Author: Patricia

POWERFUL! Watching this brought back a ton of memories from what the ex Wife did to my late husband and their kids relationship. Of COURSE it didn’t end the Hollywood version way. In fact, she acknowledged (sort of) that my late husband loved his kids 3 months AFTER he died. Can you relate?

https://youtu.be/tir-0rIS8wY

https://vm.tiktok.com/ZMRuK3QDG/

I LOVE TikTok. I follow some interesting and funny content creators. Sometimes I watch something that reminds me of my late husbands ex. The link above is one of those.

I remember one time when the ex told “someone” that he needed to tell my husband to relax before he has a heart attack. (That someone was actually me, under a totally different email address.)

Seems the ex’s “long game finally paid off” when he died in 2005. Her appearance at his Memorial Service probably had more to do with her making sure he was dead, then actually “being there for her daughter” (no mention of their son).

In the TikTok video, the content creator said she told her husband that her place was standing over his grave cackling. If I had buried my husband, I have NO DOUBT this is what the ex would do. I KNOW she would do it to mine since she had already told me she would be sure to piss on my grave.

#231amthoughts #cantsleep

Thank Goodness! How y’all doin’ this morning? I’ve been meaning to write for a few weeks, but I get home from work and errands and am just so exhausted. The heat we were having and apparently about to start having again, just zaps me of all my energy. I’ve never been a summer/heat person, and it seems the older I get, the more I can tell, LOL.

I think I have a bone spur on my left heel. I was diagnosed with one years ago, but it was only irritated that one time, that I can remember, but now it’s really a pain. I’m going to call the doc just to be sure. When I mentioned this to my fiance last week, he said, “Well, if you thought about enlisting in the military, you’ll get a deferment!” OMG, I CRACKED UP!

I’m glad it’s a 3 day weekend. We’ve been back to work since early August, and while it’s so good to be back amongst people, seeing the awesome teachers, students, admin, whom I KNOW are stressed, it’s can be stressful for us as well.

We have a great bunch of students in our class. funny, sassy, and just makes the day go by fast. There’s never a dull moment, and our teacher is great, she loves to be silly while getting work done. PLUS, the kids are engaged when she’s being silly. She’s such a great teacher.

MY student that I am assigned to, colored this picture for me. She’s the sweetest. She colored another one a week before and wanted to give it to me, but she wrote, “To: Mom From: (her name)” and I told her that she needed to give that to her mom, because she wrote “to Mom.” We went back and forth, and she took it back, but she was very upset about it. When I walked her to her mom, at the end of the school day, I noticed she was sad and walking really slow. I asked her what was wrong. She said, “I’m sad.” I asked her why and she said, “Because you said you aren’t my mom!” I gave her a hug, and told her that I will take her coloring picture and when she goes to Art class again, she can color me one and write, “To Ms. Shusha” (that’s how she says Patricia) from (her name)” and I will take it. Don’t think that isn’t just what she did, LOL. On Wednesday, it was almost like she couldn’t wait to get to me, she said, “Miss Shusha, I have something for you!” and she handed me her coloring pic. It was the same exact picture, but colored for me ❤ AND she still got “Mom” in there, LOL The Aid she was with in Art told me she was INSISTENT on putting “Mom” on it.

Her mom and I had this discussion with her, and her mom said she, her daughter, considers her Mom at School.

I just LOVE what I do. Speaking of which…

My daughter and I were talking Thursday afternoon, and she asked me, “What do you want to do, Mom?” I thought I was pretty much doing what I love to do, LOL. She feels I should be using my knowledge in what I learned in my Paralegal Studies in helping others. That was my intent 7 years ago, but because I couldn’t intern FOR FREE, and Family Law attorney’s offices around here aren’t open on the weekends, I didn’t go down that road. I told her I wanted to do a podcast, but not sure of the subjects I want to speak about. I know Parental Alienation is a big one for CERTAIN, but is that all I want to talk about? I’ve always felt I wanted to do something along with what I’m currently doing, it’s just a matter of getting it together and setting it up. I’ll get there. Then, WATCH OUT world! 😉

What’s your plans this weekend? I know it’s supposed to get hot, so I’m not sure what my plans are except to water my plants, and try and stay cool. I can’t tell you how I dislike this hot weather. I try and take my fiancé’s motto of “If you think cool, you’ll be cool,” but it doesn’t work for me. I keep trying though. Maybe one day it will come to pass, LOL.

I’ll write more later, and I’m sure I’ve forgotten some things I’ve been trying to write for two weeks now, LOL. I need to make a conscious effort to write at least every other day or so.

I wish you all a very happy Saturday! Enjoy your day, have fun, stay cool and stay safe! Until next time…

TTFN,

P~ ❤

I started back to work this week! It felt good to be back on campus with the students and teachers!! It’s been a crazy start but we made it! I was at work on Monday, but the students didn’t come in until Wednesday. After 18 months or so, it’s been great! it’s also nice to be making money again. I get a paid month off during the year (holidays), then I get a month off during the summer without pay, but in between the month off in summer, (1 week, then 3 weeks) I work summer school. The non paid month off is great for my piece/peace of mind, but definitely NOT for the bank account, LOL.

I picked up my son last night from work and he had some news. He got Employee of the Month for the month of July AND he is NOW FULL TIME, after working full time hours in a part time status. I was so happy for him!! They told him he has an excellent work ethic and he’s always on time. Seeing all the changes at his former employers place, it seems he made a good decision when he decided to quit. I wasn’t really happy with that decision, mostly because it was a Union job, but he was happy at this new employer, and now he’s where he’s at, they recognize his strengths and appreciate his hard work.

BOTH my kids work at the same place now, both have made Employee of the month and both are full time employees. I’m very proud of my kids. ❤️💙💜💜

I started counseling a little while ago, like a month or two ago. I love my counselor. It’s through Zoom, but it’s ok. I had an appointment two weeks ago, and the time just flew by I didn’t even do the “homework” I was supposed to do. So I have that work to do, plus the work I got yesterday, and I had forgotten I had appt yesterday until I got a text.

It’s just busy for me. 3 days a week I drive 50 miles to take my fiancé to his PT appts. (25 each way), after I get out of work. I actually get about a 45 minute test period between getting off work and having to leave again. It’s never a dull moment, so when I get time like on the weekends, I do just chill, do what I want and/or have to do, or not, my choice 👍🏻

I hope all has been well with you all!! Stay up, stay well and healthy and will write again soon!

TTFN,

P~

So I went to court yesterday, regarding the restraining order I applied for against my neighbors daughter. I felt bad in a way for the teen because her “MOTHER” was not present, nor even for support. Some other lady was, and I’m assuming she is with DCFS in some way. The Judge allowed the woman to sit with the Teen, BUT, told the teen she is not representing her and cannot speak for her so don’t look to her for answers.

I knew going in, it could go either way. Not sure what I was expecting, really. The Judge was very good. He was stern, firm and fair. He heard us both out. I presented my facts, and the Judge explained to the teen that she didn’t have the burden of proof like I do. The teen admitted to doing what I accused her of, AND gave a reason, which was absolutely false, so I asked the Judge if I could address her comment. He allowed it.

I explained that I was her mother’s sounding board. Someone she could talk with. Anything I wrote to any social worker, any attorney, was at the request of the Mother, as I am not one to do anything arbitrarily. I told the Judge that I have text messages and Facebook messages from her mother asking me to write her attorney and the girls social worker, so if the teen has an issue with it, she needs to take it up with her MOTHER, not me.

The Judge had asked me if I felt the teen would follow through with her threat. I said absolutely. I told him I had found information about another R/O for harassment case against the teen from 2019 that couldn’t proceed because the teen couldn’t be served as she was in placement. I let the Judge know that the teen also has a now sealed assault case against her that she had been on probation for. He asked if that had been confirmed by the Mother and i said yes, as well as someone at DCFS.

I also told the Judge that I have been getting harassed by this teen for a few years but that this year, specifically since MAY, it had escalated. I told him that being a Mandated Reporter, I had been reporting the teens behavior and NO ONE has done anything about it, not even Mom. I expressed that I felt if nothing is done TODAY, the teen will escalate things more because she would feel she got away with this.

The Judge listened. He ruled that he agreed if nothing was done, things could escalate. He ordered the R/O for 2 years. He explained to the teen that it was a one way order, that she could not contact me in any way and if she violated the order, there will be further consequences. He told her if me or my kids wanted to make peaceful contact with her or her mother, though, we can. Teen blurts out, “they aren’t friends anymore!” Judge said, “ok..” LOL

I got everything I asked for. I drove a copy of the order to the police department immediately after court. It is entered into CARPOS through CLETS. So anywhere I go, even a different city, if she happens to be there, and starts harassing me, the Police can run her name and see there’s a R/O and she can be arrested.

Judge explained to the teen that we all make choices, and there are consequences to our choices. He told her some will be sealed, others will not and will follow her (anyone) the rest of her (their) life. THIS is that situation.R/O will not be sealed and will follow her the rest of her life.

My case was the last case in that courtroom. There were several cases heard before mine, and they were all fascinating!

It was a good day.

TTFN,

P~

https://pjmedia.com/news-and-politics/megan-fox/2020/05/21/child-social-workers-arrested-in-nc-on-charges-of-removing-children-from-families-without-judicial-oversight-n412039?fbclid=IwAR1Cr97CFvoVYPzfLivKZNTQn0nn5UnD_yV7ofpkdeBJq-PDvKxam7C5LfE

“Ummmm…. get a fathers right lawyer and get that shit fixed 50/50 means you have split everything there shouldn’t be child support…”

I saw this on a FB post. I had to chuckle. This girl believes this. Obviously didn’t even BOTHER to look it up.

Having 50/50 custody doesn’t automatically mean, “there should be no child support.” LOL

Both income’s play a part as well. if both parents make the same amount of money, then it seems child support would be zero, but if one parent makes more than the other, then child support will be due. Remember that. Look up CA law. SMH…..

Check this out: “

How Is Child Support Calculated in 50/50 Custody Situations 

There are two main factors that courts use to determine child support in California: custody and income. If parents have a joint custody arrangement that results in the child spending 50% of their time with each parent, then custody is less of a factor in this calculation. However, a 50/50 child support arrangement does not mean that neither parent will be required to pay child support.

Instead, the court may consider the income and earning potential of both parents. The spouse with the higher income may be ordered to pay child support, even where they have equal physical custody of their children. 

This may seem unfair, as each parent has an obligation to financially support their children. However, placing an equal financial burden on both parents may not be just in many cases. For example, if one parent earns a high income working in finance, and the other parent works as a teacher for a relatively low salary, putting an equal financial burden on both parents may result in a far heavier burden for the teacher.

California’s child support laws are based on the principle that each parent is obligated to support their children financially — according to their situation. More importantly, child support isn’t a punishment for a parent who is required to pay it. It is meant for the children and is ordered in the best interest of the child.

Of course, there are situations where a 50/50 custody arrangement may result in no child support. If each parent has a similar income and they split custody evenly, then there may not be a child support obligation for each parent. A San Diego child support lawyer can help you determine if you will be required to pay child support based on the facts of your case.”

Does Joint Custody Mean Neither Parent Pays Child Support?

So I was expecting to get back everything from the Process Server, thinking they were unable to serve the girl.

Turns out, they served her.

It was either July 13th or 14th when I let the social worker and those involved (except for the Mom) know that I had started the process of filing for an R/O.

On 7/22, I sent attorneys, social worker, and DCFS an email letting them know the TRUTH as I knew it, since the social worker wasn’t quite forthcoming in her report to the court. I also stated that it seems the Mom and teen have been tipped off because their house is locked up like Fort Knox, and they are not answering the door. I had also let the Process Servers office know my opinion.

Suddenly, on 7/23 at nearly 630am, she, the teen was served, in the presence of her mother.

Color me SHOCKED and THANKFUL!

Let’s see what happens when we go to court next week.

TTFN…

This young man is wise beyond his young years….