SURPRISE!

What a Surprise it is! I received a letter from my daughters Aunt on January 5th. She is one of the oldest girls, and she was a twin, but her twin passed away a few years back. This letter included the last two years company business Christmas letters. Really cute! ANYWAY…

She wrote my daughter and I. It was a really sweet letter and the first “real” response I have ever gotten from anyone on Anthony’s side of the family.

She wrote: “Dear Patty and Sarah, you have been so faithful in sending (her husband) and I yearly Christmas card for may years in spite of the fact that I have never responded and I am ashamed of my neglect. Believe me, when I receive it, I have good intentions of writing you, but am sorry to say that every year when the season is over, I move onto things I had neglected over the years. This year was going to be different. I put your card besides me bedstand and reminded myself daily and here I am finally.

I do admire your courage in sending us a card in spirt of us never acknowledging it. I would love to see both of you or at least visit on the phone so that we can catch up. My phone number is…. How old is Sarah now? How are you doing Patty?

In closing, I want to tell you that my wonderful brother Anthony would love to be able to have a relationship with Sarah. He’s a good man, but made bad choices. If you vie me permission, I would be happy to give you his phone number and he can get to know Sarah. I believe there is nothing better he would like. Or I can give him your number. Its all up to you.

Happy New Year Patty and I look forward to hearing from you.”

and she signed her name.

What struck me is I can hear her saying this, with her accent. 🙂

My daughter, on her biological father’s side of the family, is Chinese, Portuguese and Malaysian. 3 out of the 5 siblings were born in Hong Kong, and lived in Macau.

I did call this sister. It was really good to speak with her. We spoke of her mom, may she RIP, I knew she had passed away, we spoke of her husbands business, car sales, been in business for 39 years, how she will be this July, I can’t believe it!

She was under the impression that Anthony was “very good at paying child support” LOL. That gave me a chuckle. She told me that he was heavily influenced by her twin sister and their mom. She said, “People change, mature. Do the wrong thing then do the right thing” and that’s where her brother is. He’s sober now, has been in a long term relationship. She did not speak kindly about either of Anthony’s ex wives, which surprised me about the first ex, but I wasn’t surprised about the second ex, the one he left me for. All in all it was a good conversation. She said her brother didn’t know she wrote me, or what she said. I asked how he was and she said that at her age almost 83, she’s in better health than he is that when he was fired from his job, he couldn’t get another one because of a situation that happened him and his second ex and her son that got him arrested, so he had been doing handyman work, but now, it’s hard for him to work like he was. That saddened me, but then I thought, “THERE IT IS!” he’s not in a way health wise. Makes me sad. I wish him the best, but since my daughter will be 30, a relationship with him NOW, is all up to her. I’ll be here for her of course. Not sure she will go for it because like she said, after she read this letter, “Why now?” He’s had plenty of opportunities, and never took them.

We’ll see.

Peace,

P~