~This Is My World~

Not sure what that means, LOL, but that’s the ex’s subject matter in her email to Keith this morning at 08:17am.

The first 5 paragraphs are blah blah blah blah blah, more of the same shit, just a different day.

The 6th paragraph, she writes, “(son) hung up on Thomas, gee aren’t you getting yet.”

Just a note here, my son is 6 years old. Her son is 19. My son called to speak to his brother and sister, and this is what happened, his older brother hung up on him.

THIS upset Keith.

She also paid me a compliment! I don’t think she meant to, but she did and it’s one Keith and I agreed with wholeheartedly! She wrote, “You fail as a positive parent, you have not taught anything to our children except to hassle them and forget them for something better…”

Read that again! “For something better” HA! He was a positive parent. It’s just that when one is feels as angry and scorned as she does towards Keith, it’s not surprising she can’t see the positivity he spread. That’s on her.

(piggy backing off the email the ex wrote Keith this morning about “The Place to Be” at 7:17am, I wrote an email to stepson at 7:37 pm.)

Ex wrote, “N hung up on a telephone call from Thomas, gee aren’t you getting yet.”

I wrote:

“N, what’s up with that? hanging up on your brother, despite what you or your mom or anyone else says, biology and DNA confirms that fact, that he is your brother. you mom seems to take joy in you breaking your BROTHER, a 6 year olds heart, while you could “shive a git.”

He called because he wanted to , because he asked to, because he wanted to hear your voice, he misses you and L. you couldn’t even give him the time of day. you couldn’t eve say that you were busy that you couldn’t talk and actually say BYE, no that would be too “human”. that would have meant you had to some compassion. yea, your point was ‘gotten,’ loud and clear. what an ‘adult’ thing to do to a child, how sad that your life been so crappy that you are so full of hate. Unbelievable. Who’s the REAL kid here N? Certainly not Thomas.

You don’t have to accept him, he will surely get over it, he reasoned in his mind that you were rude because you were ‘probably tired from work,” but there is never a reason to be RUDE.

Remember this one work N, KARMA. It has a way of coming back and biting you in the rear end.

Have a good life, rent out a lot of videos.”

J wrote Keith this afternoon at 1:12pm.

The Subject line is: Privacy Rights

She sent it to Keith, twice and to the “other person” she “doesn’t know”.

She writes:

” You have no right to contact my physicians, dentist, orthodontist, or vision providers for any reason.

They have all been advised of your impersonation of me and of the volitale situation. All my accounts have been password protected to further prevent you from calling my doctors.

You are not the patient, not the customer and have no responsibility to those caretakes I choose.

My doctors can and will be changed to other doctors if this should continue. I won’t have to bill your insurance and you will never know who I choose. I don’t care about you taking care of me.

My relationship with my health providers is private, and should you try to gain access to my accounts or records the providers will be sued and so will you.

You have no right to contact my doctors, regarding my billing relationship. No right to change information on my accounts or with my doctors.

Mind your own damn business and take care of yourself. I will make what ever changes I feel necessary for the benefit of myself and L as I choose.

My choice of healthcare is not your business, my choice of pharmacy is not your business. My choice of payments to my healthcare provider is none of your business.

When exactly was the last time I asked you to pay for medical. Take a run around the corner and see if you can catch your own tail.

I take care of L daily, I take her to the doctors, I will continue to do so without asking her for something in return. I-me- not you.

I have removed all information you have given to my personal physicians, and have password protected all my accounts.”

this evening at 9:01pm, J sent this email to someone she doesn’t even know.

She wrote: “You can plainly see that Mr. D has gone wild with anger and hatred towards me. I have no plans of hiring an attorney or going through the court system again.

I do plan on doing what is best for my daughter, regardless of his rules, procedure or otherwise opinion.

Too bad he has so much hatred that he cannot see what is best for our daughter. There are not hidden agendas here, no secret plans to sabotage him, no behind the back maneuvers.

Just plain and simple convenience and low cost medical insurance for our daughter.

Gee, his e-mail should tell you that he just plain hates me. He needs to find peace and you should help him, I have found peace. Peace in my heart that I am telling the truth and standing up for what matters, our daughter. Both my children have seen me stand up for them, and have seen with their own eyes and heard with their own ears what he does and says or better yet does not say.

He can’t see past money to see what our daughter needs, he got too caught up with his new family and forgot about his previous one.

Oh well, change is good and I will make the necessary changes to benefit our daughter, With or Without his consent.

I personally don’t have the time like him and his wife do to become self absorbed in all the meddling they have done with airlines, doctors, dentists, court systems, my old friends, my son’s job, orthodontist, oral surgeons, insurance companies and the internet without my permission.

Last I heard it was a federal offense to investigate with the airlines information that was not entitled to them at all. Just one example of the years of harassment into my personal life, for their enjoyment.

I am done with this conversation, you need to help Mr. D before he has a heart attack and leaves all his children fatherless. Even then I would have to hassle to get Social Security benefits due to his current wife. Whatever their problem is has caused me many years of grief, and cost him the relationship with both N and L. Too bad that he can’t see the importance of the relationship and not the paperwork.

Have a wonderful Thanksgiving, Christmas and Happy New Year. May God Bless you so that you can help Mr. D forgive. I have forgiven and moved on to a very peaceful place where he can’t hurt me anymore. I will protect our children from that same hurt and will continue to be there for them. J”

So, we KNEW that with their son graduating in 2002, the ex would be taking Keith back to court for more support for their daughter. She said as much and she did just that.

We received a copy of the Order/Notice to withhold Income for Child Support today. It had been filed with the court on 9/26/03.

Child Support went up to $560/mo (up from $350) and he pays $50 in arrears from when the increase was retroactive to December 1, 2002, 7 months arrears, and 3 months after their son turned 18. She apparently couldn’t file papers fast enough. Quite frankly, I’m surprised they weren’t filed, the day or the day after he turned 18. ANWAY…

The order reads: “Child support shall be retroactive to Dec. 1, 2002, and shall be paid one=half on the 1st and one-half on the 15th of every moth thereafter until further order of the court or until the child marries, dies, is emancipated, reaches 19, or reaches 18 and is not a full-time high school student residing with a parent, whichever occurs first. Any and all arrearages created by this order shall be paid at the rate of $50 per month, payable one half on the 1st and one half on the 15th of every month, commencing June 1, 2003 and continuing thereafter until paid in full. The payment of child support shall be accomplished by way of wage assignment directed to Respondents employer. Respondent shall be responsible for the direct payment to Petitioner of the child support required by this agreement, when the wage assignment is not in effect. …” blah blah blah.

She signed in May 22, 2003, our son’s 6th birthday. Keith signed it 6/21/03.

SO either this woman knew how support worked, and just wanted to be a jerk to Keith or she really didn’t know how it worked.

She was CONSTANTLY sending Keith letters and emails accusing him of being in contempt for not being current on support, which was bull, because twice a year, she would get an additional check sent to her to make up the difference each month. Keith didn’t have to pay it because it was already being garnished. ANYWAY…

In an email to him from her this morning, she continued complaining about child support. but at the end of her email she dedicated a whole paragraph to me. In this paragraph, or I should say in 7 paragraphs at the end she wrote:

” Lets try this, you must be unable to understand so let me make it perfectly clear to you. If you had kept your nosy wife out of OUR business or OUR children then you would still be paying 200.00 a month for (daughter).

If you had told your wife to stay out of the kids life then they might still want to see you and spend time with you. If you had helped is out financially without us having to ask or plead then you could still be paying 200.00 a month. If you stopped your wife from getting into all our personal business, airlines, doctors, dentists, orthodontists, schools, employers and such then maybe your children would call you or come to see you.

I guess if you want to continue to act like a spoiled brat, continue to have your wife conduct and manage your business, then you paid the price yourself.

If you feel harassment charges are in order bring it on. If you feel you want to continue to ruin the barely there relationship you have with (son) and (daughter) keep going. I warned, asked and tried to reason with you several times over the years, but yet you let your wife screw it all up for you as if you could not do that on your own.

You did all of this and you continue to send crap and sit by the mailbox and computer waiting for more creap because your wife and you have no life, no money and no future.

You are right about one thing. STOP harassing me with your poor math skills and your stupid allegations. 30 days doctor visits, isn’t it enough that you make your daughter have to drive over 70 miles away to see a doctor yet she has to call you or let you know 30 days in advance. WOW what is the point she is 16 and you have lost her too.

You could have done so much more, but what do you expect from a man who cannot even pay child support on time.”

She’s a mess.

My stepdaughter emailed me back today regarding the pics I sent her yesterday. WTH? She writes, “Hello…Well thank for the pictures.. but um I don’t want any e-mail from you i have no need to talk to you and no reason too..so i think my father wanted to send me pictures then he would them on his.. and not on yours.. i appreciate you sending them but iif my fahter wanted me to see pictures of my family .. then he should send them and not YOU! (her name)”

WOW, where did that come from? So I responded.

“Hi (her name), how sweet of you to write. No problem (her name). I will let your “father” know. Your “Father” and I were talking about and thinking of getting time made into other pictures for you and put them in frames and send them to you as a gift, but I am sure you can figure out how to do that. I sent them to you with his blessings, so I will let him know how much you “appreciated” them. Great to hear from you. Take care and enjoy yourself. P”

Absolutely crazy. There was no reason for her to respond this way. Quite frankly, it “sounded” like her mother wrote it. Same syntax.

I was going through pics from Thanksgiving 2002. I emailed about 3 to my stepdaughter, today. I hadn’t really emailed her, didn’t really think anything of it. Things had been going on with my son and I just had him and other things to take care of.

SO, I sent this pics via email, they were of her nephew, her older half sister and their grandpa. Another pic was of her older half brother and their grandpa, and then another pic of her nephew, her grandpa, two of her cousins and her two older siblings. Not a big deal, I thought she would like to see them so I emailed them.

The ex was on a roll and emailed Keith again but at 7:10am, like 3 minutes after her first one.

In this one, the subject was “harassment”, she writes:

“you cannot find the spine to answer my phone calls because your wife has your life in her hands and will not let you do anything without her approval.

I will get what I want here despite what you do.

(daughter) DOES NOT WANT TO MEET AT THE POLICE DEPARTMENT. I DO NOT AGREE.

Choose another location- Denny’s in El Cajon is what (daughter) would like.

I am not agreeing to anything you are telling me or harassing me with.”

WOW, isn’t SHE the pot calling the kettle black. This email AFTER she sends the previous one, LOL….dumb.

She seems to be unraveling. Ex emailed Keith this morning at 7:07 am. She addressed at like this:

” Richard, Dick, Keith, (ex wife #1 name), (ex wife #3 name) and Fat (Me- current wife She always calls me names),

This is so stupid and continues to prove that you don’t have the guts to talk to me.

DO NOT and I repeat DO NOT text message my cell phone or call my cell phone unless it is an emergency. If you continue to text message I will change my numbers all of them and file a report with your police department, El Cajon Police Department and (her city) Police Department.

I can call after 8:30 because you know darn well no one is in bed and if so they are not near a telephone. 8:30 is early for anyone and using my cell phone you know it is me and I guess you don’t have to answer. You are on the phone when I call.

I called on Tuesday evening and you refuse to take the call. You are so spineless. You have to have your wife send my text messages and e-mails because all you can do is hang up the phone.

No we are not in agreement of the ridiculous visitation you have conjoured up. We are not talking about small children or a custody battle here. My court papers don’t say anything about where, when or how she is to get to you for visitation.

You have not reimbursed me for half the transportation costs and are still contempt for back child support.

You have no right to tell me where to pick her up or drop her off.

At this point she won’t be at the police department on the 13th. She will choose another location this evening when she calls you. IF you don’t agree then you are denying yourself visitation.

You have made this so difficult and I would be surprised if she stays or even goes with you.

Today I will be beginning the process of the restraining order against your wife from being any where near our daughter. I am afraid that she will harm (daughter), physically, mentally. She has no rights towards our daughter and cannot make any decisions regarding (daughter).

If you are your wife cause her to be upset, cry or make her angry, hurt her physically, or harass her mentally I will have you arrested and will obtain and restraining order.

You had better stop your crap now. I am warning you and if you feel threatened that is your problem.

I have a plane ticket already purchased to pick her up if you cause her any problems. I am going to protect her from your abuse. You continue to abuse her and harass her as well as myself.

She originally wanted to go to your house but is now becoming more and more scared and afraid of you and your wife.

Keep this up and you will loose.”

My GOD, this shell of a person….