~This Is My World~

Keith son is now 19 years old. Keith continued to carry him on his insurance, but he had made a decision. At 0654am, Keith emailed his son, cc-ing his ex.

“(son’s name),

After hearing from your mother saying that you have no desire to be around me or have anything to do with me, it finally sunk in, after the last email from your mother, when I realized I am not allowed to call your cell phone since I am not allowed to have the number (you have no idea how I tried to get it when the fire’s were going on, I was real concerned for you (sons name) and your safety and well being, and wasn’t able to contact you myself), nor did you feel compelled to contact me at any time telling me you are ok, and am not allowed to call your grandma’s without being threatened with a lawsuit for harassment from your mother (I will send you the email from her if you want) you don’t answer my emails, you don’t send me emails and finally, with your insensitive attitude toward your brother Thomas, (you probably threw his picture away too that was sent you along with the Krispy Kreme card and coupons you were sent), effective Dec 31, 2003, I will not be covering you under (insurance) any longer.

You’re my son and I will always love you, but I finally realize how it is. I see that it is, get wat you can, forget about everything and everyone else, and it is my choice to not support that attitude.

Just like I have always said, you know how to get a hold of me, if and whenever you chose. You’re still welcomed to visit if and whenever you chose. Love you

Dad”

Keith only had to keep his son on his health insurance until his 18th birthday. His ex wife at one time threatened to press contempt charges for Keith keeping his son on his insurance past his 18th birthday. SERIOUSLY?

His ex responded at 0734am, stating that “I can’t add (son) to my insurance until June, Can’t you wait until then so that he continues to have medical coverage?? you are going to cancel wow you are a wonderful father once again. Effective as of when??

At 0739am, his ex responded again:

“No one ever said you could not call (son) on my mom’s phone. Since you put Thomas up to it you must have realized that. did not realize you were home in the middle of the day to help Thomas call. What a poor example of a dad, so I am guessing you will disinherit your daughter on her 18th birthday as well. WOW and you look at yourself everyday in the mirror. Hopefully the rest of your family bows down at your feet.”

Keith wrote her back at 0930am:

“Wait? why wait? you yourself said it was a bad insurance, you hated it, blah blah blah. (son) is an adult. he can look into getting insurance through his employer, or through (our insurance) on an individual plan. No, my open season is now, the note I sent said effective when, learn to comprehend what you are reading. It said, “effective Dec 31, 2003.

I have not written him off, like he has done me, a long time prior to my decision. I carried him for a little more than a year, past his 18th birthday, without so much as a thank you or any kind of acknowledgement of any kind, but instead with attitude and animosity, and demands. I have the emails from earlier this year from him proving that.

It is time for him to start making adult decisions about his health care, or you shouldn’t have jumped the gun and taken him off yours. You said your insurance pays about 70% here in CA, beats nothing. Keith”

At 1049am the ex wrote back, “Richard, All matters regarding (son) and insurance are resolved. Something better was not your wife at all yuck. But was that the older children are replaced with new children. You just move on and leave the others behind. (daughter is doing fine by the way and thanks for asking.”

Keith responded to his ex and his son at 1158am advising them the steps his son can take to inquire about other insurance coverage through his current company. He also told them, “Your threats of a lawsuit on Jan. 131th, and his email to me April 2nd, 2003 where he asked me “to never email him again” and telling me he “was tired of MY bullshit and half truths and lying and unnecessary stress” and then him hanging up on his half brother the other night, was the last straw. He can go about his medical insurance on his own or through you.”

His ex is under the impression COBRA is available to his son, but it isn’t. Our insurance doesn’t offer COBRA. Plain and Simple.

after 9 solid years of harassment from her, A COMPLIMENT! She gave ME a compliment! I’m sure she didn’t mean to, but she did and I couldn’t let it go, I had to thank her!

I wrote her this afternoon at 3:52pm, and CC’d Keith. I wrote: “for something better”? LMAO, WOW, I have to say that this is the FIRST compliment I think you have ever given me, too bad it was the expense of your own children. Keith thinks I’m somethin’ pretty special too! I KNEW you always liked me deep down 🙂 really though, no one is better than anyone else, we are all equals, but thanks for the compliment!”

Not sure what that means, LOL, but that’s the ex’s subject matter in her email to Keith this morning at 08:17am.

The first 5 paragraphs are blah blah blah blah blah, more of the same shit, just a different day.

The 6th paragraph, she writes, “(son) hung up on Thomas, gee aren’t you getting yet.”

Just a note here, my son is 6 years old. Her son is 19. My son called to speak to his brother and sister, and this is what happened, his older brother hung up on him.

THIS upset Keith.

She also paid me a compliment! I don’t think she meant to, but she did and it’s one Keith and I agreed with wholeheartedly! She wrote, “You fail as a positive parent, you have not taught anything to our children except to hassle them and forget them for something better…”

Read that again! “For something better” HA! He was a positive parent. It’s just that when one is feels as angry and scorned as she does towards Keith, it’s not surprising she can’t see the positivity he spread. That’s on her.

(piggy backing off the email the ex wrote Keith this morning about “The Place to Be” at 7:17am, I wrote an email to stepson at 7:37 pm.)

Ex wrote, “N hung up on a telephone call from Thomas, gee aren’t you getting yet.”

I wrote:

“N, what’s up with that? hanging up on your brother, despite what you or your mom or anyone else says, biology and DNA confirms that fact, that he is your brother. you mom seems to take joy in you breaking your BROTHER, a 6 year olds heart, while you could “shive a git.”

He called because he wanted to , because he asked to, because he wanted to hear your voice, he misses you and L. you couldn’t even give him the time of day. you couldn’t eve say that you were busy that you couldn’t talk and actually say BYE, no that would be too “human”. that would have meant you had to some compassion. yea, your point was ‘gotten,’ loud and clear. what an ‘adult’ thing to do to a child, how sad that your life been so crappy that you are so full of hate. Unbelievable. Who’s the REAL kid here N? Certainly not Thomas.

You don’t have to accept him, he will surely get over it, he reasoned in his mind that you were rude because you were ‘probably tired from work,” but there is never a reason to be RUDE.

Remember this one work N, KARMA. It has a way of coming back and biting you in the rear end.

Have a good life, rent out a lot of videos.”

J wrote Keith this afternoon at 1:12pm.

The Subject line is: Privacy Rights

She sent it to Keith, twice and to the “other person” she “doesn’t know”.

She writes:

” You have no right to contact my physicians, dentist, orthodontist, or vision providers for any reason.

They have all been advised of your impersonation of me and of the volitale situation. All my accounts have been password protected to further prevent you from calling my doctors.

You are not the patient, not the customer and have no responsibility to those caretakes I choose.

My doctors can and will be changed to other doctors if this should continue. I won’t have to bill your insurance and you will never know who I choose. I don’t care about you taking care of me.

My relationship with my health providers is private, and should you try to gain access to my accounts or records the providers will be sued and so will you.

You have no right to contact my doctors, regarding my billing relationship. No right to change information on my accounts or with my doctors.

Mind your own damn business and take care of yourself. I will make what ever changes I feel necessary for the benefit of myself and L as I choose.

My choice of healthcare is not your business, my choice of pharmacy is not your business. My choice of payments to my healthcare provider is none of your business.

When exactly was the last time I asked you to pay for medical. Take a run around the corner and see if you can catch your own tail.

I take care of L daily, I take her to the doctors, I will continue to do so without asking her for something in return. I-me- not you.

I have removed all information you have given to my personal physicians, and have password protected all my accounts.”

this evening at 9:01pm, J sent this email to someone she doesn’t even know.

She wrote: “You can plainly see that Mr. D has gone wild with anger and hatred towards me. I have no plans of hiring an attorney or going through the court system again.

I do plan on doing what is best for my daughter, regardless of his rules, procedure or otherwise opinion.

Too bad he has so much hatred that he cannot see what is best for our daughter. There are not hidden agendas here, no secret plans to sabotage him, no behind the back maneuvers.

Just plain and simple convenience and low cost medical insurance for our daughter.

Gee, his e-mail should tell you that he just plain hates me. He needs to find peace and you should help him, I have found peace. Peace in my heart that I am telling the truth and standing up for what matters, our daughter. Both my children have seen me stand up for them, and have seen with their own eyes and heard with their own ears what he does and says or better yet does not say.

He can’t see past money to see what our daughter needs, he got too caught up with his new family and forgot about his previous one.

Oh well, change is good and I will make the necessary changes to benefit our daughter, With or Without his consent.

I personally don’t have the time like him and his wife do to become self absorbed in all the meddling they have done with airlines, doctors, dentists, court systems, my old friends, my son’s job, orthodontist, oral surgeons, insurance companies and the internet without my permission.

Last I heard it was a federal offense to investigate with the airlines information that was not entitled to them at all. Just one example of the years of harassment into my personal life, for their enjoyment.

I am done with this conversation, you need to help Mr. D before he has a heart attack and leaves all his children fatherless. Even then I would have to hassle to get Social Security benefits due to his current wife. Whatever their problem is has caused me many years of grief, and cost him the relationship with both N and L. Too bad that he can’t see the importance of the relationship and not the paperwork.

Have a wonderful Thanksgiving, Christmas and Happy New Year. May God Bless you so that you can help Mr. D forgive. I have forgiven and moved on to a very peaceful place where he can’t hurt me anymore. I will protect our children from that same hurt and will continue to be there for them. J”

So, we KNEW that with their son graduating in 2002, the ex would be taking Keith back to court for more support for their daughter. She said as much and she did just that.

We received a copy of the Order/Notice to withhold Income for Child Support today. It had been filed with the court on 9/26/03.

Child Support went up to $560/mo (up from $350) and he pays $50 in arrears from when the increase was retroactive to December 1, 2002, 7 months arrears, and 3 months after their son turned 18. She apparently couldn’t file papers fast enough. Quite frankly, I’m surprised they weren’t filed, the day or the day after he turned 18. ANWAY…

The order reads: “Child support shall be retroactive to Dec. 1, 2002, and shall be paid one=half on the 1st and one-half on the 15th of every moth thereafter until further order of the court or until the child marries, dies, is emancipated, reaches 19, or reaches 18 and is not a full-time high school student residing with a parent, whichever occurs first. Any and all arrearages created by this order shall be paid at the rate of $50 per month, payable one half on the 1st and one half on the 15th of every month, commencing June 1, 2003 and continuing thereafter until paid in full. The payment of child support shall be accomplished by way of wage assignment directed to Respondents employer. Respondent shall be responsible for the direct payment to Petitioner of the child support required by this agreement, when the wage assignment is not in effect. …” blah blah blah.

She signed in May 22, 2003, our son’s 6th birthday. Keith signed it 6/21/03.

SO either this woman knew how support worked, and just wanted to be a jerk to Keith or she really didn’t know how it worked.

She was CONSTANTLY sending Keith letters and emails accusing him of being in contempt for not being current on support, which was bull, because twice a year, she would get an additional check sent to her to make up the difference each month. Keith didn’t have to pay it because it was already being garnished. ANYWAY…

In an email to him from her this morning, she continued complaining about child support. but at the end of her email she dedicated a whole paragraph to me. In this paragraph, or I should say in 7 paragraphs at the end she wrote:

” Lets try this, you must be unable to understand so let me make it perfectly clear to you. If you had kept your nosy wife out of OUR business or OUR children then you would still be paying 200.00 a month for (daughter).

If you had told your wife to stay out of the kids life then they might still want to see you and spend time with you. If you had helped is out financially without us having to ask or plead then you could still be paying 200.00 a month. If you stopped your wife from getting into all our personal business, airlines, doctors, dentists, orthodontists, schools, employers and such then maybe your children would call you or come to see you.

I guess if you want to continue to act like a spoiled brat, continue to have your wife conduct and manage your business, then you paid the price yourself.

If you feel harassment charges are in order bring it on. If you feel you want to continue to ruin the barely there relationship you have with (son) and (daughter) keep going. I warned, asked and tried to reason with you several times over the years, but yet you let your wife screw it all up for you as if you could not do that on your own.

You did all of this and you continue to send crap and sit by the mailbox and computer waiting for more creap because your wife and you have no life, no money and no future.

You are right about one thing. STOP harassing me with your poor math skills and your stupid allegations. 30 days doctor visits, isn’t it enough that you make your daughter have to drive over 70 miles away to see a doctor yet she has to call you or let you know 30 days in advance. WOW what is the point she is 16 and you have lost her too.

You could have done so much more, but what do you expect from a man who cannot even pay child support on time.”

She’s a mess.

My stepdaughter emailed me back today regarding the pics I sent her yesterday. WTH? She writes, “Hello…Well thank for the pictures.. but um I don’t want any e-mail from you i have no need to talk to you and no reason too..so i think my father wanted to send me pictures then he would them on his.. and not on yours.. i appreciate you sending them but iif my fahter wanted me to see pictures of my family .. then he should send them and not YOU! (her name)”

WOW, where did that come from? So I responded.

“Hi (her name), how sweet of you to write. No problem (her name). I will let your “father” know. Your “Father” and I were talking about and thinking of getting time made into other pictures for you and put them in frames and send them to you as a gift, but I am sure you can figure out how to do that. I sent them to you with his blessings, so I will let him know how much you “appreciated” them. Great to hear from you. Take care and enjoy yourself. P”

Absolutely crazy. There was no reason for her to respond this way. Quite frankly, it “sounded” like her mother wrote it. Same syntax.

I was going through pics from Thanksgiving 2002. I emailed about 3 to my stepdaughter, today. I hadn’t really emailed her, didn’t really think anything of it. Things had been going on with my son and I just had him and other things to take care of.

SO, I sent this pics via email, they were of her nephew, her older half sister and their grandpa. Another pic was of her older half brother and their grandpa, and then another pic of her nephew, her grandpa, two of her cousins and her two older siblings. Not a big deal, I thought she would like to see them so I emailed them.