Author: Patricia

My letter to Ex wife#2, this date, reads as follows:

” Ex’s name,

Keith said I could call you, but I have opted to write you instead. I am writing to formally request that you deal with ME if you have a problem with ME, and not Keith.

I have NO idea why you choose to hate me so much. Please explain it to me. I have NEVER done anything to you that didn’t warrant a “higher authority” (ie: the police) to be involved.

Your issues with me need to be dealt with separately and the letters and phone calls to Keith should be about the health, education and welfare of the kids ONLY..

You needn’t call Keith and whine to him about things I do. My calling the kids is not impediment on their lives. At the time of my call, yesterday all they were doing was watching tv, no harm! I don’t call the time, but I do genuinely care about the kids, after all, they are my stepchildren now, and since I take my wedding vows, “til death do us part” very seriously, they will be my step children for a very long time. I’m sure it’s the same for your husband, (his name) who is their step father. Anyway,

I think YOU should be glad that I take an interest in their lives!! Why do you feel the necessity to hamper any kind of relationship we being to develop when we are allowed to see them? Why don’t you encourage it? Why don’t you channel all the energy you have been WASTING on hating me, into something positive? Why can’t you TRY to get along? I’m willing.

It’s so ironic how you always tell Keith how the two of YOU should try to get along “for the children” don’t you think it would be even better of all four of us, you, (her husband) Keith and myself all got along “For the children?”

Keith never calls YOUR home and harass you about (her husband). Why do you feel the need to be so hateful?

Maybe you could spend LESS time in hating me for NO REASON, and more time concentrating on letting Keith know about the important things going on with the kids like trips to the Emergency room or graduating! These are things he needs to know about! He doesn’t need to know about how you hate me and don’t want me calling the kids or sending them anything!!

Is this why you have chosen NOT to let the kids visit ANYTIME this summer? Another irony on your part. If you have kept any of your past letters to Keith, maybe you should re-read them. They contain sentences written by you about how the kids, “love him, miss him, want to see him.” and a direct quote from April 16, 1995: “Both of these kids need your support too, not just the money, how about some of your time…” Denying his “time” with the kids certainly contradicts your statement, don’t you think? However THIS letter is NOT about THAT. It’s about YOUR problem with ME and how we can rectify “the problem.” Of course, YOU are the one that controls this situation. If you choose to continue on this way, then I respect your decision, but at the same time, I feel VERY SORRY for you! Fortunately for ME, I have NEVER KNOWN what it’s like to LOATHE someone AS MUCH AS you do me!!

AS far as I’M concerned, I will continue as I ALWAYS have. After this, my only correspondence to you will be as it has been in the past, sending you copies of Explanation of Benefits, with the exception of this letter re: (her daughters name) walkman.

As far as my involvement with the kids is concerned, that will not change either. I am doing no harm to them, nor am I doing ANYTHING WRONG in the eyes of the court or law, however, if you are going to deny Keith because of my involvement, or because you do not like me, then you are very wrong and I sincerely hope you do not resort to that.

Thank you for your “time” (her name). This letter was written with no malice intent or ill will. I am just trying to call a “truce” or find a middle ground with you, that’s all. Patricia (last name).”

Keith was denied Christmas visitation as well.

Out of 365 days, Keith saw his kids for 8 days.

Aug. 21, 1996

J-

Keith said I could call you, but I have opted to write you instead. I am writing to formally request that you deal with ME if you have a problem with ME, and not Keith.

I have NO idea why you choose to hate me so much. Please explain it to me. I have NEVER done anything to you that didn’t warrant a “higher authority” (ie: police) to be involved.

Your “issues” with me need to be dealt with separately, and the letters and phone calls to Keith should be about the Health, education and welfare of the kids ONLY.

You needn’t call Keith and whine to him about things I do. My calling the kids is not impediment on their lives. At the time of my call YESTERDAY, all they were doing was tv- no harm! I don’t call ALL the time, but I DO GENUINELY care about the kids, after all, they are my step-children now, and since I take my wedding vows “til death do us part” very seriously, they will be my step children for a LONG time. I’m sure it’s the same for your husband K, who is their ‘step father.’

Anyway…I think YOU should be GLAD that I take an interest in their lives!! Why do you fell the necessity to hamper ANY kind of relationship we begin to develop WHEN we are ALLOWED to see them!?? Why don’t you encourage it? Why don’t you channel all the energy you have been WASTING on hating me, into something positive? Why can’t you TRY to get along? I’m willing.

It is so ironic how you always tell Keith how the two of YOU should try to get along “for the children.” Don’t you think it would be EVEN BETTER if all FOUR of us, you, J, Keith and myself ALL got along “for the children”?

Keith never call’s YOUR home and harass you about J!! Why do you feel the need to be so hateful?

Maybe you could spend less time in hating me for NO REASON, and more time concentrating on letting Keith know about the important things going on with kids like trips to the Emergency room or graduating!! These are things he needs to know about! He doesn’t need to know about how you hate me and don’t want me calling the kids or sending them anything!!

Is this why you have chosen NOT to let the kids visit ANY TIME this summer? another irony on your part. If you kept copies of your past letters to Keith, maybe you should reread them. They contain sentences written by you, about how the kids “love him, miss him want to see him,” and a direct quote from April 16, 1995: “,,,Both of these kids need your support too, not just the money. How about some of your time…” Denying his “time” with the kids certainly contradicts your statement, don’t you think? However this letter is NOT about THAT. It’s about YOUR problem with me, and how we can rectify ‘the problem.” Of course, YOU are the one who control’s this situation. If you chose to continue on this way, then I respect your decision, but at the same time, I feel VERY SORRY for you! FORTUNTELY, for ME, I have NEVER KNOWN what it’s like to LOATHE someone AS MUCH AS you do me!!

As far as I’M concerned, I will continue as I ALWAYS have. After this, my only correspondence to you will be as it has been in the past, sending you copies of Explanation of Benefits, with the exception of the letter re: L’s walkman.

As far as my involvement with the kids is concerned, that will not change either. I am doing no harm to them, nor am I doing ANYTHING WRONG in the eyes of the court or law, however if you are going to deny visitation to Keith because you do not like me, then you are very wrong, and I sincerely hope you do not resort to that.

Thank you for your “time” J. This letter was written with no malice intent or ill will. I am just trying to call a “truce” or find a middle ground with you. That’s all. Patricia (last name)”

I also sent a copy of this letter to J’s attorney, letting him know that I was prompted to write it and deal with her directly after her phone call to my husband last night pertaining to a matter that involved me. I told him I sent it to him for her file, or round file, whichever he preferred, in case J claims she never got it.

On August 7th, I wrote the ex a nice letter about a 1 year replacement plan we got with a present we got for their daughter. It was a detailed letter as to what to do and how I had the agreement transferred in her name and she should receive the new agreement within 10 days.

For the most part, I’ve sent the ex notes with the EOB’s we would get from Keith’s insurance, with the exception of a few times writing her about something she has said to me directly.

On August 20th, she called Keith and told him that she was tired of me “Harassing” her, HARASSING HER! She told him she didn’t want me calling her home, sending her or the kids anything, she wanted it all coming from him. He asked “What else?” She told him he wasn’t going to see the kids for any part of summer, but that there were a couple of 4 day weekends between October and November, and that “there’s Christmas, of course,” He said, “Whatever you say (Ex’s name), I’ll talk to you later.” and he hung up.

8-12-96

Sent the follow note to J- ” Mrs. U, Effective Aug. 12, 1996, our new address and phone number are as follows: Keith and Patricia (last name) *and gave her all the information.* Thank you, Patricia (last name)”

My letter to J regarding a gift for L.

” HI J, Just writing to tell you that when we purchased L’s walkman for her birthday, we also got a 1 year replacement plan for it, should something happen to it.

I just received the agreement about a week ago, and there was a problem with the coverage period, so I contact the corporation and had them correct it.

I also had the agreement transferred to your name. You should receive a copy of the agreement within 10 working days from today.

Between June 14, 1996 and Sept. 13, 1996- any problems should be directed to the manufacturer-Sony- 800-***-**** model # *******.

Between Sept 14, 1996 and Sept 14, 1997, any problems should be directed to New Electronics Warranty Corporation 800-***-****. All the rest of the information you will need will be on the agreement (#***********) that is being sent to you. Sincerely, Patricia (last name)”

Hope the kids get these in time, before they leave from Camp. Sent each one a post card. Their mom called Keith and gave him their camp address, but she called so late, hopefully they get the postcards.

Keith had sent a reimbursement of medical expenses addressed to the ex’s husband. He figured it was his insurance so he owes him. Her husband called earlier to talk to Keith about it, ask him about it, etc. Why?

The letter Keith attached was pretty self explanatory, but I guess it wasn’t clear enough.

The ex complains Keith has never paid for his share of medical expenses, even though SHE never sent him copies of bills. SHE thought she could just tell him what he owed and that’s it. SHE never sent him copies of the EOB’s from her or her husbands insurance company. Hell, she rarely if ever used Keith’s insurance. Now it makes sense why she wanted ” all unassigned benefits” sent to her in regards to their kids (see April 22 and 25, 1996 post). Nope, not how that works.

BTW, the ex signed for letter. Keith had sent it Return Receipt Requested.

My letter to J, regarding L’s ticket.

” Hi J, Keith recently sent you a letter stating that he would purchase E’s ticket on July 9th or 10th, however this is wrong. He doesn’t get paid until July 12, so he will not be able to buy the ticket until July 12th or 13th. Sorry for the misinformation. We were looking at August instead of July. Thank you, Patricia (MI, Last name) Phone number.”

Around 9pm, for some reason, the EX had the kids call Keith, person to person collect. REALLY? INSANE! WHO does THAT!?

ANYWAY, SHE does, that’s who. Keith’s friend who lived with us accepted the charge. Keith spoke to the kids for about 20-25 minutes.

After he hung up with the kids, he told me that he could hear his ex in the background, badgering the kids. He said at one point he heard her ask their daughter who she was talking to and if she knew “Patricia called there on Fathers Day.” Keith said his daughter said she didn’t know. Keith asked if it was a problem and said his daughter told him she didn’t know if it was or why it seemed to be a problem. Keith was upset that not only his ex had the kids call person to person collect for no reason, but also at the fact that she hung around them while he tried to talk to them, badgering them about things that could wait until they got off the phone with him.

In a letter from the EX dated June 27th, she wrote, “I won’t ask for any money outside the child support I receive by way of garnishment. I thought as their father you might want to help them out periodically with extras. I let them know that is not the case…. I thought as part of their lives you might want to participate with the ritual of getting ready for school.” He was also denied Summer visitation.

Sent N his card and $25 for graduation this morning.