Author: Patricia

I wrote a letter to J- dated 4-17-98, but didn’t send it until today a long with this book. I wrote:

“J- We’ve been meaning to send this to you but we haven’t had time and then we forgot to give it to the kids! It’s a great book! We have one already and thought we’d send this one to you. Hope it comes in handy for you. Take care- Patricia “

I asked how both of them are, and hoped they’re fine. Let them know we are all find, that Thomas got a little black eye the other day as he was walking along the chairs and lost his balance. He hit his eye just under the eyebrow and it turned black and blue. I said he’s a little “tuffy,” that he hardly cried. I let them know that Sarah was find and she misses them both. She kept asking why you had to leave and she says she wants them to come back soon.

I let them know that their Dad’s knee is ok, it still hurts him off and on and that he goes back to the doctors next week. I told them I had to go, that Thomas is walking now, Take care and that we love and miss them.

Today, April 15, 1998, Keith signed Court papers his attorney drew up. He requested one half (1/2) of Summer vacation, Every Spring, Every Fathers Day weekend and the children’s birthday weekend in even years, from Friday to Sunday, 2 weeks at Christmas and alternating Major holidays. He requested other orders as well.

Bought N a pair of shorts and a shirt from Mr. Rags today.

Anthony called earlier. Tomorrow is his birthday. He wants to set up a payment arrangement.

I told him to let me know if he wants to see our daughter.

Anthony sent me a $20 payment towards his share of uncovered medical. I’m shocked, pleasantly surprised and thankful. Got it today.

This letter was postmarked 3/17/1998. He received it on 3/20/98.

Keith was not agreeable to the visitations she set. They live 1200 miles away and the visitation schedule was peanuts.

In this latest letter she wrote, “Summer vacation 4 weeks from July 11- August 8th, 1998. If there is a problem with this as you stated in your letter please take me to court and let a third party decide. (The kids) do not want to stay at home every day with Patricia and the babies while you are at work. They kids want to spend their visitation with you not sitting at home while you work. Winter- December 26 to January 2nd- if you persist with your non agreement, the only other alternative is not to go at all. Weekends and in state visitations I offered one week in June because the kids like to visit you in shorter intervals and that was their request. This expense is not an issue with me as it is with you.”

Keith took her at her word. He decided to take her to court and let a third party decide the visitation.

I spoke to Anthony’s employer on 2/27/98 to verify eligibility for Sarah and was informed that she is covered under his policy.

On 3/19/98, I called his Health Plan and his employer and was told that in fact, there is NO such coverage on our daughter, but only for himself, his wife and her son. Remember, Anthony was court ordered on 12/5/95 to carry insurance on her.

HIS insurance is PRIMARY, there is no out of pocket costs to him. His employer pays 100%.

I reminded him he needed to take care of this and his Dental plan immediately. I also reminded him that my husband carries insurance coverage on our daughter as extra protection.

I ALSO sent a copy of the letter I wrote Anthony, to the DA’s office, requesting they take the necessary steps to ENFORCE the Health Insurance coverage order.

Anthony and I came to an agreement for him to pay his share of uncovered medical expenses. He owes $224.39. I don’t care about the change.

He agreed to $20 a month, starting April 1, 1998 and continuing on the first of every month, with his last payment being on March 1, 1999 in the amount of $24.39.

I told him if he pays cash, I’d provide a receipt. I also thanked him for being in compliance with the court order.

Sent the kids cards and Valentines Day presents today. Keith and I both signed each card.