Author: Patricia

During my birthday dinner, 3/4, my very handsome boyfriend gave me my engagement ring!

Spring- Keith and EX agreed she would keep the kids.

Summer- DENIED– EX told Keith she “Did not know the people you are living with and you are unstable in your living conditions.” It was the EX that changed the plans and said she would use the $400 towards Christmas visitation.

The TRUTH is, Keith had sent ex $400 Cash to buy the tickets for at $198.00. She even sent Keith a quote dated 3/29, from Pioneer Travel that states “14 day adv. low $178, high $198* *commence travel after 06June no limit on length of stay, no fee for child on direct flights.”

Winter- 4 days- Out of the $400 Keith sent her for Summer, the ex used $248($124/each) for airfare for both kids. She pocketed the $152. He was to have two weeks, from 12/17 to 1/2. He moved late November. EX cancelled HIS visitation with the kids the first week of December, because he moved. She called during the time he was moving and was told that he no longer lived there. This was misinformation because Keith was still moving out when he had gone back to the old house to get the rest of his things, and he was told she had called. When he called her back 2 days after her phone call, she told him she cancelled his visitation because she “couldn’t find” him.

He was hurt and he was angry. He eventually got to spend 4 days with his kids, out of the two weeks they were in California. The rest of the time was spent with their grandmother, a woman afraid to go against her daughter for fear of not being able to see her grandkids. Imagine.

This was when I first met their two kids, who were 10 and 7 years of age.

1st Letter:
” Anthony, Once again your girlfriend decided to intervene into something that is quite frankly none of her business. She certainly has a way of doing this! She lied on the papers you sent to (ex wife) about her address. Is she your paralegal? …

If Coleen is going to involve herself in our situation, that’s just fine because she is just making it worse for you and better for me! If she insists on involving herself, I suggest you inform her that our daughter is covered under (medical plan)! In fact, I just took her last week to her new pediatrician.

Coleen is so threatened by our situation it’s hysterical!…I support our daughter as her mother, which is more than I can say for you as her father!…I pay taxes as well…

Anyway I just wanted to let you know what’s up with the bills. I almost look forward to getting them just to see what she’s going to write next! It’s fine though, like I said, she’s doing you more harm than good by doing this, not only with the paternity suit I have against you, but if you and (ex wife) end up going to court, with that case as well, so I’d suggest you “call the dog off” for awhile, (figure of speech, no offense Coleen!) Toodles, Patty”

2nd letter:

“Dear Anthony, I am once again requesting ALL insurance information and cards due our daughter. I have written to you in the past regarding this problem. I have confirmed with (Insurance) Administrators and (Insurance Plan) that she is covered. I know these two companies have sent you cards for not only our daughter but for your other two children as well as your ex. It’s quite a shame you have to act like a child when it comes to the welfare of your own children…Please do the adult thing and send (ex-wife) what’s hers and mine what’s Sarah’s, then there will be no reason to keep writing you! Thank you in advance for your cooperation, Patricia”

Filed this request today, since Anthony never responded to the paperwork from September.

Also filed a Request for Default Setting Summons.

Busy day.

Got another bill from the Pediatrician today for the same $105.00. It was sent to Anthony on 10-25-94 with the statement, “Per Patricia, Sarah is covered by (Father’s) insurance”.

Once again, Coleen intercepted to bill, wrote on it stating “NO SHE’S NOT LET her so called mother support her. We pay tax’s.”

WTF does THAT mean or have anything to DO with anything?

MY GOD….

Called a friend of mine who is a Paralegal and she drafted up papers for me.

Complaint To Establish Parental Relationship: FC Section 7600. Checked all pertinent boxes, checked that child lives with me at my sister’s address.

I requested to have Sole Legal and Sole Physical custody, and that Anthony should have the right to visit Sarah as follows: A third party be present for any visitation, that Father be ordered to take a random drug/alcohol test before any visitation can be ascertained. Any visits to be monitored and supervised at all times, that Father was to establish a relationship with his daughter, that he has not seen her for a very long period of time. (since June 12, 1994). That his visits shall exclude his girlfriend Coleen because of her “issues” and that his girlfriend shall not get involved in any visits or intercept any communication regarding the minor child and father. The child is with Mother 100% of the time, and I requested that HE be responsible for a bill from Sarah’s pediatrician in the amount of $105.00 because he told me that he carries health insurance, but he hasn’t sent any proof or card.

Earlier today, I wrote and sent him a letter regarding Coleen’s “note” to Sarah’s pediatrician. I wrote, “Anthony, I am writing to inquire as to whether you even had a chance to look at this bill or not before your “girlfriend” decided to take matters into her own hands and respond to it.

I have no idea why she feels she needs to be involved. This is a matter between you and I. Your “girlfriend” needs to have a reality check. Just because she crosses off your name and address on this bill and changes Sarah’s last name to mine, doesn’t make it a done deal.

It is quite amazing how it was convenient for you to acknowledge Sarah as your daughter when you claimed a hardship to (ex wife)! Now when it’s not convenient, for you, because you have a “girlfriend” who doesn’t want you to have anything to do with your children, you deny Paternity!! I’m surprised you haven’t denied paternity on (daughter and son)!! It wouldn’t surprise me if and when you do though! Does Jerry know you denied Paternity?

I have enclosed a copy of the bill that you are responsible for, plus a copy of the note your “girlfriend” wrote to the office and I need to advise you that I immediately took both of these things to your attorney’s office, so they could have copies for your file. I believe Jerry needs to know and see how you lack responsibility…

Please remind your “girlfriend” that if she continues to involve herself in matters that don’t concern her, mainly this one, she will only be hurting you in the long run! Forgery and tamping with the US Mail are felonies, and charges will be brought against her! She needs to put all her energies into her own life and putting THAT together…she doesn’t need to be sticking her nose elsewhere, she needs to clean up her own back yard!

On a different note, our daughter had a wonderful birthday! It was terrific to see her Aunt and Grandma…

Your daughter is growing into a very fun loving little girl and you’re missing out!

The choices you seem to make are more of a hinderance on you than helpful to you! You are the one that has to suffer the consequences.

I suggest you either call your attorney’s office if you don’t agree with this bill, or just pay it. You only have two choices. Patty. Copy sent to: Anthony’s attorney and his ex wife. “

Some parts were left our- think of it as redacted. 😉

Then wrote another letter to Anthony:

” Anthony,

This is my second request for Sarah’s (medical) card. My first request was in letter form sent to your place of employment due to mail receipt problems at your home, requesting the cards and also advising you that if you do not comply with my request, I would have to take our daughter to her Pediatrician since birth and you would be responsible for the bill.

You neglected to comply and we know what the outcome is now. If you are not giving up her (medical card) because you have doubts about paternity, might I suggest STRONGLY you have a paternity test done, of course you will have to pay for it.

I know who the father of my daughter is, YOU seem to have some confusion (even though she looks exactly like you,)

Please don’t hassle me on this matter or any other matter we have between us concerning our daughter. All I am requesting from you at this point is her medical card. Thank you. Patricia- Copy sent to Anthony’s attorney and his ex wife. “

SO, apparently on August 25th, the Pediatrician sent a bill of $105.00 to Anthony. Coleen intercepted it. She wrote back to the office- “To Whom It May Concern: You can give this bill to the kids mother. Since she does not know who the father is. ” She signed her first initial and her last name, and she signed Anthony’s first initial and his last name.

The pediatrician’s office received this on 8/30/94 and turned around and sent it to me. I got the letter today. They asked me to respond to” this note from Anthony.”

CRAZY….

The only person who wasn’t at the party yesterday was Anthony. His Mom was there, one of his sisters was there, and my friends and family. It was a great day! Party at the park yesterday and at my sister’s house today, Sarah’s actual birthday.

LOTS of fun!!

Took Sarah to Anthony’s house so he could see her. Second time this month.

TOO much time passes in between though, which I don’t think is good since we only live 20-30 minutes from each other. OH well.

It was good for Sarah to see Anthony, he talked with her, showed her his fishing pool and he helped her pretend fish in the front room. It was cute.

What wasn’t cute was the lines of cocaine on his end table in the front room, so I took it upon myself and blew it off the table, it landed between the couch and the table, an area that Sarah can’t get to.

Of course, Anthony noticed it was gone, and was PISSED! Forget him, I was pissed, why is that stuff around when our daughter was visiting him and she is crawling around! She could have very well crawled to the table and lifted herself up, and gotten the blow on her hands. OMG, the thought of what COULD have happened scared the crap out of me,

I gathered up my daughter and we left.