Author: Patricia

“Hi J-

Hope this note finds you all doing well.

I am sending a copy of the “after care instructions” as well as a copy of the RX receipt we got for N on 4-6-97.

We have credited ourselves the $4.82 for the RX. these enclosures are for your records.

This is all for now-take care- Patricia”

“Hi J-

Sorry it has taken a few days to get back to you.

From what I understand, you asked Keith to speak to me regarding the reason’s we need copies of the EOB’s from your insurance company.

The simplest way for me to explain it is this- When we receive your copy, we attach it to the EOB we receive from our insurance company so we can keep our records updated as well. This way, when you send letters updating past due balances, we can compare the figures intelligently and not blindly, since we have something to compare it against. I am sure you understand this. Also, I know you have questioned his reason’s for requesting this information and we believe he has explained his reasons in his declaration written Nov. 21, 1995 (page 2 #6) as well as in his letter to you dated June 12, 1996, June 16, 1996 and July 1, 1996.

If you have any further questions please don’t hesitate to write… or call.

Thank you for your time.

Sincerely,

Patricia (last name)”

I wrote the Ex a letter because she has asked my husband to speak to me regarding the reasons we needed copies of the EOB’S from her insurance company. I told her that the simplest way for me to explain it was this way: “When we receive your copy, we attach it to the eob we receive from our insurance company so that we can keep our records updated as well. This was when you send letters updating past due balances, we can compare the figure’s intelligently and not blindly, since we have something to compare it against.”

I went on to tell her that I am sure she understood this. I told her that I know she has questioned his reasons for requesting this information and that we believe he has explained his reasons in his declaration written Nov.11, 1995 (page 2 #6) as well as in his letters to her dated June 12, 1996 and July 1, 1996.

I told her if she had any further questions to please don’t hesitate to wrote or call. I thanked her for her time signed it, “Sincerely,” and my name.

Receiving EOB’s from her had ALWAYS been an issue. She wanted to just be able to tell him what she thought he owed her and he should have just paid according to her. Fortunately, it doesn’t work that way. SOME ex spouses may be able to handle medical expenses that way, not this one.

So the ex called at 8:55pm. I answered the phone.
P-Hello?

J- Is Keith there?

P- yeah, hold on (called for Keith and let him know who was on the phone.)

K- hello?

J- hey, are you sleeping?

K- un, getting ready to

J- (raising voice) Well then why the hell did she put you on the phone?

K- what?

J- Why the hell did she put you on the phone?

K- (assertive tone) I wasn’t asleep

So now, she’s already pissed, because I put him on the phone, when he wasn’t asleep, and also because a letter he sent that she just got about EOB’s.

She opines as to how she handles the EOB’s, and says she doesn’t see what the big deal is as to why he has to get a copy, in the first place. She doesn’t see what the big deal is as to why he needs a copy of what her insurance pays.

SIGH….

So she talks to him about getting running shoes for their son, how expensive they are, etc. Keith looked up some and price was between $120-$140. She said she would probably spend $80. Keith joked that he would be him a $10 pair, and J said, “Cheapskate.”

Can’t even joke with her.

I was 8.5 months pregnant at this time. Keith and I had been married for ALMOST a year.

J cashed this bank check today, 4-16-97.

“Hi J-

Enclosed is a $10 bank check that pays for our half of the “unaccompanied Minor fee” you paid for.

We had gotten this prior to Keith speaking to you last night, and also decided the kids really don’t need it for the return trip home.

We hope this doesn’t upset you too much, but if it does, we apologize.

We had a great time with the kids and look forward to getting them during the summer.

Sincerely, Patricia”

*Bank check dated 4-11-97

Letter sent today, 4-12-97

It’s always hard when the kids leave. Keith takes it hard, his daughter takes it hard, his son is harder to read, my daughter takes it hard, I’m sad.

Their mom called at 7:30pm. I answered.

P- Hello?

J- Hi

P- Hi

J- This is J

P (like I didn’t know) yeah….

J- did the kids make it to the airport?

P- uh huh

J- Ok, I was double checking

P- ok

J- Thanks

P- uh huh, bye

J- bye

*Click

The kids are leaving tomorrow. Keith had the kids call their mom at 730pm, and she had to speak to him as well to get the flight information and other stuff.

J had told Keith to just remind the kids that they are going to come back for the whole month in July, and that it wasn’t too far off.

Keith said, right, and that they need to get the tickets soon. Then J pops off with, “Whenever your wife want to make the arrangements” and giggles.

Why me? Keith and I look up information for OUR own edification. Besides, I’m not supposed to be involved, I thought. LOL…

So we went to the Children’s Museum in La Habra. Ended up having to take SS to the ER as he wasn’t feeling good.

I had called the ex to tell her, and when she called back, at 8:40 pm, during the conversation, she had told me that she hoped my daughter doesn’t catch what my SS has. She had also dropped this little gem…” Don’t be surprised if Keith is not there at the birth of your child, he disappeared when SD was born.”

I mean, how RUDE is that? WTF? She’s either jealous or catty or just both. It shouldn’t surprise me, and doesn’t really, I guess I’m just surprised at the depths of nastiness she will go.

Just when I think she can’t go any lower….