Last night, I was at a birthday dinner party for someone I know. I was on a date.
Another couple shows up and one of the other female guests said in a low tone how something that bugs the female guest is how the other female calls everyone “honey, sweetheart, baby” and it just bugs her, she hates it. She goes on to say, “and, no offense, it’s usually white women that use these words.”
I’m white. I was the only white female there. I’m European, (Basque and Native American). The rest of the party were African Americans.
When I went to look up her “it’s usually white women that use these words…” comment, I couldn’t find any hard evidence saying anything other than basically these are southern terms of endearment.
Does anyone know differently?
Personally, I use “Honey” a lot. I call those I care about Honey, or Sweetie and I’ve never had any push back or backlash from it.
I know to never use these terms of endearment with that particular woman. I never have, and with good reason, but now I KNOW to not ever do so.
I don’t know if her comment is fact based or if she’s just being her usually self.
I’ve been called sweetie, sweetheart, honey by Black women and never took offense to it.
Another thing that happened was the “no offense” woman’s granddaughter didn’t want to be offensive it seemed and described a white person SHE was talking about as “palm color.” She literally tapped her hand and said “she’s palm color” and the woman said, “ what? Palm color? White?”
Can anyone shed light on this?
It was a bit of a crazy evening. To say the least.
~This Is My World~ 