesn’t arrive on time. We ordered N a cool Lava lamp and it arrived yesterday. I mailed it today.
Kids Leave Today
Ex called from the gate at 2:25 pm
P- hello?
J- Hi
P- Hi
J- how do I get in pass the gate?
P- I’ll let you in.
She got to our home, picked up the kids and left immediately.
She called again at 2:40 pm, while on her way to San Diego.
P- Hello?
J- can I talk to Keith please?
P- hold on, (I turned to ask Keith) Do you want to talk to J? (Sarah said, “I do” LOL) I asked again, you want to talk to J? OH, it’s about that thing?
K- hello?
J- are you ok? the kids told me you were mad about the letter…
He told her he was fine.
Again
Received a $20 money order from Anthony today.
Call For Keith
We were having a late dinner. I made enchiladas. The ex called for Keith at 8:24 pm. I answered the phone. I told her to hold on, and called for him to pick up.
I’m also dishing up dinner, asking the kids if they want red or green enchiladas.
I hear Keith tell his ex:
K- I’ll have some money for you tomorrow.
Ex Called Again
Again, at 7:01 pm- I answered.
P- Hello?
J- is (SD) there?
P- Nope
J- Where is she?
P-Pool
J- ok- and hung up
Ex Called
She called at approx 1pm. She had to leave word on our answering machine. She was calling for (SS), saying to please call her back, that she forgot what size pants and shoes he wears.
Right….
During Visitation
Ex called at 15:55pm. She asked to speak to (SD).
P-she’s not here.
J-where is she?
P-Shopping…with Keith
J- ok, thanks and hung up.
Mo’ Money
The ex called today at 12:53 pm. She left a message for the kids and for Keith. She told Keith she’s waiting for the other half of the check for airfare, that he said he would send it on Friday, (last Friday) and it is now Wednesday.
My Apology Letter to Sitter
“Dear Mrs. R-
My name is Patricia (last name). My husband is Richard (Keith) (last name) and the father of N and L (last name).
It has recently been brought to my attention (July 17th) that I have caused you and your family a great deal of stress and turmoil with my phone call to you on or around June 23, 1998.
I called your home at the request of my husband to verify some information. He wanted to confirm that his name and phone number were in fact, given to you in January 1996, as another person to contact in the event there was an Emergency with his kids, while in your care. This was all the information he was trying to ascertain.
Please accept my sincerest apology, as hurting your family in any way, shape or form, was not my intention and I had NO IDEA that my call to you would have such an adverse affect and be so traumatic for you. I am deeply sorry for this.
Thank you for your time and God Bless You.
Sincerely,
Patricia (last name)
P.S. If you have any questions, please feel free to call or write. 562-***-****”
July 12, 1998
Another tattletale letter to Keith about what I did, as if he didn’t know. In this latest letter, and, by the way, the ones that I have documented here are the ones where his ex mentions me. Remember, WAY back in early days, shall we say, she told him that in fact, I can “butt out” but she’s mentioned me more often than not. Anyway, continuing, in this latest letter of mentioning me, she tells him that on June 23rd, I had called her ex babysitter, “asking questions to the effect of how (the kids) were being taken care of and other character questions about” her. Did she forget that she had already called on June 24,th telling him on the phone that I had called the babysitter?
Well, no, not true. The truth is, Keith had asked me to call to see if he had been listed as the kids father on the Emergency contact.
However, in this same letter, she said that the babysitter’s husband approached her. She told Keith the husband went to her work to speak to her. She told Keith, in this letter, that the babysitter had suffered a debilitating medical condition, that “left her without hearing and unable to function normally for a very long time,” that the sitter was hardly the same person she knew or who watched the kids several years ago.
In a phone call, she told Keith that the sitter “has not ever regained control or her mind back,” and that “she’s not totally mentally there and hasn’t been for over a year and a half to two years. The poor woman probably doesn’t even remember who my kids are because she doesn’t have her mind there.”
Then in this letter, she tells Keith, “(the sitter) was so upset by this telephone call she drove to my house Wednesday and Thursday, July 1 and 2 1998. She was visibly shaken by the telephone call.” Keith and I thought it was pretty “coincidental and convenient” that the sitter drove to her house on July 1, as that was the was the day new court orders were signed and filed with the court.
The Ex said about me, “Pat can feel rest assured she can embarrass me and my kids.” She continued on, accusing me of causing “some poor woman who is not medically well some stress.”
Regarding visitation, she told Keith that on July 9th she called him, and he yelled at her “While Pat was encouraging you in the background.” Not true. She continued blathering on about visitation, until she wrote, “We never had these problems before you met Pat…it’s not the kids fault that you have another child and wife to support. these kids were here first and your priority is to them… Your wife’s behavior is extremely immature and jealous. I must have something she wants. Tell her to get over it and grow up…If you don’t have any money to pay for airfare how can, you afford the attorney calls made by your wife…”
Keith had assured me it wasn’t me. It was here, remembering back to a letter she wrote to him on 9/29/1990 where she states, ” Thank you for the money. Your letter was a good argument against mine. We can’t even write to each other without fighting.”

