~This Is My World~

So since the beginning of the year, I had been emailing my stepson, who is now 19 and living with his grandmother in San Diego county. It seems he was having trouble with the insurance. We had switched to one insurance that was more convenient for us and him since he is in CA now.

Today, I sent him an email at 2:48pm telling him that I would be sending out information to him tomorrow, but I wanted confirmation as to whether he still needed the information because his mom told Keith that SHE has sent him the enrollment form he needed.

One would think she would get tired of constantly griping about BS. In this latest email, from today at 1316, she’s complaining about the insurance, YET AGAIN, stating that there is “no reasonable way” for their daughter to seek medical attention in their state from a Kaiser facility, threatening to contact her attorney “about this absurd medical issue.” Um, there IS a reasonable way for their daughter to seek medical attention, the EX just has to use the insurance properly, and have the bills processed properly, to start. It’s just that simple. Contact her attorney? LMAO, go for it. She tells Keith in this email, “I will get orders to change the coverage if you don’t remedy this situation immediately. CRAZY, LOL.

Their son is over 18, and she is STILL talking to Keith about the medical coverage for their son. First of all, Keith is under no court ordered obligation to continuing to carry his son on his insurance. Secondly, there is no reason for HER to be talking to Keith about his medical coverage for their son. What is wrong with their son’s voice? Does he not have one? Of course not, she has spoken FOR HIM all his life. I often found it funny how she picks and chooses when she allows the kids to speak for themselves and when she doesn’t. When the kids are telling him off, and yelling at him and emailing Keith rude and disrespectful email, she’s ok with it, but for Keith to actually talk to his kids, especially their son, about his insurance coverage, NOPE, can’t DO THAT. At any rate.

She tells him again in all caps, “Do NOT UNDER ANY CIRCUMSTANCES CALL MY MOTHER OR ANY OTHER MEMBER OF MY FAMILY AT THEIR HOMES. IF THIS HAPPENS AGAIN I WILL GET A RESTRAINING ORDER AGAINST YOUR WIFE AND YOU. You have no reason to this at all.

She told Keith that if he needed to contact his son, call his cell phone, write him a letter or e-mail and to “NOT INVOLVE MY MOTHER OR MY FAMILY,” and the same directive went towards their daughter too, you know, call her cell phone, write her a letter or e-mail and “DO NOT CALL ME FAMILY.” GOOD LORD. WHOTF does this woman think she is?

She ended this email saying, “Questions on this contact my attorney.”

Questions? Keith is not the one that is having issues with anything, LOL. OH, and by the way, this email from her was CC’d to their son AND, get this, HER MOTHER AND her mother’s husband.

Imagine that.

(sent to stepson at 2:48pm)

“N,

I missed the mailman. I will send the information out to you tomorrow, however, your mom said that SHE had mailed the enrollment form to you. Do you have it, did you get it, or do I still need to send it? Let me know, please.

I will also include some other information about the insurance as well.

P~

(sent copy of HB Election Form, and services available in his area of San Diego County)

Spring- 1 week- DENIED

Summer- 5-6 weeks- DENIED- Ex moved and said she would keep the kids if she moved.

Winter- 2 weeks-Ex’s year, but she allowed (daughter) to visit from 12/21-12/29. (Daughter) went to WA to LA to San Diego. Last time he saw his daughter.

1-18-02- Thank you card from L & N. Postmarked 1-15-02, addressed to “Richard D and family” written in J’s writing. L writes, “Thank you for the cd’s and movie. I

enjoy watching a listening to them. Love ya L” N wrote, “Thank you for the car cleaner and certificate to Target. Thank you so much for the certificate. N”

2-7-02 Sent a package to N & L. It was delivered at 4:37pm on 2-9-02

4-9-02- sent package to kids for Easter. It was delivered to them on 4-11-02 at 1:24 pm.

5-28-02- POSTMARKED 5-24-02- addressed to “Mr. & Mrs. D” written in J’s writing, returned address says N D (his first and last name), is N’s graduation announcement.

6-14-02- sent gift box to kids. It was delivered 6-17-02 at 1:40pm. 1 day before L’ s birthday! YEAH!

7-3-02- received info and order form from Ahmann’s Images from N’s graduation.

7-5-02- Keith ordered 1 5×7 photo ($8.50) of N and a video ($15) plus $5 mailing costs ($28.50 total).

8-28-02- received the order from Ahmann’s.

9-10-02- sent N a package. Package was delivered 9-12-02 at 5:21 am. (hmmm)

11-27-02- Keith sent N a note (dated 11-23) and a $50 check (written by me on 11-23) for reimbursement of a claim. Letter and check were delivered 11-29-02 at 1:48 pm

12-02- Keith got L Zoo Tycoon, Marine Mania, Monsters, Inc., Spirit and some slippers for Christmas. She was here for a week. She took everything with her to her grandmothers.

The pics I emailed last night got a response today from J. She responded back, at 8:30am writing, “I have always wanted another picture of Richard, Thanks.”

Of course I knew this, LOL.

At 8:40am, I wrote back, “LOL! ok, you’re very welcomed.”

We saw L for a week. I took some pics of her with her dad and grandparents when we dropped her off. I sent them to her, her mother and her grandma a few minutes ago.

Keith emailed the ex back at 0624, telling her ” and yet ANOTHER fine example of you following court orders. Right on the first PAGE of the 1998 court order, it says that the only contact the parties will have is regarding the children. The children being (son) and (daughter). From this email, it is obvious you can’t even follow the SIMPLEST part of the court order.

LEAVE SARAH AND THOMAS OUT OF YOUR EMAILS. They are not part of the court order and they are NONE of your business. Keith”

Ex responded at 0802 writing, “I never said anything about Sarah and Thomas. You just did.”

At 1511 Keith e-mailed his ex back. “Read it again. Do you suffer from comprehension problems? do you forget what you write? it’s not rocket science who you were referring to when you said, “Is that what you do with the children living with you now.

Do you tell them that because it is not an emergency than they have to wait 30 days before you take them to the doctor. Grow up and leave “the children living with (me) now” out of it. They are not part of the court order, they are NONE OF your business, and what goes on with them is none of your business either. Keith.”

The ex emailed at 2045 writing, “OOOH touchy and too protective over those but give a shit less on the first 4. I guess you only rank importance when you have to listen to them whine daily. Too bad you don’t feel this way about the others you abandoned.”

At 2050, Keith wrote, “SHUT THE HELL UP BITCH and leave them out of this. Keith”

He did NOT care that he wrote that, he had reached his limit with her bullshit. I have no doubt she told her daughter what he said. She probably let both kids read that email.

Ex and Keith were e-mailing about a non emergent medical issue with their daughter. At 1626, Keith had told her that whenever she fails to follow court orders she always throws in “it was an emergency” and wondered why she would wait until something became “an emergency” before doing anything about it.

She didn’t like that. When she emailed him back at 2206, she wrote, “Why don’t you care about her? why does it matter if it was or wasn’t. who cares it is our daughter and she was uncomfortable and wanted it taken care of. why do you put money before her health? is that what you do with the children living with you now. Do you tell them that because it is not an emergency than they have to wait 30 days before you will take them to the doctor. What an idiot you are….”

WHAT? LOL…talk about an idiot. We USE providers of service and we don’t wait until something becomes “an emergency” to take care of it.

At 1452, my stepdaughter emailed her dad and told him, her mom and her grandma how her Christmas vacation/visitation is going to go. It was clearly all for her dad’s benefit, because we will never be convinced that her mother and grandmother didn’t already know the details. ANYWAY, she started off snarky- “ok Here is the plan if anyone miss heard it or just don’t get it at all….” and proceeds to tell him the night she is leaving on 12/20 to stay the night to catch a flight in a closer town (which was more expensive and against court orders) the next morning to come out to CA. She wrote she was staying with her dad from the 21st of December (his birthday) until the 29th and on that day, her and her dad will be driving to Oceanside, (over an hour drive for him) leaving early enough to meet her grandma and her grandma’s husband to have lunch (even stated what restaurant) between 2 and 3, believing that that was about “half way”) at which time she will leave with her grandma and her grandma’s husband to go back to El Cajon, to spend time with her and other family members, which would be about a 45 minute drive for her grandma’s husband. I don’t think that that is half way… but oh well…. She said that’s the plan for “X-mas Vacation” and “if you disagree some way or some how contact me asap…” Her PS was to say she will be sending driving directions for both her grandma and Dad on how to get to the restaurant in the next day or so.

Keith responded to his daughter, her mother and her grandmother at 1536 saying ” me, you, Thomas, Sarah and Pat will take you to meet up with your grandma on the 29th. I will take your wishes under advisement. What is the big rush? this is still about 6 weeks away. Like I told your mom, I will talk to the OTHER adult in the situation, your grandma, about the 29th. I am not agreeing and I am not disagreeing. What I am saying is that if it works out to be the time frame you mention here, fine, if not, because of something I may have planned, then we will deal with it. If you have a problem with this, or disagree, let me know asap.:” He thanked her for the driving directions and joked because he didn’t know where Oceanside was.

At 2108, guess who wrote back? Yep, the ex. She said that 6 weeks is plenty of time for him to make their daughter’s wishes for drop off and pick up the plan. She said if he had plans then he should have told their daughter that before she made these plans, that at first she wanted to leave on Saturday and changed her plans to suit his. She wrote in bold, “Taking her suggestions up for advisement is not what anyone is asking.” She added, “this is the way that (daughter) wants to spend her time. You need to make plans and arrangements accordingly. The other adults have agreed to this time frame as well. The visitation schedule is to be worked out between (daughters) parents. Saturday is the preferred day to meet halfway, but (Daughter) changed her plans because you said it would be better.” The ex continues to blather on about how it’s settled then, on Sunday the 29th, between 2:00 and 3:00 pm he will meet with an adult (whichever adult she, the ex chooses) who will pick up (daughter) in Oceanside at said restaurant and take her to San Diego to stay with her great grandma and relatives. She said (daughter) sent directions to the restaurant they were meeting at because there are two in Oceanside, and they all know he knows where Oceanside is. Then she ends with the zinger. “You just can’t travel alone you might escape, the whole family must accompany you because you might run away or see something that interests you more.” and she signed her e-mail “Mary Poppins” because Keith told her one time that she thinks she’s perfectly perfect in every way.