~This Is My World~

I spent some time gathering information on this claim that the ex was taking issue with yesterday. I called our Insurance. I was told that this “missing” eob from this date of service of 12/03 was processed back on January 8th 2004.

JUST an FYI, Insurance companies legally have a 30-45 day time frame to “pay, pend (for more information) or deny a claim.” This claim was processed in 37 days.

Our insurance received the claim on Dec. 23rd, 2003, 22 days after date of service. They received 2 claims. One for 125.00 and the other for 71.50 for a total of 196.50

Where the ex runs into problems is here: If she doesn’t use our insurance providers, Keith will never get an EOB, unless her provider bills our insurance home plan. Keith and I have explained to her that all non emergent claims go through the Reciprocity dept. and all urgent and emergent claims go straight to our home plan. It really is not that difficult.

I emailed Keith and the ex this information at 12:55pm.

Using medical/dental insurance should NEVER be as difficult as the ex made it. She blamed Keith for all the hassles she’s had using his insurance, but it wasn’t his fault. It was “the user’s” (her) fault.

She emailed Keith today at 4:07pm about a claim back from 12/1/03 for their daughter. EX claims that “as of this date, there has been no payment from his insurance and/or no denial of benefits received regarding (daughters) office visit…” She goes on to say that “An outstanding balance of 196.50 still remains now 78 days past the date of service. I have the forms t submit to my insurance however am still waiting for the denial of benefits from your insurance. 78 days is entirely too long to wait to pay a bill. Please mail me the denial of benefits and (provider of service) does not bill my insurance in this case. I have the forms to self bill received from (provider of service.)”

(email to stepdaughter this morning)

“Thanks for talking to Thomas on the phone on wednesday afternoon. He really enjoyed it. He told Keith (your dad) all about it. Thanks again.”

It’s apparent to me that when a PARENT doesn’t want anything to do with their child, or their spouse takes issue with child’s parent, they will provide incorrect information to the insurance carrier.

Such is the case now. I had to email Anthony’s benefits dept person today, at 12pm, and let her know the correct information they were provided.

Sarah’s name is spelled SARAH, not SARHA, like their records show. Her birthday is 8/1/93, not 1/28/94. What the hell?

The petty bullshit is annoying as hell. Grow UP for God’s sake, RIGHT!?

Seems I’ve pissed someone off…. can you guess who? LOL

I got a letter today from Coleen. She was NOT happy. Apparently, she read the letter I wrote Anthony.

Her letter is dated 1-7-04, it’s postmarked 1-8-04 and I received it today, Jan. 9th. Good LORD this woman….

Her letter reads as follows: “Patty, I am writting this letter so that we can get a few things straight.

Number 1: Your facts are a little screwed up for instance Tony’s insurance if its so duel dont use it. And if he’s not paying for it who in the hell is. We pay over $700.00 a month for medical insurance so you better screw that head of yours on a bit tighter. 2: We have our own daughter to support, if the $600.00 a month you get off my husband is not enough you get off your fat ass and get a job. You have a lot of nerve bitch. Take us to court and I hope that judge tells you the same thing the last one did. Number 3: Here’s a picture of a cute kid.” And she enclosed a picture of a little blonde haired toddler. No clue who she is, but here is my response to Anthony regarding this letter.

Dated today, Jan 9th, “Dear Anthony “Tony” (rest of legal name),

I am writing this letter so that YOU can get a few things straight.

YOU and I, Anthony, had a child together, NOT Colleen and I, so my “legal business” is with YOU, not Colleen. YOU are court ordered to carry medical insurance on Sarah (legal name). IF I were to quit using one of the two insurances that Sarah is presently covered under, I would quit using my husbands plan.

YOU do NOT pay $700 a month in medical insurance. A letter from your employer dated in 1998 with confirmation as early as today, BOTH state that your employer pays 100% of the premium. There is no cost to you for health insurance that you carry on Sarah or yourself. Remember, when you tried to make this same claim in 2002. NO ONE believed you. Remember the DA’s officer we met with at the Court house called your employer to verify your information, and at that time as well, your employer said there is no cost to you. The Judge didn’t believe you either.

YOU do NOT pay $600.00 a month in child support for Sarah. I have attached a document, a copy of the most recent court order, stating that you are ordered to pay $466.00 a month. Where that extra $134.00 you have someone ELSE believing you are paying in support, is, I have no idea, nor do I care because I KNOW I you don’t pay $600.00 in support.

Congratulations on the baby, IF she is even yours. All Children are cute and all little girls are Princesses. The new child support order I got was filed 9-30-02, “15 months ago”, what a coincidence huh? I know that you tried to claim a hardship for a child that wasn’t yours to support. This should be interesting…

If you do not pay the balance of $284.15 off, on or before Feb. 8th, 2004 like I stated in my letter of Jan 2 2004 to you, then I will take the necessary steps to rectify this problematic situation, legally. Patricia (full name)”

Sent Anthony a letter dated January 2, 2004. I mailed it on Jan 6th and he got it, today, Jan. 7th. In it, I wrote:

” Dear Anthony,

Attached is a copy of the expenses I have paid since 1995. As of December 31, 2003, you are still owing the amount of $284.15, which is the remaining balance due after your $110.01 payment in 1998.

There is absolutely NO reason why this balance cannot be and has not been paid off for 8 years. The child support you pay goes towards Sarah’s monthly living expenses, ie: food, clothing, and shelter. To carry her on your medical insurance (at no cost to you) and to pay one half of her medical expenses as court ordered is on TOP of the child support you are ordered to pay. You KNOW this to be true, by your agreement, in 1998, to pay these outstanding medical expenses at $20-$25.00 a month until there were paid in full. You failed to keep your end of the agreement, when you told that is what you pay child support for and refused to pay any more towards this balance.

As you can see, due to the fact that Sarah has dual insurance, the out of pocket medical expenses are cut drastically, especially where dental is concerned. My husband does not have to carry Sarah on his insurance, and since I am not working, nor am I court ordered to carry insurance on her, these expenses can be much more annually. My husband carries Sarah on his insurance as extra protection for HER, something I am very appreciative of. HE and I have paid all these expenses, $788.32, ($394.16 of it is your half) minus the $110.01 you have contributed.

I have already sent you all the copies of the eob’s and receipts of expenses you owe. I will not send them again.

I am giving you until Feb. 8th, 2004, approx 36 days, to become current on these medical expenses. If you have failed to bring current these outstanding medical expenses from 1995 to present, I will bring this issue before a judge and request a wage garnishment for medical expenses, as well as to be reimbursed for court costs and filling fees.

Any questions? You can write me at the address above, or leave a voice mail at (my phone number) OR, if you have access to email, you can email me at (my email address).

Happy New Year. (My legal name)”

Wrote Anthony that he now owes $394.16, that my husband and I have paid $788.32. I let him know I was giving him until 2/8, approx 36 days to get current and if he fails to, I will bring this issue before a Judge and request a wage garnishment for medical expenses as well as court costs and filing fees.

I told him if he had any questions, he can write me at my home address, leave a voice mail, or email me.

I wrote this on 1/2, took it to the PO on 1/6 and he got it today.

Keith wrote his ex and his daughter at 3:58pm. He addressed the email to his ex, stating, “(her name), I have no idea what lies you have been telling (daughter), but I don’t know ANYTHING about this. If I owe you money, then maybe you should start sending me copies of bills and copies of EOB’s so that I know what and that I owe instead of whining to (daughter) about how I won’t pay for something, when I don’t know anything about it. Court Orders say I have to pay half of uncovered medical, and I can’t pay for things that I know nothing about. “

When Keith wrote his ex back at 08:46am, after reading her bs of an email January 5th, he flat out told her, ” (Her name), don’t count on knowing if and when I am ever seriously ill or dead. It would be none of YOUR business, (her name).’ He went on to tell her she really needs to do something about her mental health, that she seems unhealthy, delusional an a habitual liar. Her excessive emails, letters and phone calls gave him this impression, plus her telling ME in the late 90’s what diagnosis she was given.

People forget what they write. Liars can’t keep track of their lies…look at this. Keith’s ex wrote this email in January 2004. Notice how she blames me for their problems and saying between 8/89 and 7/95, all was well between them? LOL WATCH….

She says, “your letter was a good argument against mine. We can’t even write each other without fighting.” This was before I even met him. There never should have been issues between him and the kids from the get go. Any issues SHE had with Keith and or myself, should have been kept between the ADULTS. She NEVER should have brought the kids into it. Not EVERYTHING needed to be discussed with the kids.

On top of this little fact, she went on to say that “Neither of them or myself want to get emails generated by your wife…Your spine has been sucked out with a straw through your ass by the persons you live with. I bet you can’t shit without her inspecting it for some form of transmission to the outside world….Both (son and daughter) have seen with their own eyes how you treat Sarah and Thomas. The episode of (son) telling Sarah that she is not his sister still rings true in both their heads and memories…lets not forget the time that (daughter) made Pat mad with the email that Fat got into without (daughters) permission or the phones calls that have been listened to. Then so mature of Pat to ignore. I mean flat out ignore not talk to (daughter) while she is there at your home. Can you imagine how stupid let alone immature that is? Have you tried that with Sarah? When she makes you made do you ignore her and do you yell at her? I hardly think so and that is what both (son and daughter ) have seen and felt…. You have plenty of money and what an excuse to give (daughter) for no gift. You have cell phones, answering machines, computers, cars plus internet service, etc. etc. etc. Change your lifestyle and have your wife get a job to keep her out of our business. Then you would not feel the pinch of money….You know if you have just been civil and kept your wife out of our business you would still be paying 200.00 a month for support….”

This lady is so vile and vulgar.