Author: Patricia

SOS different day, or night.

The ex e-mailed Keith at 1928. Funny how that works. She e-mailed him at his two email addresses.

She’s demanding and accusing him again of more insurance stuff that he already dealt with.

Of course she throws in there, “Due to privacy laws in place I am not and will not call to request a card for (daughter) you have to.” what BS. She has called and requested cards before. In fact, we were told at one point that she requested to have her daughters stuff mailed to her, and NOT to Keith, who is the Insured. She wanted to bypass Keith. So she CAN call to request things, they just won’t be delivered to HER like she wanted.

She also added, I have alerted all our medical, dental and vision as well as pharmacy that I will file a complaint against them for allowing other persons than (daughter’s) parents access to her information or allowing them to even call and inquire or give information. The only persons allowed to gain information according to the new privacy laws are (daughter’s) parent’s. Not step- parents.”

LMAO, I can call our insurance and inquire the status of something, and if I have questions regarding an EOB, I can call our insurance about that too.

The thing is, the ex causes issues with the insurance when she pays for things upfront and then waits to bill or bills incorrectly, and then claims get AFU, and I happen to find this stuff out and work claims until they are processed correctly. She HATES THAT. Oh well…I’m not changing the way I deal with claims.

(Sent to Stepkids, my sisters and our dad at 8:04pm)

“Hello…

I hope this finds you all good!

Ok, so, I took Thomas to the doctors this morning…in Whittier. What a travel! We BARELY got there on time, and then we were there for awhile and got home just in time to get him ready for school and leave again.

Anyway…His stool test results were back. No parasites thank goodness, but there is some blood, though not a lot. She was not sure exactly where it is coming from, so I will be calling the GI doctor tomorrow, since we haven’t heard from them yet from the referral she sent. She said that it may be that because he goes so much, he may have little tears.

She said definitely no more MOM/MO combo, which he stopped awhile ago, anyway, and she said no more milk or cheese until further notice. Cutting that you now for these last two weeks has seemed to help too, but poor guy hasn’t been happy camper about that.

SO, we need to searxh for some milk free products, soy milk, etc… and he has to eat a salad every single night, so I need to find some milk free Ranch dressing…YUM…

Other than that, he is healthy. He did lose 1 1/2 pounds though. 2 weeks ago, he was 50 1/2 pounds. today he was 49, so we are going to watch that too.

I will keep you updated on this when we take him to the GI doctor. Keep him in your prayers…Thanks! P~”

(email to my sister, stepdaughter and her grandmother at 12:57pm)

“The other day, Keith was at work, and Thomas and I were here. He was watching blues clues on tv and I was making him his lunch. I was putting some ketchup on his hot dogs and the ketchup container made a “farting” noise, because it is almost gone. Thomas heard the noise from the kitchen and said, “DAD???” LMBO!!! He said it sounded like Keith/Dad farting and he thought Keith/Dad stopped by!

I CRACKED UP! I had forgotten about it until just a few minutes ago, when Keith/Dad asked me if we had any ketchup to go with the meatloaf we are having! LMBO!!!!!

Too funny!!!!! Keith said this morning, “That’s my boy!” LOL! Oh man, I will be laughing over this all day now! PRICELESS!

P~”

(sent stepkids and other family members an email at 9:53am this morning)

“Good Morning!

Wednesday night, Thomas had real bad stomach cramps again, and the runs real bad. Thursday morning, Keith and I took Thomas to the doctors, and they are going to start testing him to see what is the problem. He has to stay off Milk and Cheese for 2 weeks (needless to say he is NOT happy about that!) and we have to take stool samples for 3 days. The Doctor we saw Thursday, (actually a Nurse Practitioner that he has seen before) is sending a referral to a gastroenterologist so he can been seen by them as well. Hopefully it all gets taken care of real soon. Keith said Johnny had very similar problems when he was a kid, and it was due to an under developed pancreas, so we shall see.

Thomas knew on Thursday that he was going to be “Star Student” in his class so he really wanted to go to school, but there was no way to send him. He kind of forgot about it as the day went on, especially when we got home from the doctors, but when I picked him up yesterday from school, he had his “Star Student” star pinned on him! He was REALLY happy! He said he was star student yesterday because he “was absent” on the day before.

Other than this, we are all good here. Hope the same for you!! Lots of love, P~”

The ex called at 12:32 pm.

P- Hello?

J- Is Keith there?

P- He’s helping Thomas

J- K, can I talk to him?

P- can I have him call you back, when he’s done with Thomas?

J- I’m not going to be here

P- ok, well, he’ll call you back or email you.

J- can I talk to Keith?

P- (more assertive) He’s helping our son.

J- hung up.

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SO, remember when the ex told Keith she wasn’t accepting any email, letters send via US postal service, etc? Remember, she emailed me in February, and he responded by email. Suddenly, it is now March, the 6 to be exact, and she has an issue with it, LOL

“I requested that you not e-mail me or send me mail regarding (daughter). Don’t you get it or not?? I don’t believe it is you that I am receiving e-mails from or getting mail from. Do you think I am stupid.

Can’t you pick up a telephone and call if you have a concern or question/ Must be that your hands are tied.”

She blathers on then says, “You are refusing visitation for Spring break after you have been offered in the timeframe specified on court papers, which now makes it that she does not have to spend an extra week at summer. ” (He didn’t refuse visitation. )

The ex was badgering him about a bill that hasn’t come to fruition, about the cost of a ring their daughter wanted (class ring) and she, the ex put $50 as a deposit, and the balance is due within 2 months. Then she has to get her dig in. She wrote, ” if you think we should have taken the 59.95 because you don’t think it is important or cost too much then maybe you should eat at home more often. Maybe you should cut back on clothing purchases and eating at fast food places. Maybe an additional job would help support your family and (daughter) too.”

It seems she forgets that I do work, to make up for the money he has to pay out in child support, and help US survive.

Then she goes on to say, “Don’t pay that’s fine and that would be why (son) has such hard feelings. Don’t offer to help with anything I will just get it in court ordered support and garnish your wages. Better yet, quit your job and then no one gets anything. I am sick of you whining about much money (daughter and son) costs. Raising kids is not running a business like I have told you many times. I do not make a profit here. I raise kids so that they can have a better life than I ever did.”

One thing Keith has always stood by was that if the kids wanted his help, THEY had a voice, THEY need to ask him, especially as they got older. HER version of the story goes like this, “I tell you an amount of money something costs, with no proof, and you just trust me and send me the money I tell you.” Um no. That’s not how he does things. If he were to help with his son’s auto insurance, he wants a monthly statement, or the information so he can make a payment directly. If he is not provided that information, he’s not just sending money. SHE didn’t want him to have that information, saying he was not entitled to it, he should just PAY based on her word. How CRAZY is that? THAT kind of TRUST is not there, but ANY stretch of the imagination, and CLEARLY, she raised the kids to say NOTHING, to not speak for themselves. SAD. A

Anyway, she continues her rant by saying, “Scrimp on your lifestyle and make your kids wear second hand clothes, we do. Fix dinner at home, buy groceries and plan meals, cut back on your technical and electronic toys.

Get a second job, whatever it takes to make our children happy.

I don’t care if you suffer or go with out I have for years.

whine to me again about money and see where it will get you….I will sacrifice my style of living to see that she gets what she wants. Too bad you are so selfish and ungiving.

Send me more letters and I will refuse them- send checks or cash to (daughter) or directly to the people you owe money too.

Get it finally. Should you need to respond to this e-mail be glad to hear from you on the telephone.

Do you get it now, quit wasting everyone’s time.”

OH, but she can email HIM when the whim hits her. Goddamn this woman is hateful, spiteful and evil.

(sent stepkids and other family an email this morning at 10:33am)

“Good morning! Thomas has a doctor’s appointment this morning to have his ears checked. He has another ear infection a couple weeks ago, and his pediatrician referred him to his ENT doctor for a check up. This is probably his 2nd or 3rd ear infection in about 2.5 yrs.

His ENT doc said that his let ear looks pretty good, but his right ear has some fluid. 😦

Doc said that he wants to see him back in 4 weeks, for another check up, because sometimes the body will take care of itself, and he will also schedule a hearing test for that time to see if Thomas has any hearing loss.

Doc said it is possible that he may need to have tubes put in his ears again, but his next appointment in 4 weeks, we will know more. I will keep you posted. Love you all, P~”

Keith responded to his son’s email from yesterday afternoon. He wrote, “(Son’s name), I am always in a good mood, thanks for asking. I have had things on my mind, woried about grandpa and his physical problems HE has right now, and thinking about my uncle that just died recently suddenly from a sudden stroke, and my niece, your cousin, who has been diagnosed with (her dx) and in the same breath, I get a sarcastic hate filled email from you (son’s name), and yeah, I cussed, and I apologixe and I am not perfect (son’s name) BUT I am forgiven. DO NOT EVER question my faith or belief again. I forgive you (son’s name) but have you accepted the Lord into YOUR heart? If you haven’t, you need to, as time is running out. Open up that Bible I bought you a couple years ago, and read the gospel of John to better understand what I am talking about.

If this is really you writing me, maybe you have forgotten that I had started sending you information on the insurance since Dec. 9th, 2002. Maybe you have forgotten that the insurance didn’t go into effect until Jan. 11, 2003. Maybe you have forgotten that I had been asking you if you had received any information being mailed to you regularly, and you couldn’t even answer me. Maybe you forgot that the first email I even received from you about the insurance was Jan. 31st. Guess that all means nothing though, huh? By the way, you’re welcome.

Adult conversation (son’s name)? What exactly is that to you? You have never answered ANY of my questions concerning your life. You have never even answered the emails I sent when I was sending you scholarship forms before you graduated. Not even a “thanks Dad for trying to help and thinkin of me.” Why? I guess you couldn’t be bothered.

The emails I have gotten from you since Jan. 31, 2003 is the MOST I have heard from you or “talked” to you since you left here in August of 2001.

Hopefully, you will re read some of those emails I sent you, and answer some of those questions if you want to have an adult conversation. I will continue to pray for you every day and I love you and you are right, when God misses you, do do die, and sometimes all of a sudden and without warning, in the twinkling of an eye. Dad”

I feel bad for both Keith and his daughter, at this point. Neither one knows whether they are coming or going. What a mind fuck this lady has done to them. To ME, this is emotional abuse, let alone, psychological abuse, mental abuse. DAMN.

ANYWAY, Keith wrote his daughter and cc’d his ex at 0530 this morning. He told his daughter, “Good morning, just a note to say I love you and hope you have a good day.

Obviously you having to decide about spring break causes you a lot of stress, so let me make it easy for you.

Don’t come. Obviously you are having issues about being here so maybe it is best for your to stay home and them work out as best you can, in between your “plans” with your mom. The person that makes the ultimate decision as to whether you come or not HAS decided, and it is not fair to you, but that is the way it is. I am not longer planning on you being here and I am not going to take the time off work, and no one else will be home.

We miss you, including Pat and Sarah so we will see you in the summer. Love Dad. “

SO sad for both Keith and his daughter to be put in that position. His daughter being too stressed to make a decision, and Keith for not being able to see his daughter AND son for that matter without ANY hassles. Also because HE had to make the decision for his daughter, to not come.

His ex got what she wanted, but more importantly, Keith thought of the obvious anguish his daughter was feeling.

DAMN….

So, stepdaughter e-mailed her dad, ( AND her mother) at 1918, saying that since the court date changed by spring break, she can’t decide if she should go or not. She said this court thing is kind of upsetting her and making her feel like she is the one who is causing all the trouble, that hopefully it isn’t. She tells him she is in the middle of everything, and it’s making her mad she is the one who has to deal with her parents going to court over something that should just be able to work out on the phone. She doesn’t understand any of this court thing and she tries not to let it upset her so badly.

How sad is that? Keith doesn’t talk to her about this shit. She hears it from her mother.

Keith responded to her at 1925 and resent it at 2100 since she had also sent it to her mother. He responded to her by telling her that he doesn’t know what she was talking about, the court date being changed by spring break, that the court date has nothing to do with visitation. He told her he thought she had decided she would be coming, back in January. He told her he was sorry the court thing is upsetting her, that he has asked her mom not to discuss it with her. He told her she shouldn’t be the one to deal with this and that he was sorry she was put in the middle. He asked if she had asked her mom, TOLD her mom not to discuss it with her or put her in the middle. He told her he was sorry it upsets her, that he loves her.

Even though she had sent the email to both her parents, and Keith responded to both of them, his daughter wrote him and told HIM that he needs to stop sending his e-mails between him and her mom, because she can’t take their arguments anymore…it makes her upset so just stop PLEASE. she wrote that unless it concerns her then she doesn’t want it to be sent to her, thanks.

Keith responded, “no problem. your mom is the one that said visitation is strictly up to you , and that you are the one deciding and since it is your decision, you are to make the plans. I was just following what she says. Sorry, Dad.”

GEEZUS….

Really? Coming from her? That is RICH!

Her email from this morning at 0657am subject being, “What we are saying is…”

She writes, “Give peace a chance.

HA! Take your own advice. HA HA! That is funny considering your email to me from Feb 3rd about not accepting email from me, then you turn around and email on Feb 7th and again on the 17th.

(Daughter) is trying to tell you that she is uncomfortable going to your house while we are unable to compromise. The court date is too close to Spring Break. I had hoped this matter would be resolved before she visited. This goes and went for Christmas break too.

Uncomfortable coming here huh? Is that why you wrote that she has a good time and enjoyed herself when she was here at Christmas? I can’t imagine how she feels living with you. The court date and spring break have nothing to do with each other. Unable to compromise? YOU said on Jan. 5th, the decision was all hers. SHE said on Jan. 28th she decided to come out. Compromise? What goes and went for Christmas break too? What Christmas? I was denied my Christmas with the kids in 2001, and conveniently, got (daughter) for a week in 2002. Saving face are you? Knowing you planned it that way? Just so you can say, “but judge, the kids did go see their dad when it was MY turn, doesn’t that mean anything?” That is so obvious.

She feels and thinks you and your wife will treat her badly, ask her to many questions and hold all this against her. What she is trying to explain is that she does not want it to effect her visit.

It seems that’s what you have put in her head. She was never treated badly and she has never been asked “to many questions”. I don’t have the insatiable need to call her home phone or now cell phone 3, 4, 5, 6 times a day to check in and have her give a low down as to what is going on while she is with you, like you do when she is with me. In other words, spy. I have nothing to hide, but it is comical to see in action. I don’t hold anything against her. Never have, never will. That is another fallacy you are planting in her head. I never said the court would affect her visit. Seems you are the one doing a lot of mouthing off. Seems your constant jabber to her and (son) of all your ill feelings towards me and court, etc. have taken and are taking a toll.

What she is trying to say is that she does not want any e-mails between us because your wife (and we all know this) is sending them. She wants us, her dad and her mom ONLY to work things out nicely. Without outside interference.

YOU are the one that said she is the one to decide visitation. It was all her decision you said, so SHE has to make the arrangements. YOU have been saying this for many, many years now, despite court orders. SO, I have followed YOUR orders, and included her in the emails discussing spring break visitation. After all, you have included her (and son, AND your mom) in emails not related to anything court ordered. I am a big boy. I am not illiterate. I write my own emails, every one of them.

I told her the decision to visit is hers. However she has until the 21st of this month to make the decision. I will begin the search for airfare as soon as she decides.

You told me the decision was hers to. In fact, you gave me your “official notice” on Jan. 5th regarding this. SHE made the decision on Jan. 28th, and now YOU are the one with the problem. YOU are the one that has her doubting her decision because of all the little seeds of doubt you planted. SO make up YOUR mind. Seems her mind was already made up. You love giving that “false power” to her don’t ya? You love say, “her decision so she can make the arrangements” and then rip it from her. Wow, how “special” you are, NOT.

I don’t want her treated differently or badly because of court proceedings. Ultimately I get to say what happens as far as it being my week. I have never taken a week since 1995 due to the fact that the kids never wanted to stay at your house for 6 weeks. I did and do what my kids want. I speak for them, fight for them and take care of them.

Oh please, you have proven over and over again, that the only agenda you have is NOT for the kids, it is all about you, and YOUR need for control. You love giving the kids a false empowerment, making them think they actually have a say in their life, and then rip it from them. You prove it here yet again, “ultimately” you get to say what happens as far as it being your week. You spoke on Jan. 5th. YOU went as far as to say, “if (daughter) wants to spend her spring break with you, she can” SHE spoke on Jan.28th, SHE decided she was coming out, and you revoked it on Feb. 17th. NOW you say you did and do what “your” kids want? HA HA HA! Thanks for the laugh. 1995? What? In 1995, you refused to discuss or enter into a parenting plan in 1995, and it was December of 1995 at that, so what are you talking abut since then you haven’t taken a week due to the fact that the kids never wanted to stay at my house for 6 weeks? Staying 6 weeks at my house wasn’t even discussed in 1995. Get your facts straight.

She does not want the hassles actually none of us do.”

Right, that’s why you keep this up huh? You love this. You are going to do exactly what you always do, read this and tell (daughter) all about it, (daughter), (son), your mom, and all the other outside interferences you go to. YOU LOVE causing hassles. Keith”

To Keith, this email from his ex read like this: ” (daughter) is trying to tell you that I am uncomfortable with her going to your house while I am unable to compromise with you. The court date is too close to spring break and I am glad it isn’t resolved. I was also glad you only got the visitation you did at Christmas. I feel and think that you and your wife will treat her badly, and I am telling her that. I am putting that in her head. I am also telling her that you will be nosy, your wife will be nosy and you both will use it against her. I am telling her as I have told all these years that the emails are coming from your wife, because I don’t like your wife and I won’t allow your wife and (my daughter) to forge their own relationship because I am jealous. I will begin the search for airfare as soon as I decide whether she can visit or not because, after all, I have all the ultimate say so. I never wanted the kids to spend court ordered visitation with you, so I was not agreeable to anything you sent. I told the kids when and for how long they would visit with you.”

THAT is how her email read to Keith. THAT is how the ex has been since day 1. He nearly told her that much in his response. He wrote her back at 1426. What he wrote is above in bold orange.