~This Is My World~

Hi, Patricia here, aka “PisceanGal”. I am starting this blog because I always said I wanted to write a book on what my late husband and I went through dealing with Parental Alienation and all that comes and goes with it. A friend suggested I start a blog, “seriously.”

I am blogging publicly because maybe my experience can help someone else who is going through the same thing I did.

I’ll be sharing stories of my experience, and I will be telling HIS story as well.

I am a big believer in Father’s Rights, I dislike Parental Alienation, and I believe the Courts should acknowledge when PA is introduced with proof, in a divorce/custodial case.

Of course, my past doesn’t define me, it’s just a part of me. Having said that, I will be posting about my life now and what’s going on in it.

I have always believed that journaling is very cathartic.

Thank you for visiting my blog and enjoy!

Make sure to comment on anything you so choose.

P~

Sent Ant a letter on 5/21/2020 but it included 2 notes. The first one I wrote that I had been cleaning out files and attached to this letter was a copy of my court complaint from 1994 where I wrote that I have sole legal sole physical custody, an that he should have the right to visit Sarah with a 3rd party present at any visitation, that he be ordered to take a drug/alcohol test prior to any visitation, that his girlfriend (Coleen) not be present, etc and a copy of a letter from his ex wife to me about him. I also told him I came across a text were he falsely accused me of never him see Sarah.

I reminded him that in 1994, I sued him for custody and I offered a visitation with restrictions. He didn’t show up to court for one, and for two, he told me he didn’t agree with the visitation I offered. I asked why he didn’t show up to court to tell the judge that? The judge ordered no visitation, and it wasn’t MY fault that he, Anthony, didn’t show up.

I told him what I DID do though was write him frequently letting him know how Sarah was and what she’s been up to. When I would speak to him on the phone, I would tell him to let me know when he wanted to see her and we can work it out, but he just didn’t want a 3rd party present. After him threatening to kidnap her and taking her to Mexico and how I’d never see her again, I felt a 3rd party (supervised visitation) was needed.

I also reminded him that when he took me to court in 2008, he said he needed his license reinstated so that he could visit his daughter. Not only did he NOT show up to court, Sarah was there, and for 2, it’s been 12 years and he STILL hasn’t met her or seen her other than the pics I’ve sent. She will be 27 this year and the last time he saw her was when she was 10 months old. He also almost gave her up for adoption.

I let him know that Sarah knows all this and that none of this is her fault, nor is it my fault. She met members of his family back in February and September 2010, 17 years after she was born, and not everyone was happy to see her. That was the last time she’s seen anyone in his family.

I had no doubt that this affects her in some way and I am and will ALWAYS be there for her.

I wrote, “You’re what? 61 years old? Try taking some responsibility for the lack of relationship you have with Sarah. It’s no one’s fault but your own.”

The second letter included a number of various letters back and forth, copies of court papers, the birth certificate he signed from the hospital, her legal birth certificate, more job leads through FB messenger and text messages between us.

In this second letter, I wrote, “Anthony, Hope this note finds you doing well. Sending you this note to send you some info that I’m not sure you had. Also writing to ask you to look in your facebook messenger because I’ve sent pics of Sarah to you. Over the last few years I’ve sent them to your phone as well, but not sure if you’ve gotten them. I’ve also sent pics to (his girlfriend’s) messenger, but she hasn’t seen them either. Anyways, be well- Patty”

This envelope was delivered to his house about 1315 today.

In Feb. 2006, 3 months after he died, my late husband’s ex wife wrote two posts on my blog, spewing her lies about me.  

I’ve posted them, spoke Truth to them and will continue to do so. 

My late husband’s daughter seems to think I have harassed and threatened her, her family and other family members. NOT…. 

Tomorrow marks the 14th Anniversary of Keith’s passing, and I am reminded of his daughter’s last words to him.

“Love your family with all your heart because you will never know when they will be gone and you will never get to apologize or even say goodbye”

THIS is so true, I can’t IMAGINE the pain and guilt that would be connected if someone’s parting words to a family member were one of ANGER and HATE, and then have that member die before amends could be made…

My former stepdaughter, wrote to my son, earlier today: “You haven’t heard from me because of your mother. There’s not enough time or energy I have in my time as a person to express why I hate your mother. Your right there is always two sides and yet she keeps threatening my family still till this day. I’m sorry, I truly am ..but after this I will block you. It’s a sad deal and I’m sorry you are going through it all…but it is what it is. Your right I chose mot to because of her. You are her kid…I wonder why I wouldn’t reach out when she has threatened me and my family as much as she has. I will stay far away from her as I can. Which involves you!! You get no response from any siblings because of her and what she has caused to my family and all the others and their families. your right it isn’t your problem but you are her kid and thats all you and no offense but it is what it is…you are just like your mother and this is why I don’t talk to you. So yes, I will remember it…”

She was accusing me of threatening her and her family. I have done no such thing. Falsely accusing me of things I am not doing doesn’t sit well with me and to state such bullshit to my son, really pisses me off. 

Where is your proof, Lisa? Where is your proof that I keep threatening your family “still till this day” Where is your proof that I have threatened and your family as much as you allege I have? Be careful with your words. Falsely accusing someone of threatening you is against the law. This isn’t a case where like your Mom threatened to be on my door step so I “better be afraid” and can be PROVEN she made that threat. YOU arbitrarily made this accusation/allegation to my son, with absolute NO PROOF. 

False Accusations—Defamation of Character by Libel or Slander 

When one person makes false accusations against or statements about another and “publishes” those statements (by transmitting them to a third party by written word or word of mouth), and those statements damage the reputation, character or integrity of that person, the target of the statements may recover damages from the person who uttered the false statements. Such statements are called defamation of character. There are two types of defamation 

1. Libel: Libel is a defamation that is written, such as in a newspaper, magazine or on the internet. 

2. Slander: Slander is a defamation that is orally published, such as in a speech, over the airwaves, or in casual conversation. https://www.nycbar.org/get-legal-help/article/personal-injury-and-accidents/false-accusations/ 

So, remember when I wrote in September 2016, about Keith’s granddaughter writing on FB to my son, telling him that his dad cheated with me while he was married to her grandmother?

Well, I saw today that her own Baby daddy wrote on HIS FB about how social media was the reason his life exploded a while back, He said he learned how 1 out of 3 couples have cheated using social media and have shared explicit pictures and videos through the social media apps, and he is one of those people it happened to! He said it had gone on for 6 years, behind his back. 6 YEARS!!

For a minute he sounded like Keith. Baby Daddy wrote, “I worked 14 hour days, traveled and was away from my family and made sure the mom could be a stay at home mom like she wanted to, and always tried to make sure she had everything she needed to make sure her days weren’t filled with stress.” Sounds like a sweet guy. I said he sounded like Keith because Keith worked a lot when he was married to ex #2, having his own trucking company, and in a letter his ex wrote him once she acknowledged that it’s been tough going from $6000 a month doing whatever she wanted to do whenever she wanted, to $800 a month after taxes.

ANYWAY, this young man wants to go to school to become a Family Therapist, “believing he can help keep families together, work through the issues they face with them and make sure the choice to separate is the last and final choice.”

More power to him, I wish him luck! 6 years, GEEZ, how devastating, so NOW it makes sense why she, his ex, came after me accusing ME of cheating, because apparently, it was HER cheating him.

People tell on themselves.

WILD…..

Keith was denied visitations on more than one occasion, actually at LEAST 7 times. She liked to say he “could not afford the cost of transportation from WA to CA” Her unwillingness to work with him or pay for the airfare and he pay her back was a major issue and why she DENIED visitations. That will be for another post. This link has some very interesting info in it.  

https://www.divorcenet.com/resources/child-custody/child-visitation/how-deal-ex-spouse-withholding-child-visitation

Sent Ant a text at 00:05am Jan 1- “Happy New Year! Wishing you a happy, healthy prosperous 2017- Sarah-minutes ago” and sent a pic of Sarah.

” LMAO, ok, I will tell her. good thing for your case, I have proof saying the contrary. When you took me to court one year, she went, thinking that’s how she was going to see you, you didn’t show up. Should I tell her the house in (City) you used to live in was sold and you no longer live there, or that you are now living in (another OC city)? And lets get this straight, the JUDGE/COURT ruled you had no rights of visitation due to your (personal) abuse, but like the nice person I am, for 16-18 years, I tried to set it up where she can see you, but you never answered or wanted it to happen. So take THOSE FACTS and chew on it. If you had ANY interest in her life, for the past 23 years, you would have made an EFFORT.”

minutes later, he responded:

“Patty you need to get your facts straight I still in (City). Point is I choose not to talk to you, but please tell Sarah I would be honored to see my own daughter again and to call me.”

I wrote back:

“Where have you been for the last 5 years? Where have you been ll those years that I was writing you asking you to see her, that you didn’t have to deal with me, you could see her another way, and you were crickets, never took my offer… I will tell her, when I see her today. You’re still HILARIOUS! Thanks for my morning laugh”

Then around 13:15, I took a screen shot from court papers from 2008 and sent it to him, where he claimed he needed his license reinstated so he can “visit my child” I wrote “your declaration from 2008- you never made an effort! Stop your LYING…. By the way, since you have no need to talk to me ever, YOU tell my daughter whatever your messages are…”