Author: Patricia

So I found something out today about Keith having to pay for college. I found out that if Keith did not agree to paying tuition in the original Judgement or in any subsequent modification, it wasn’t happening. Keith would have had to agree to and he never did, as it was NEVER brought up. I learned that that additional support has to be agreed upon and that ONE party cannot ask the Court for it to be ordered. The law doesn’t have a provision for that to be mandatory like child support is, uncovered health expenses. College Tuition is a dream.

Duly noted. 🙂

There was a big earthquake in WA, 6.8! I called the ex and kids to see how they were.

I called the ex at her work, the woman that answered the phone said

Employee- (Ex) was trying to get ahold of (her husband) but I think she would like to speak to you!

J- Hi

P- HI! I just got home and saw the news! I was calling to see if you guys were ok!

J- hung up.

Between Jan. 26th and Feb. 13th, I sent Anthony 4 letters, giving him updates. Sometimes I write monthly, other times, weekly.

I wrote a letter to him today, 2/14/01, letting him know what she’s up to. I also told him that she was finally getting over this cold we have been “sharing”, UGH. I let him know that her “asthma has been really acting up though and that she has been taking her inhaler a lot lately, poor thing.”

Between Jan. 1 and Jan. 18, I sent Anthony 2 letters.

The third letter is dated today, Jan. 19. Same type of letter, what’s going on with his daughter, health, education, welfare, life lessons she’s learning about trading things.

I also added something to this letter. I let him know that I “had sent a generic letter to his sisters along with pictures of Sarah”. I wrote that sentence adding, “and the only one so far to refuse and return to sender” was M. (his youngest sister). How sad that after all this time, M STILL feels such animosity towards me for whatever her reasons are. I have no clue why but it is not my problem, glad to say, but as always, that is her choice and decision and one that she will have to live with. As I have said before, just because one wants to BELIEVE that Sarah is NOT a R (Anthony’s last name) does not make it so. The funny part of it is that M opened up the letter and saw who it was from and she closed it up again and sent it off to me! I could tell she opened it up because of the type of envelope I used. Oh well, whatever. Sarah will eventually be told about her parentage and Aunts and her sister and brother at the appropriate time and by me, and it will be her decision as she gets older, as to whether she wants any contact with them. Sarah is a very “family oriented” person, but she is interested in keeping in contact with her family and I am happy about that. It is going to be a very difficult time for her when she learns about you and the rest of your family, and even more difficult for her to take it upon herself to want to make contact with someone from your side of the family and not be accepted. She is an innocent person in all this, Anthony, and I really hope that if the day comes when she writes you a letter or something, that AT LEAST you will be decent enough to acknowledge her, and be open to what she has to say and answer any questions she may have.”

(sent to stepdaughter )

“Hola Chica,

Dad told me the other day that you were thinking about putting a picture of grandma in a frame that grandpa gave you for Christmas.

If you have one, great. If not, let us know and we will send you a copy of one we have that we got from grandpa after grandma passed away.

We are getting ready to have a BIG rain storm, that is supposed to start anytime now…it is quite dark here now. Dad was telling me this morning that there are 30 ft waves in Malibu (the beach) and remember when we went to the beach this summer and we parked in between the houses on the beach? those houses are now flooded because of the ocean waves! He saw it on the news! How sad, huh? I hope no one was hurt at all!

Anyway, gotta get ready to head back to work. The kindergartener’s this year are a REAL handful!! Sarah, Thomas and I are looking forward to Friday for a 3 day weekend!

Hasta Luego,

P~”

1-3-00- Sent the color tv and discman to the kids, along with $20 each for the kids to spend. Delivered on 1-6-00.

1-15-00- Keith received a card from J. Enclosed is a check for $129 that she owed for Easter. The card was not signed. It was postmarked 1-11-00.

1-20-00- sent N a check for $16 for his Enema of the State CD. Check was deposited into his account on 1-26-00.

1-25-00- We received items J returned to us: a red shirt we bought L from JCP, a skirt for L from JCP, a pair of jeans, a music CASIO song book, a kaleidoscope, and a pooh bag.

1-28-00- We ordered 2 cases of Gatorade for the kids and had them shipped to their home.

2-10-00- Sent the kids their Valentines Day gifts- 2 bags of candy, Teddy Clip On (for her hair) for L, You Don’t Know Jack game for N. it was delivered 2-14-00. PERFECT!

4-5-00- took kids shopping at Millers Outpost ($146.89)

4-6-00- bought L candy from Sweet Market ($6.50) Also took kids to the Wherehouse for games and cd’s. (STEPS, M2M, CAN’T TAKE ME HOME, UNLEASH THE DRAGON, NO STRINGS ATTACHED, $51.95)

4-18-00- sent the kids their Easter presents- an Easter card each, 3 types of candy each (6 total) and 2 computer games. Package was delivered on 4-25-00. 2 days after Easter.

6-18-00- took L to Claire’s Boutiques. Bought her 2 rings that she picked out. ($6)

6-18-00- took L to Cartoon Junction- Bought her Bean Babies ($15.13)

6-28-00- took and paid for L to get her nails done. ($18)

6-29-00- signed L up for Hip Hop Dance. ($15)

7-11-00- took N to Sam Goody’s. ($58.14)

7-19-00 took kids to Ringling Brothers Circus. ($10 each for tickets)

7-25-00- Sent L clothes and a letter from her friend Corrine. Sent these items to her grandmothers house where she was staying, in Lakeside. Package was delivered 7-27-00.

7-26-00- Sent N a letter he got from his friend Kasey, to his grandmothers house where he was staying in Lakeside. Package was delivered 7-28-00.

7-31-00-sent package to N & L to their grandmothers in Lakeside. Package arrived at Lakeside unit 8-2-00 and was delivered on 8-9-00.

8-2-00- sent package to kids at their grandmothers in Lakeside. Sent L a shirt and N a letter. it was delivered 8-4-00

8-28-00- Sent N his birthday presents to his home- Silver Millenium from Hamilton Collection ($102) from Keith. Sarah, Thomas and I got him a “Britney Spears” TY teddy bear ($10). Keith got him a card that read, “My birthday wish for you, son, is that you always have people to laugh with and be close to, things to dream about and work hard for, places you can go rest and reflect on all that is good in the work and especially in you…” On the inside it said, “…and may you always know how much you are loved.”

My card for N said, “if this simple birthday card bring but one tiny touch of gladness to your heard on this day, then it will have served its purpose.” On the inside it said, “If not, the heck with it! No hard done!”

Sarah and Thomas’s card read, “On your 16th birthday brother, be thankful you’re not a dog” The inside read, “You couldn’t get a drivers license until you’re 112! Happy Birthday!” Everything was delivered 8-30-00. N did email his dad that he got the package. and thanked him for the bear and the “100 dollar thingy” and thanked him for the cards.

11-9-00- sent N & L Candy and Beanie Babies.

12-22-00- Sent a package for the kids to their grandmothers house. It was delivered on 12-23-00

12-23-00- Sent both kids “FLOOZ”(online gift currency). L’s card read “Merry Christmas L! I love you Princess! Love, your friend, dad d:-)” Nicks card read, “Merry Christmas Big Nick! Have fun! I love you! Dad”

Keith received a birthday card from the N & L, Postmarked 12-21-00. It’s homemade and says on the front, a big leaf with a bee on it, “Happy Birthday Hey Dad, CAN YOU BELIEVE THAT YOU’RE ALREADY AT THAT AGE?” Inside left is a birthday cake with leaves and bee’s, and right said is a leaf that says, “BEE-LEAF IT. (W0W) 52 HOPE YOUR DAY IS A REAL STINGER…HAPPY BIRTHDAY! L & N” The back says, “Created especially for DAD by L & N” The envelope is addressed to “(Dad) Keith” by L and she added on the front, Have a good day” the back has L’s return address and she added ” Merry X-mas and New Year Happy B-day Dad, Love Always”

We also sent L a box of her gifts to her grandma’s house in Lakeside.

12-24-00 at 12:25pm a notice was left for someone to pick up the package.

12-25-00 at 10:17am another notice was left for someone to pick up the package

12-26-00 We sent a package to L at her grandmothers address. It was delivered on 12-29-00.

12-26-00- “Richard” received a box from N & L, (addressed by his ex). Its contents were Christmas gifts. For Keith, N gave him a video of N being on MTV, dancing at a club house. L gave him a massager, shaving cream and a razor. They got me an orange, banana calendar, they gave Sarah a deck of cards, and they gave Thomas a fire truck. For both Sarah and Thomas, they gave them a board game called Race to the Root. This package was postmarked 12-23-00.

12-27-00- L’s package was delivered at 1:22pm.

12-29-00- sent a pack to N &L to their home address. It included more presents and a $20 check for each of them. This package was delivered on 1-2-01

I wrote and sent a letter to Sarah’s youngest Aunt, Anthony’s youngest sister.

I wrote: ” Hi there, I hope this letter finds you and your family healthy and happy and looking forward to everything the New Year brings to you.

I am sending your pictures of your niece, Sarah. She is doing great and growing into such a smart, caring, beautiful girl.

She is in the second grade now, and really enjoys school although she wishes she did not have all the homework she does. She does about an hour of it every night! Her last report card had A LOT of A’s and B’s on it so I was very proud. I sent a more detailed letter about to her Dad, Anthony, so if you want to know more, ask him.

She will be playing softball again this year. She really wants to play first base, but of course it all depends on where the coach wants her. She also wants to take Karate lessons which I think will be very good for her.

At any rate, I had better be going. Take care and God bless you and your family. Sincerely, Patty.” I also left my email for her.

I sent Anthony a letter dated 12/20 sending him Sarah’s school pics. Wished him a Wonderful Christmas.

Sent him a letter today, 12/30. I asked if he Santa was good to him, and if he was able to see his sisters for Christmas.

I told him that we spent Christmas eve with my sister and brother in law and they told me to tell him hi and that my brother in law asked me if I knew how to get in touch with him because he wanted to go fishing with him. I gave Anthony my sisters phone number to call if he was interested in getting together with my brother in law.

I shared that Sarah had a good Christmas vacation, isn’t really looking forward to going back to school, but she knows she has to if she wants to be a police and a doctor.

I told him to have a great new year and be careful celebrating what ever he does, to take care and God Bless him and his family always.

(email sent to stepdaughter at 12:32pm)

“Hola Chica,

just wanted to let you know that I am sending the gift out to you that arrived late. hope you like it and all the other gifts we got you. I know that a few of them needed batteries. How many? I will go out and get them for you as well. ok? If you want me to that is.

adios

P~”

The money order sent to J on 12/20 was delivered today at 3:41 pm.