Aug. 21, 1996
Keith said I could call you, but I have opted to write you instead. I am writing to formally request that you deal with ME if you have a problem with ME, and not Keith.
I have NO idea why you choose to hate me so much. Please explain it to me. I have NEVER done anything to you that didn’t warrant a “higher authority” (ie: police) to be involved.
Your “issues” with me need to be dealt with separately, and the letters and phone calls to Keith should be about the Health, education and welfare of the kids ONLY.
You needn’t call Keith and whine to him about things I do. My calling the kids is not impediment on their lives. At the time of my call YESTERDAY, all they were doing was tv- no harm! I don’t call ALL the time, but I DO GENUINELY care about the kids, after all, they are my step-children now, and since I take my wedding vows “til death do us part” very seriously, they will be my step children for a LONG time. I’m sure it’s the same for your husband K, who is their ‘step father.’
Anyway…I think YOU should be GLAD that I take an interest in their lives!! Why do you fell the necessity to hamper ANY kind of relationship we begin to develop WHEN we are ALLOWED to see them!?? Why don’t you encourage it? Why don’t you channel all the energy you have been WASTING on hating me, into something positive? Why can’t you TRY to get along? I’m willing.
It is so ironic how you always tell Keith how the two of YOU should try to get along “for the children.” Don’t you think it would be EVEN BETTER if all FOUR of us, you, J, Keith and myself ALL got along “for the children”?
Keith never call’s YOUR home and harass you about J!! Why do you feel the need to be so hateful?
Maybe you could spend less time in hating me for NO REASON, and more time concentrating on letting Keith know about the important things going on with kids like trips to the Emergency room or graduating!! These are things he needs to know about! He doesn’t need to know about how you hate me and don’t want me calling the kids or sending them anything!!
Is this why you have chosen NOT to let the kids visit ANY TIME this summer? another irony on your part. If you kept copies of your past letters to Keith, maybe you should reread them. They contain sentences written by you, about how the kids “love him, miss him want to see him,” and a direct quote from April 16, 1995: “,,,Both of these kids need your support too, not just the money. How about some of your time…” Denying his “time” with the kids certainly contradicts your statement, don’t you think? However this letter is NOT about THAT. It’s about YOUR problem with me, and how we can rectify ‘the problem.” Of course, YOU are the one who control’s this situation. If you chose to continue on this way, then I respect your decision, but at the same time, I feel VERY SORRY for you! FORTUNTELY, for ME, I have NEVER KNOWN what it’s like to LOATHE someone AS MUCH AS you do me!!
As far as I’M concerned, I will continue as I ALWAYS have. After this, my only correspondence to you will be as it has been in the past, sending you copies of Explanation of Benefits, with the exception of the letter re: L’s walkman.
As far as my involvement with the kids is concerned, that will not change either. I am doing no harm to them, nor am I doing ANYTHING WRONG in the eyes of the court or law, however if you are going to deny visitation to Keith because you do not like me, then you are very wrong, and I sincerely hope you do not resort to that.
Thank you for your “time” J. This letter was written with no malice intent or ill will. I am just trying to call a “truce” or find a middle ground with you. That’s all. Patricia (last name)”
I also sent a copy of this letter to J’s attorney, letting him know that I was prompted to write it and deal with her directly after her phone call to my husband last night pertaining to a matter that involved me. I told him I sent it to him for her file, or round file, whichever he preferred, in case J claims she never got it.