Author: Patricia

J called earlier. I forgot to write down the time.

She asked if Keith had sent his share of airfare. He told her he hadn’t, and she said,

J- the kids aren’t coming on Saturday.

Keith told her he’s not playing games anymore. Send them or don’t.

J called at 6:03 pm.

J- Is Keith there?

P- No he isn’t.

J- hung up.

Called Anthony about the payment arrangement. He must not be having a good day. He told me he would make the payment but that he was going to pay the past due balance first and then “pay the other one after.” The other ones are the current dental bills he’s been supplied copies of.

During this conversation, he alleged that I “keep bugging him” about all the money he owes me. Not true. We have an agreement in place for past due amount.

By LAW, he has 30 days to reimburse me for these uncovered expenses once I send him a copy of my out of pocket expense.

I told him if he didn’t believe me, to consult his attorney or AN attorney to verify this information.

I told him if I don’t receive these payments accordingly, I would take the necessary steps to get these bills paid immediately.

This is what Keith gets THIS time:

Parties to share equally in uncovered medical, dental , orthodontia, psychological and vision care costs, Both parties to have unlimited but reasonable phone calls and mailings to the children, neither party to interfere. Parties to share equally in the visitation transpo/rtation costs. JLC; Primary custody with his ex visitation to Keith for 5 weeks during the summer commencing 1999, 1998 visitation is 7/16 – 8/14, 2 weeks at Christmas in alternating years, commencing 1999; alternating Easter commencing 2000. If EX exercises her Easter/Spring break in her years, Keith will have additional week in summer for a total of 6 weeks in summer. Ex to notify Keith 45 days before her Easter as to her plans to exercise her right or not. Keith is to notify his ex of summer vacation on or before 4/1 of each year. Keith to pay $700/mo in support.(down from $800) and EX was to give 30 days written notice of non emergency medical care.

EX was LIT that Keith changed his mind regarding their agreement with the Court Mediator. She called AND wrote a letter, postmarked June 22, 1998. Keith told her it was NOT my idea, NOT my fault that he changed his mind, and that the “agreement” had been all in the Ex’s favor and he wasn’t going to discuss it anymore.

Before Keith had court, he was doing his investigations of his ex and her past. He asked me to help him, as he would be working, so I did. The ex got wind of it. In his letter she wrote, she wrote that I was invading her privacy, which was a joke. I didn’t pass myself off as her friend either as she said I did. Every thing I did and the person I spoke to are all a matter of public information. It makes me laugh that she tattles on me, as if Keith didn’t know what I was doing. ANYWAY….

About the agreement they made with the Court Counselor, and Keith changing his mind, she accused Keith of lying, saying, ” you signed a copy of the agreement, then you walked back in 5 minutes later to change your mind. Why did you lie and fake an attempt to work it out? what a waste of time that was. You were too nervous, of what? this is our kids live we are talking about. I feel sorry for (the kids) because they don’t get any voice in this at all and you are going to force them to do things that they do not want to do.” (UM, didn’t she TELL Keith to take her back to court?)

She went on to say she wanted to know if he knew I made phone calls to San Diego. Of COURSE he did, LOL he’s the one that gave me leads to go by. Then she goes on to lie:”I also asked you if we could work this out about visitation several times and you ignored me and told me to shut up. I kept stating that I wanted to work this out so that the judge didn’t have to. ” then she got WAY too funny! she said, “You said you knew about the calls to San Diego. You asked her to call so you could get her more involved with my personal life. You also said that after she had made the telephone calls you both discussed me and how much we used to love each other. You also talked about how you did not want a divorce because you still loved me.” LMAO, actually, what he told me happened was, she was getting ready to go out on a date, and she asked him if they could get back together and he said, “Not only is it a no, it’s a HELL no!”

She told him that on June 18th, just yesterday, that I called their daughter while the ex was at work. It was, after all, her birthday. The Ex said I had no right at all calling the kids, and that if I want to talk to them, I can when and if they visit. She demanded of Keith that he not let me call her house again that I have no reason to. I am not their parent and that I have continued to cause hard feelings in her home and all of them, including the kids do not want me to interfere anymore.

She spewed a lot more crap then said she called a second time today and I told her Keith was eating and hung on her. She said I claimed he would call her back, which in fact he didn’t and she called back two hours later and Keith was still eating, and I had hung up again and didn’t let her speak to him. Well, she did call and I did say he was eating and asked if he could call her back, she didn’t answer, so I said, “He’ll call you back” and I hung up. She did call again, and I told her he was still eating and asked if he could call her back, she was quiet, so I told her he would call her back, and I hung up.

He was eating, but more importantly, she just wanted to hassle him. THAT was a given.

Keith got a letter from L today. she dated it 6-20-98. It was postmarked June 22 and June 23. She asked how he was doing, and that she was fine. She told him Happy Father’s day and apologized that she did not give him anything so she was writing this to him Happy Father’s Day. She wrote, “I love you always.” She asked about Thomas, that she bet’s he’s fine. She’s so funny, she wrote, “He just a little godzilla or JR. godzilla” LOL. she said she had to go now that she will call soon to, and to tell everyone she said Hi. “Love L” with a bunch of X’s and O’s.

The ex called at 7:13 am this morning. She called under the guise of a check she sent to Keith that she failed to realize 12 days earlier she hadn’t gotten the support check. She told me she was stopping payment on said check she allegedly sent, blah blah blah. I told her I had no idea what she was talking about and preferred she spoke to Keith. She went onto say it was for the wrong amount, wrong thing and will send another one.

7:03pm- Ex called for Keith. She hung up because apparently he took too long to get to the phone.

7:09pm- Ex called again, asked Keith if he had gotten the envelope with the check ($446.00) He told her no.

7:17 pm- ex called again. Told Keith she should have sent the check sooner, she just wanted to apologize she’s sure he could have used the money sooner. THEN…

She goes on to the real reason she called, to tattle on me. She asked him if he was aware that I called an old babysitter of hers yesterday. She totally divulged the babysitter’s medical issues and how she probably doesn’t even remember who her kids are. She said the woman’s husband came into her work VERY upset, that I had called.

She said, “It’s embarrassing Keith, I live in a very small town- (24, 009 population)- everybody knows everybody. I’m very embarrassed to have people constantly come up to me and ask me about Patricia (my last name) and “why is she calling me.” The kids are embarrassed by it. It’s not a cool thing to be doing.”

Keith knew, but he just listened to her, acting like he didn’t. LOL.

YIKES! Keith agreed to something he shouldn’t have. His attorney immediately contacted the OTHER party’s attorney and said NOPE, wrong, not agreeing to anything. Contrary to popular belief, It wasn’t MY idea he change his mind, it was his attorney’s because it wasn’t what Keith had requested in his declaration and it his attorney’s job to protect Keith’s rights.

Scheduled another hearing for July 1, 1998.

It’s SD’s birthday, and I called to wish her a Happy Birthday.

Later on, J called to discuss with Keith tickets/airfare for summer visitation. She told him that her ATTORNEY told her to call and ask him if he wants to split airfare 3 ways to include her m other.

K- see what you could find out about airfare

J- No, why don’t you have Patricia call a travel agent and she’ll let the travel agent call for her.

K- we can do that too

J- whatever, but you want to split it 3 ways or not?

K- um, sure.

Between 8:50pm and 9:05pm, calls were placed back and forth.

J called.

K- I can’t do this 3 way thing.

J- Well, then I can’t do middle of the week

K- whatever.

K- hung up

J called back immediately.

J- why did you hang up?

K- I already told you no 3 way thing. I don’t want to do it.

J- why don’t you? Put Pat on the phone- let Pat talk to me!

K- she’s busy- call her later, she’s in the bathroom,

J- let her talk to me about it because she’s the one pulling the strings here-

K- I don’t think so

J-Well I do!

K- Well I don’t think so

J- (inaudible)

K- I don’t think so, not right now, some other time.

Sent L a $15 check and card for her birthday on 6-15-98, then another gift came for her yesterday that I sent to her today. Her birthday is tomorrow.

In a card I wrote to her apologizing that it arrived late, but we didn’t get it until late and it was ordered 4-5 weeks ago. I told her that we will be celebrating her birthday as well as N’s and Sarah and Thomas’s when they get here and that we will have another present for her then. I told her we can hardly wait, we were sooo excited. We hope she has a great birthday and to always remember and never forget that we all love her very much. Take care, God bless her, and talk to her soon.