Author: Patricia

I know I have been. I know why- I think. Past relationships. My Mom died when I was 4, and I think that’s probably when my huggy phase started. My dad wasn’t a real huggy person, but I believe my mom was.

Then in my early 40’s, I became a widow., suddenly and unexpectedly. Here one hour, he was gone 4 hours later. As time went on, and I entered into another relationship, which I’m still in, 14 years later, I always needed to be near him, touch his arm, hold his hand, make sure he was still there. At night, i would hold a corner of his boxers, just to know he’s there, or lay on his arm, sometimes do both.

I have since outgrown that, not because I wanted to, I still get anxious, but I don’t think I was ever able to get him to understand why I was like that, so I had to just stop being like that. I felt that he thought I was too clingy.

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/fixing-families/202104/why-some-people-become-so-clingy?utm_source=FacebookPost&utm_medium=FBPost&utm_campaign=FBPost&fbclid=IwAR17VByXc4soq2Wt1PL2GM4x3sHkG2bsMxQoVDKHAfLu3nBZAGYGKTaUlOs

1) Hi Patricia,

I read your letter and it is right on point! I am so glad you are sending it to the Board! 

In solidarity,

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2) Thank you Patricia! Your letter is so well written and powerful! Thank you for your support.
Best,

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3) Thank you! It really is going to help me write my letter. Yes, please share it with P*****, D* G*****and anyone else you feel relevant.
Best,

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4) I agree with M******, your tone is professional and powerful. You can send it to whoever you think needs to see it, your choice

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5) well written!

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These are some comments I received from my Union Rep., our Union Sec., and a friend.

I wrote a letter to the Upper Echelon of the place I work for, because of an insensitive comment that was made by a lead negotiator for the Business. Crass is quite an appropriate word, and yes, I used it in my letter.

Their comments brought tears to my eyes because I KNEW what I wanted to say and how I needed for my letter to sound, and their responses meant more than they could ever imagine.

The request I made in my letter May not pan out, but at least the Board knows how I and I HOPE my fellow Chapter Sister and Brothers feel.

Have you experienced this?

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/understanding-grief/201709/ambiguous-loss

I can’t believe it’s JULY 1 already! Where did the time go?? Things are decent 😉 We have a 4 day weekend this weekend! Working Summer School, or “Extended School Year” (ESY) we only work 4 days a week. Being that the 4th is on Sunday, we also have Monday off 😉 We have two more weeks of ESY, then off for about 3 weeks, then back to work, regularly scheduled programming 😉 THANK GOD! My paycheck misses the hours and $$.

Hope you are all doing well. Have fun this weekend but PLEASE, stay safe!!

TTFN,

P~

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#PRIDE WTG Word Press!

THIS is why my late husbands ex wife hated me so much. I saw through her. I was on the outside looking in, and as my husbands partner, I was no longer going to allow HER to control him, to dictate to HIM how things were to go.

I investigated, I researched, I would provide him my discoveries. She hated me for that, which is why she ALWAYS accused me of “butting in.” It’s why she ALWAYS threatened me with lawsuits and restraining orders, for violating her “right to privacy.”

She hated me. She saw that I could read her, she hated me. She trashed talked me to her children, she also trash talked Keith to his kids, but she seriously despised me.

And I was and am fine with that.