~This Is My World~

Ex emailed this morning at 7:23am. Whining about Summer visitation. By the way…The kids are supposed to arrive on April 2-6 for Spring visitation, and the ex is bitching about Summer.

She wrote, “the kids do not want to spend the last part of the summer at your house, nor do they want to spend 5 weeks at your house and yes I am afraid that is what I am going to do with this is their decision because that is what a judge would go with too. They are old enough to make up their minds…You have no plans for your vacation as you have never left the confines or your overheated trailer…If have chosen to take your vacation for the last part of summer then I suppose you have taken all that time off from work. I will get the proof that you didn’t…when a judge sees that you are hassling me to just have the kids be there when you get home and to leave them with your wife and kids all day to sit around in a non air-conditioned trailer during the hottest part of the summer while they wait for you to be selfish…if this is so important to you than go for it. You have already done yourself in with the way you handled things last summer. If the kids don’t want t go then too bad for you. Your loss my gain. (her name)”

While still talking about visitations, and J explaining what 5 weeks means (“And for further clarification 5 weeks is exactly even in weeks and days and hours. So your visitation does not go from Saturday to Sunday. A week is seven days to the closest hour….”)

She told him he took the first 5 weeks of summer last year and that schedule is the precedent she went with when planning her vacation schedule.

He told her he was not responsible for for her assumptions, and since when is his previous years visitation the “precedent” she goes by when planning HER vacation? It NEVER happened, she always took the end of June and the first week of July or the first two weeks of July for her vacation, and THAT is the time frame he used when making HIS vacation schedule. He said he didn’t fall off the turnip truck just now. HER retort is “No, you just fell under it and it ran over your heart leaving just your head to make business decisions about your kids and of course while you are unable to think for yourself your wife took over your head so now you are nothing.”

This is something she tells their kids. It’s so very sad.

“I am denying you visitation….” Yes, you are.

3/26/01 11:54am

“Here is the pic of R and the kids after you guys left last summer, at a party at Jo*****’s house.

P~

“hello kettle? this is pot…you’re black” K-1-22-01″ (tagline) “

This letter was addressed to Keith’s attorney. The Ex wrote it, LOL. it was postmarked March 16th, 2001 she sent it Certified Return Receipt Requested. It was delivered to our home today, March 21, 2001.

She mentions me in this letter, telling Keith’s attorney. “Both of the children after spending the first 3 days of their last visit (in the summer of 2000) fighting and arguing and finally being ignored by their dad’s wife don’t want to spend their visitations with their dad because they have to… Both the kids were very emotionally upset and withdrawn during the abuse that took place between them and their dad and his wife during the last visit. They were treated badly and then ignored by their dad’s wife for 4 more days after the argument. No I will not force them to visit and be in that environment to be treated like small children and mistreated because of their dad marital situation.”

Project much? His marital situation? LOL….Lets harken back to the Summer Visitation 2000 post, shall we? https://mspisceangal2020.wordpress.com/2000/08/

Besides, she’s always told me to butt out, ALWAYS told Keith that the kids didn’t want anything to do with me, or be here with me while he worked, now she has a problem with me stepping back for a day and a half? LOL I spoke when I had to, otherwise, it was me and my kids, and Keith and his kids, just like she’s wanted, LOL

So I found something out today about Keith having to pay for college. I found out that if Keith did not agree to paying tuition in the original Judgement or in any subsequent modification, it wasn’t happening. Keith would have had to agree to and he never did, as it was NEVER brought up. I learned that that additional support has to be agreed upon and that ONE party cannot ask the Court for it to be ordered. The law doesn’t have a provision for that to be mandatory like child support is, uncovered health expenses. College Tuition is a dream.

Duly noted. 🙂

There was a big earthquake in WA, 6.8! I called the ex and kids to see how they were.

I called the ex at her work, the woman that answered the phone said

Employee- (Ex) was trying to get ahold of (her husband) but I think she would like to speak to you!

J- Hi

P- HI! I just got home and saw the news! I was calling to see if you guys were ok!

J- hung up.

Between Jan. 26th and Feb. 13th, I sent Anthony 4 letters, giving him updates. Sometimes I write monthly, other times, weekly.

I wrote a letter to him today, 2/14/01, letting him know what she’s up to. I also told him that she was finally getting over this cold we have been “sharing”, UGH. I let him know that her “asthma has been really acting up though and that she has been taking her inhaler a lot lately, poor thing.”

Between Jan. 1 and Jan. 18, I sent Anthony 2 letters.

The third letter is dated today, Jan. 19. Same type of letter, what’s going on with his daughter, health, education, welfare, life lessons she’s learning about trading things.

I also added something to this letter. I let him know that I “had sent a generic letter to his sisters along with pictures of Sarah”. I wrote that sentence adding, “and the only one so far to refuse and return to sender” was M. (his youngest sister). How sad that after all this time, M STILL feels such animosity towards me for whatever her reasons are. I have no clue why but it is not my problem, glad to say, but as always, that is her choice and decision and one that she will have to live with. As I have said before, just because one wants to BELIEVE that Sarah is NOT a R (Anthony’s last name) does not make it so. The funny part of it is that M opened up the letter and saw who it was from and she closed it up again and sent it off to me! I could tell she opened it up because of the type of envelope I used. Oh well, whatever. Sarah will eventually be told about her parentage and Aunts and her sister and brother at the appropriate time and by me, and it will be her decision as she gets older, as to whether she wants any contact with them. Sarah is a very “family oriented” person, but she is interested in keeping in contact with her family and I am happy about that. It is going to be a very difficult time for her when she learns about you and the rest of your family, and even more difficult for her to take it upon herself to want to make contact with someone from your side of the family and not be accepted. She is an innocent person in all this, Anthony, and I really hope that if the day comes when she writes you a letter or something, that AT LEAST you will be decent enough to acknowledge her, and be open to what she has to say and answer any questions she may have.”

(sent to stepdaughter )

“Hola Chica,

Dad told me the other day that you were thinking about putting a picture of grandma in a frame that grandpa gave you for Christmas.

If you have one, great. If not, let us know and we will send you a copy of one we have that we got from grandpa after grandma passed away.

We are getting ready to have a BIG rain storm, that is supposed to start anytime now…it is quite dark here now. Dad was telling me this morning that there are 30 ft waves in Malibu (the beach) and remember when we went to the beach this summer and we parked in between the houses on the beach? those houses are now flooded because of the ocean waves! He saw it on the news! How sad, huh? I hope no one was hurt at all!

Anyway, gotta get ready to head back to work. The kindergartener’s this year are a REAL handful!! Sarah, Thomas and I are looking forward to Friday for a 3 day weekend!

Hasta Luego,

P~”