~This Is My World~

Sent J and J a Christmas card. Enclosed was Keith’s new insurance info. I signed the card Keith, Patricia, Sarah and Thomas.

Wow, so the ex’s husband wrote Keith a letter, about ME! 🙂 I made notes in RED off to the right. 🙂 It’s funny though, the things “he” wrote in this letter are things his WIFE wrote to my husband before. Contrary to popular belief, SHE is responsible for using all insurance available to her, which means her husbands, since she is not carry insurance through her employer.

Funny, her husband allegedly wrote a letter dated November 22, but she wrote her’s dated Nov. 20, and both were received on December 1.

In her letter to Keith, she responded twice to a letter he wrote her dated November 6, 1997. In the first paragraph, she wrote “I do not have a big memory lapse when it comes to remember money that you say you sent me as well as everything else. It is not every time just before you are to have the kids for visitation that I decide to start trouble by sending letters accusing you of either half truths or made up things to make myself look good. In fact it is quite the opposite, I was responding to the several letters I was sent while you had the kids last summer. Letters I received at least once a week if not more often. Letters that were so harassing in nature I chose not to respond until I had to. I finally had to when you decided it was probably time to look into visitation again. No half truths I remember very well the incidents that happened with the money and if by chance I slip up you are right there to make sure you get your wife to correct me.”

LMAO…good lord.

Keith had bought some candy that his daughter was selling so on the 25th, we sent her a money order $16.00 for the candy, and I wrote her a note.

Keith got a letter from L today. She dated it Oct. 15, 1997. She asked how he was, said she was fine. Said she loves him very much. She asked how Thomas is and if he’s bigger today. She told Keith again that she missed him very much, she’s fine in school. She asked if everyone is good here, and to tell everyone she loves them and misses them to. She asked what Sarah was going to be for Halloween. She said she will call him on Saturday. She wrote, “Love your Dauter, P.S. xoxoxoxoxoxoxoxo KISS YOU LATER DAD”

Sweet girl.

Keith sent an EOB form note to J and I added a message to it: I wrote,

‘J-

The adjustment is due because there was a problem with 1996 deductible not being met when the insurance improperly paid a claim on Sarah. A claim for Sarah was applied to the deductible when it shouldn’t have been. Thank you- Patricia”

We had visitation with the kids from July 11th to August 16th. During this time, we had the kids pictures taken, all 4 of them. It was not a good experience, but I wrote the kids and told them what was going on with the pictures.

Sent this to J today:

“Hi J-

Enclosed are a couple EOB’s we have received recently.

The one for a DOS of 7/29/97 is actually a zero balance because the P/L of $8 that is due is our co-pay which a copy of the receipt is also enclosed. Please do not bill your insurance for this.- The provider of service isn’t either.

The EOB for a DOS of 7/30/97 w/ the P/L of $3.45 is currently being billed to (her insurance) by (Provider), so as usual, when you receive the EOB from them, please forward a copy to us. Thank you-

Of course as the EOB’s come in for the office visit of 7/30/97 and (provider) on 8/5/97, I will send you copies, but they will be billed by the providers of service to your insurance company.

On 7/30/97, I had obtained J’s verbal authorization to release his information, including ss# to providers of service, anytime we have to take the kids to the doctors or what have you.

Please refrain from calling our home to yell at us, and accuse us of invading your privacy, giving out info w/out authorization, and using J’s ss# fraudulently, because it simply will not be true. Sincerely, Patricia (middle initial, last name) “

Sent this to J today:

“J-

I guess I should “time” these things better so you don’t feel overwhelmingly harassed, but time ISN’T always on my side!! Sorry!!

Here are a couple more copies of receipts from 7-30 when I took N to see the doctor about his (*****). Of course we are crediting ourselves this money so far.

In your message left on our answering machine, you stated “if there was a problem- I wish someone would have called me…”

Obviously there was no problem- it was not a life or death situation- it wasn’t even an emergency- the kids health is normal they sometimes get colds & flus & even sometimes just don’t feel good- this was the case- N was complaining of (********) we took him to the doctors. Do you call Keith when you take the kids to the doctors- I think not!! You don’t even call when it’s an Emergency (eg: April 1995) why are you making a mountain out of a mole hill??!

By the way- I did tell J and HE obviously told you- so whats the big deal! Obviously neither one of you thought it was an emergency situation, otherwise YOU would ahve called a hell of a lot sooner than you did! (after 7pm) Contrary to your way of thinking, the kids get taken care of when they are with us as well.

Secondly, you were obviously perturbed to find out Keith returned to work. NOONE told the kids he was off the entire time. When L asked if he had to work on the DAY we picked them up from the airport, we told both of them he was off for 3 weeks. We mentioned it again the 28th and 29th! When talked about it with the kids, they understood that Keith wouldn’t always be able to take a long vacation, if any at all sometimes, while they are visiting and N said, “So! That’s OK!” I told them that I had been told that they didn’t like me and didn’t want to stay with me while their dad worked, and N said that wasn’t true.

So, once again- contrary to your thinking the kids and I do get along- we do like each other, (it’s D they didn’t like) & if it’s ok for their dad to work while they are here visiting, then I must not be the ogre you portray me to be to them!!

You once made the comment to Keith that my letters to the kids are nothing like the one’s I write you- DUH! Since I need to spell it out- the reason for this is because I don’t have a PROBLEM with the kids!! If I did, the situation would be handled differently because they are kids!!

By the way, it’s none of your business when Keith works or doesn’t work- ask long as you continue to get your support money- what’s YOUR beef? I’m an adult- I have two kids of my own, and I can handle situations that come up at anytime. Although I have to say, it’s obvious you have serious doubts about Keith’s ability to be a good concerned parent. Take N’s (****) for example. This is nothing new. You & Keith have had this conversation before about his (*****), You told Keith you weren’t going to look into it further because your (provider) there said it was “growing pains and normal for a 12 year old.”

Well over the last two days or so it’s really been bothering N so Keith wanted him to be seen. N did most of the talking to the provider. He knows how his (****) feels, he knows when they hurt, he knows how to describe the pain- while the provider was examining him- his Left (****) in particular- really pained him. Does Keith get any kind of “thanks” ( for the lack of a better word)- not from you!!

Instead, he gets chastised about it, along with questions about sending you bills for it!! Excuse me, but “what’s good for the goose is good for the gander.” J- you have joint legal custody (he will never give you sole custody) and just as you see fit to take the kids to the doctor for their illnesses and when you are concerned about something, so does he.

Lastly, the kids and I are having a great time- they both have fun with and love Thomas, their new brother, and take turns holding him and feeding him. They have been like this with him since day one!! I’m glad to see it, so is Keith. They are real good with Sarah as well, although she is your typical 3 year old and gets jealous sometimes, but kids will be kids and for the most part, they play and get along every day.

So anyway- take care and I’m sure we’ll be hearing from you one way or another. Until then- Patricia”

Sent this letter to J today.

“Hi J-

Here are copies I think you need for your records. So far we are crediting ourselves, $4.82.

When you receive the bill after both insurance companies have processed the claim- we will be paying the balance due, since we owe you money, and will deduct your share from what we owe you, just as we are doing for N’s 4/6/97 visit to hospital. Thank you- Patricia”