So my daughter and son attended her bio father’s Celebration of Life on 10/1/23. Apparently one of her Aunt’s believes I should have been there, and another Aunt spent her time telling my daughter and her two older siblings what a great dad their father was and how he paid his child support, and that at least I should have told my daughter that, she should know that. Well, SHE knows otherwise, to be honest. She knows about court dates, she even went to at least one just to be able to meet him. That didn’t happen, he didn’t show up. Frankly, I feel that wasn’t the time or place for that kind of conversation, so perhaps it was best I didn’t go.
Later on in the month, around 10/28/23, I took a screenshot of a letter an uncle sent me from back in December 2007 and sent it to Sarah via text. In this letter, the Uncle said that IF he understands correctly, I had put a hold on Anthony’s Trust account. He stated there was only about $2000 left and they had been paying the property taxes for his house with the money. He mentioned the house was being held in a trust until he dies at which time it reverts to his children. The Uncle said that if the property taxes aren’t paid, that Anthony as well as Sarah will lose the house. He wanted to assure me that the money had not and won’t be used for anything other than to pay those property taxes, and that Sarah will eventually benefit. He thanked me for continuing to send them pictures of Sarah, more than her father ever said. For reference, this Uncle was married to one of Anthony’s older sisters.
Sarah sent the screenshot to her sister asking for her and their brothers thought on it. She asked her sister if she felt they should be asking for a copy of the Trust. Her sister was surprised by this letter and the fact that there was a trust as she and her brother never knew about it.
LONG story short, from October 2023 to present, there’s been back and forth text messages and letters, Trustee claiming he’s not involved, to maybe this other uncle is or another aunt is, to the kids receiving a copy of the property tax bill from the other uncle sending it to the kids and telling them, “Your father’s mother left in trust the home where you father and (his girlfriend) lived. This Trust spelled out that upon your dad’s death that the home would go in equal shares to his three children. Do you have a copy of the trust and in case you don’t hopefully we can find our copy and sent it on to you.” He actually sent the property tax bill, showing the other Uncle as the trustee. This Uncle had the audacity to write, “I request that whatever you do with the property that you keep the well being of (the girlfriend) in mind. She loved your father. This year will be very difficult for her emotionally and financially.”
Um, the girlfriend has at least one adult child that could help her out, and more importantly, were was this “consideration” from THEIR FATHER towards them, the kids, over the past 30 years? He never made an attempt to see them. In fact, he blamed me for him losing contact with his two older children, and he accused me of keeping our daughter from him. Truth be told, he lost contact with his two older kids because I was no longer in the picture and their mother was not going to send them to the house anymore. She trusted me with her son, who would come for visitation, and I was gone. In January 2006 I called Anthony and told him about Keith passing away, and how it would be good if he came up to the plate to be there for his daughter. He was all agreeable, but never made an attempt to be there for her or see her, ever. The last time he saw her in person, was when she was 10 months old. At the time Keith died, Sarah was 12, and she was 30 when he died. HIS CHOICES. At the memorial service, Anthony’s girlfriend told Sarah that she recognized her from the pics he received and how she looks like him. That’s the only way I knew he got the pictures.
3 family members, the Trustee, the other Uncle and the Aunt were days away from getting a third letter from Sarah requesting a copy of the trust, this time saying the kids will file in Probate court and ask for attorneys fees and damages and other costs since the Trustee, whomever it is, is in breach of fiduciary duty.
Well, Saturday, yesterday, the kids got word from the Aunt that she has Trust papers and they are going to meet next week at a restaurant to pick them up. Well, THANK GOD FOR THAT! I feel bad for these kids, but at least this is a step in the right direction!
Will write more about this, later 😉
TTFN,
P~
~This Is My World~ 